Understanding Control in Relationship with Dr. Tom Murray
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
Release Date: 09/18/2024
Keeping the Spark Alive Beyond the Honeymoon Stage with Jason and Tina Marie Scott
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with relationship coaches, podcast hosts, and longtime partners Jason and Tina Marie Scott. We explore what it really takes to keep love alive beyond the honeymoon stage—and how a thriving relationship is built not on perfection, but on presence, communication, and intentional care. During this conversation, Jason and Tina Marie discuss the foundation of friendship in their 33-year marriage, how they’ve redefined traditional roles in their partnership, and why self-awareness is key to lasting intimacy. Along the way, they share their...
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Kinks, Fetishes, and Boundaries: A Deep Dive with Miss Em
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Dominatrix and kink educator Miss. Em, who brings over 20 years of experience in the world of BDSM, fetishes, and power dynamics. Hear about how her early curiosity around taboo desires became a calling—and how she uses passion, presence, and emotional intelligence to create safe, transformative experiences. During this conversation, Miss. Em shares her insights on everything from the origins of fetish and submission to the importance of aftercare and the art of psychological play. We explore how kink isn’t always about sex—and...
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Tools to Make Sex Talks Easy with Dr. Evelin Dacker
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sexologist and Educator Dr. Evelin Molina Dacker about the power of open conversations around sexual health at every stage of life. She gets real about her own journey—breaking free from societal expectations and redefining what pleasure looks like, especially through menopause. During this conversation, Dr. Eveline shares her simple but powerful STARS framework to help guide open and shame-free discussions around intimacy. We discuss how this tool can help anyone—whether single or partnered—navigate important conversations about...
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Fantasies, Secrets & Good Sex with Dr. Toni Bear
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist and intimacy expert Dr. Toni Baer. We dive into sexual identity, fantasies, and the power of secrets in relationships. Dr. Toni shares how her personal journey—from high school teacher to sexologist—was shaped by a deeply personal family tragedy that ignited her passion for helping others embrace their desires and navigate sexual identity. Along the way, we explore common sexual fantasies, why some are better left unspoken, and how privacy and consent shape intimate conversations. Dr. Toni also reveals how secrets can...
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Unpacking Jealousy & Pleasure with Ken Blackman
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with international Sex and Intimacy Educator and Relationship Coach, Ken Blackman. In this conversation, we dive deep into the nuance of jealousy and how it appears in relationships, exploring the different types of jealousy that can uniquely affect intimate connections. We also touch upon the transformative power of identifying different relationship motivations and how understanding these can shift things from transactional interactions to passionate partnerships. Along the way, Ken shares his inspiring story from being an Apple software...
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Flirting and the Feminine with Coco Williams
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Certified Bondassage Trainer, Entrepreneur & Coach, Coco Williams who dives deep with us into the power of feminine energy, the art of flirting, and the journey of personal growth and healing. We talk about how subtle shifts in communication can significantly affect our interactions and relationships and the ways flirting can elevate your mood and energy while also exploring the nuances of flirting across different cultures and the cultural fears around it. Along the way, Coco opens up about her healing journey, including...
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Navigating Sexual Communication with Tallulah Sulis
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sex Educator, Somatic Sex Therapist and Female Ejaculation Expert, Tallulah Sulis about empowering female sexuality, fostering better communication, and enhancing intimacy in relationships. As we talk, Tallulah shares a bit of her journey into somatic coaching as she learned the deep importance of nervous system regulation and discovered the concept of core erotic desires to deepen connection. Along the way, we chat about the value of slow seduction, the dynamics of initiating and responding partners, and how open, reciprocal...
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The Neuroscience of Pleasure & Happiness with Dr. Nan Wise
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I speak with the brilliant Neuroscientist, Best-Selling Author, Sex Therapist, & Licensed Psychotherapist Dr. Nan Wise. During this conversation, we dive into the fascinating and transformative topic of "The Neuroscience of Pleasure and Happiness," uncovering how our brains are beautifully designed for connection, joy, and emotional well-being. Along the way, Dr. Wise shares her inspiring journey from therapist to scientist, sparked by her deep curiosity about the powerful impact of pleasure on mental and emotional health. We also...
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From Conservative Roots to Liberated Lifestyle with Ayce Kypton
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
In this episode, I sit down with Certified Erotic Blueprints Coach and Somatic Sexological Bodyworker Ayce Kypton. Ayce shares his inspiring journey from growing up as a conservative, Republican Christian kid to living an erotically liberated lifestyle as a trans-masculine individual. Together, we explore his passion for somatic embodiment and reclaiming pleasure. Along the way, we dive into the importance of creating safe spaces—especially for LGBTQ individuals—to reconnect with their desires and express their needs openly. Ayce opens up about his personal journey of sexual...
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What is Relationship Anarchy? A conversation with Annie Boheler
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with holistic mental health pioneer, Annie Boheler. Annie introduces us to the concept of relationship anarchy– a uniquely refreshing approach to relationships that balances chaos and order, recognizing the full range of connections equally. Hear about the influence of drawing from her extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration. Annie’s extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration influences how she views the range...
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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sex Therapist Dr. Tom Murray to explore this question as well as pornography trends, erotophobia and different control dynamics as they play out within relationships .
Along the way, hear more of Dr. Tom’s story of becoming a sex therapist including time spent with pornography distribution giving him an insider’s view to the industry. Besides exploring the relationship between societal norms, expectations, fantasies and desires, we take a deep dive into control dynamics, namely over-controlling, in relationships, a topic he writes about in his book, “Making Nice with Naughty: An Intimacy Guide.” Dr. Murray gives some ways to bring more playfulness into the bedroom to deepen intimacy and of course, have better sex.
Connect with Dr Tom
The Book Making Nice with Naughty https://drtommurray.com/books/
Making Nice with Naughty Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC78viRgDA05daSGFVD4QoPg
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