Fierce and Tender Masculinity with Dene Sebastiana
The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
Release Date: 10/27/2025
The Better Man: Redefining Masculinity and Sex with Dr. Eric Fitz Medrude
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Fierce and Tender Masculinity with Dene Sebastiana
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info_outlineIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with elder, teacher, author, and longtime men’s work facilitator Dene Maria Sebastiana, author of Fierce & Tender: Healing the Deep Masculine. We explore what really happens inside men’s circles—and why emotional maturity, vulnerability, and deep male connection are essential for better sex and healthier relationships.
Dene shares his journey from growing up in a hyper-masculine world to leading transformational circles across the U.S. and Mexico. He talks about the power of integrating both the fierce and the tender—the masculine and feminine energies within all of us—and how that integration shapes intimacy, partnership, and personal growth.
This conversation is grounded, heart-centered, and full of insight—a reminder that healing the masculine isn’t abstract. It’s embodied, relational, and deeply human.
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Website: https://www.denemariasebastiana.com/
Book Fierce & Tender: Healing The Deep Masculine https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09XSSBGXP
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