The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations
Sit down with Tantra teacher and professional Dominatrix Deborah Kat as she interviews experts in sex, intimacy and relationship. These rich and dynamic conversations share each guest's wisdom, caution and encouragement to support you to have the Better Sex you crave!
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Relational Leadership: Transforming Love Without Your Partner with Dr. Jeni Wahlig
09/04/2025
Relational Leadership: Transforming Love Without Your Partner with Dr. Jeni Wahlig
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sex and relationship coach, Dr. Jeni Wahlig, co-founder of Powerful Love Relationships and creator of the Powerful Love Method. Together we explore how to create “next level love” through radical self-leadership—even when your partner isn’t ready or willing to do the work. In this conversation, we dive into Jeni’s Awareness → Choice → Power framework and how it helps you stop repeating old patterns, renegotiate agreements with freedom and repair, and reframe conflict as an opportunity for deeper trust. Along the way, Jeni shares her powerful personal story: a seven-year, on-again off-again journey with her partner Cal that spanned other marriages, included the heartbreak of separation, and ultimately led to their reconnection. She describes how shifting from blame to personal leadership not only transformed their relationship but also became the foundation of the Powerful Love Method she now teaches. From there, we open into a candid look at polyamory—not as a lifestyle of multiple partners, but as an identity and a practice of love as something expansive. Jeni explains why this perspective reshapes what it means to have a soulmate, and how embracing fluidity and ongoing repair can create resilience in any relationship, monogamous or not. This episode is your invitation to step into relational leadership—so you can claim your power, create safety for intimacy to grow, and experience the extraordinary love you deserve. Connect with Dr Jeni Website: https://powerfulove.com Facebook Facebook Youtube Free Gift https://powerfulove.com/freegift Connect with Deborah
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Non-Monogamy, Relationship Anarchy, and the Search for Meaningful Connection with Mel Cassidy
08/11/2025
Non-Monogamy, Relationship Anarchy, and the Search for Meaningful Connection with Mel Cassidy
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Mel Cassidy, a queer, multidisciplinary somatic practitioner and relationship coach who specializes in supporting queer and questioning folks navigating non-monogamy. Together, we explore the liberating possibilities of honest, consensual non-monogamy—how it works, why it can be both exhilarating and challenging, and what it means to approach relationships with openness and authenticity. Mel’s personal journey—from crafting imaginative, non-monogamous love stories as a child to courageously embracing relationship anarchy and becoming their own primary partner—sets the stage for a conversation that is both vulnerable and deeply empowering. As we dive in, Mel shares how colonialism and the nuclear family model have shaped our ideas of love and commitment, why chosen and extended kinship networks are essential, and how perfectionism and societal norms can quietly limit our relational freedom. Along the way, we unpack Mel’s unique framework for mapping relational landscapes, explore the nervous system’s role in building meaningful connection, and discover how to create space for both autonomy and intimacy. If you’re ready to break free from outdated scripts, expand your understanding of love, and build relationships that reflect your truest self, this episode offers both the insight and the tools to begin. Connect with Mel Website: Insta: Free Gift mini-ebook Connection in Disconnected Connect with Deborah
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Erotic Blueprints: Tools for Everyday Erotic Energy with Ryan Brown
07/26/2025
Erotic Blueprints: Tools for Everyday Erotic Energy with Ryan Brown
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sex, Relationship and Certified Erotic Blueprint Coach Ryan Brown. Together, we explore how understanding the Erotic Blueprints can unlock new ways to experience pleasure, connection, and self-expression. Ryan’s own story, from growing up in a conservative, sex-negative environment to embracing their full erotic and gender expansiveness, sets the stage for a conversation that is both honest and inspiring. As we dive deeper, Ryan unpacks what makes the Erotic Blueprints so powerful, explaining how they can be maps to guide us toward a richer, juicier experience of life and intimacy. Along the way, we explore the difference between sexuality and eroticism, how to bring play and curiosity into everyday life, and why dismantling societal boxes around sex and gender is essential to finding authentic joy. Ryan also shares practical tools and coaching insights, from mirror work for healing body image to practices that invite more presence and pleasure into daily routines. They bring a fresh perspective on gender liberation and platonic eroticism, offering a vision of erotic energy that is both expansive and deeply human. If you’re ready to break old patterns and discover new pathways to connection and self-discovery, this episode will give you the tools and inspiration to begin. Connect with Ryan Website: humxnsx.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/humxn.sx Connect with Deborah
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What Women Really Want in Bed with Susan Morgan Taylor, MA
07/09/2025
What Women Really Want in Bed with Susan Morgan Taylor, MA
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with leading Somatic Sex Therapist Susan Morgan Taylor, Ma. We explore how women can reclaim their sexuality—not by waiting for someone else to unlock their pleasure, but by learning to create it for themselves. Susan shares her powerful personal story—how she went from a sexless marriage to discovering deep, full-body pleasure on her own. That awakening became the catalyst for her life’s work helping others break free from sexual shame and disconnection. Together, we unpack the common myths about women’s sexuality and why so many women lose interest in sex over time. Susan explains how stress, safety, and relationship dynamics shape desire—and why learning your own body is essential for lasting connection. She also introduces her Pleasure Keys framework, rooted in relaxation, presence, and internal awareness. Along the way, we explore how to navigate mismatched libidos, sexual fantasies, and communication challenges with curiosity instead of shame. This conversation is a reminder that great sex starts within. You’ll leave with practical tools—like the “pleasure date” practice—and one bold question to ask yourself that can turn your sex life around. Connect with Susan Website: https://www.pleasurekeysretreat.com Free Gift: eBook: www.pleasurekeys.com Free monthly masterclass https://www.pathwaytopleasure.com Connect with Deborah
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Queer Flirting: Somatic Practices to Spark Connection with Danie Bergstrom
06/16/2025
Queer Flirting: Somatic Practices to Spark Connection with Danie Bergstrom
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Somatic Sex Coach Danie Bergstrom where we explore what it really means to initiate intimacy with confidence—especially for queer women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) folks navigating trauma, social conditioning, and disconnection from desire. Throughout the conversation, Danie shares her personal journey of coming out after leaving a 7-year marriage with a man—a turning point that led her to discover somatic work and reconnect with her body after years of dissociation. From that work, she began supporting others who feel stuck, unsure how to move from awareness to embodied change. Danie offers insight into how somatics can gently rewire our relationship with pleasure and intimacy. Along the way, we talk about nonverbal consent, how to initiate without anxiety, and why lesbian sex doesn’t follow a single script. She also explains why “Where do you feel that in your body?” isn’t always the best place to start—and what to ask instead. If you’ve ever struggled with initiating sex, felt unsure how to communicate boundaries, or wanted a deeper connection with your body—this episode offers practical tools and permission to start small. Connect with Danie Website: sapphicsexologist.com Free Gift: sapphicsexologist.com/freebie Connect with Deborah
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Navigating Sex, Dating & Neurodiversity with Dr. Matt Zakreski
05/28/2025
Navigating Sex, Dating & Neurodiversity with Dr. Matt Zakreski
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with clinical psychologist and neurodiversity expert Dr. Matt Zakreski about navigating sex, dating, and relationships through the lens of neurodivergence. From decoding consent to building confidence in communication, Dr. Matt offers real talk, deep insight, and practical tools for connection. In this conversation, we go behind the scenes of the social dynamics most people take for granted—like reading the room, picking up on flirting, or knowing how to initiate intimacy—and what happens when your brain processes the world differently. Dr. Matt breaks down why things like anxiety, social cues, and different ways of developing can make relationships feel especially confusing or overwhelming for neurodivergent folks. We explore how to build social and sexual competence through practice, why naming your needs is powerful, and how embracing your unique wiring can lead to more authentic intimacy. If you’ve ever felt like dating is confusing, consent is awkward, or you’re not doing it “right”—this episode will help you feel seen, empowered, and better equipped to create connection on your terms. Connect with Dr Matt Zakreski Website: The Playbook: https://www.drmattzakreski.com/the-neurodiversity-playbook Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmattzakreski/ Connect with Deborah
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From Taboo to Truth: Inside the World of Adult Film with Rachel Steele
05/21/2025
From Taboo to Truth: Inside the World of Adult Film with Rachel Steele
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Adult Film Performer, Producer and CEO of Red MILF Productions, Rachel Steele about the liberating—and often misunderstood—world of sexual fantasy. From taboo storylines to personal empowerment, Rachel shares how her work creates space for people to safely explore their desires without shame. In this fascinating conversation, we take you behind the scenes of the adult film industry—from camming and casting to scripting and shooting—and unpack the difference between sexual entertainment and education. Rachel opens up about how she accidentally entered the industry, why she started her own production company, and the deep psychology behind the fantasies that resonate most. Together, we explore how shame shapes our desires, and how storytelling can actually help release it. Rachel talks candidly about censorship, societal stigma, and the emotional impact her work has on viewers who finally feel seen and accepted. If you’ve ever wondered what really goes into adult content—or why certain fantasies pull at you—this conversation offers an honest, eye-opening look at how fantasy can be a force for healing, creativity, and connection. Connect with Rachel X: Website: Instagram: Connect with Deborah
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Keeping the Spark Alive Beyond the Honeymoon Stage with Jason and Tina Marie Scott
05/01/2025
Keeping the Spark Alive Beyond the Honeymoon Stage with Jason and Tina Marie Scott
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with relationship coaches, podcast hosts, and longtime partners Jason and Tina Marie Scott. We explore what it really takes to keep love alive beyond the honeymoon stage—and how a thriving relationship is built not on perfection, but on presence, communication, and intentional care. During this conversation, Jason and Tina Marie discuss the foundation of friendship in their 33-year marriage, how they’ve redefined traditional roles in their partnership, and why self-awareness is key to lasting intimacy. Along the way, they share their own story—from a bumpy first meeting to creating a life of love, laughter, and growth together. They also introduce their Manifest Method, a practical framework couples can use to strengthen communication, deepen emotional connection, and bring intention into everyday interactions. With tools like their 20 Emotional Intimacy Questions, they offer a clear path for couples to reconnect and evolve—together. This episode is packed with heart, humor, and wisdom—and a reminder that great relationships don’t just happen. They’re created, moment by moment, with care. Connect with Jason and Tina Marie Scott Website https://legendaryrelationship.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legendaryrelationship/ Connect with Deborah
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Kinks, Fetishes, and Boundaries: A Deep Dive with Miss Em
04/18/2025
Kinks, Fetishes, and Boundaries: A Deep Dive with Miss Em
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Dominatrix and kink educator Miss. Em, who brings over 20 years of experience in the world of BDSM, fetishes, and power dynamics. Hear about how her early curiosity around taboo desires became a calling—and how she uses passion, presence, and emotional intelligence to create safe, transformative experiences. During this conversation, Miss. Em shares her insights on everything from the origins of fetish and submission to the importance of aftercare and the art of psychological play. We explore how kink isn’t always about sex—and how rituals, scent, and memory can create deep arousal and connection. Along the way, we talk about what it means to be an ethical Dominant, the surprising challenges of online BDSM, and why honest communication is at the center of any powerful erotic exchange. This episode invites you to drop the shame, get curious, and expand your understanding of intimacy—through the lens of kink, consent, and deep trust. Connect with Miss Em Website - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sultrymissem/ Connect with Deborah
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Tools to Make Sex Talks Easy with Dr. Evelin Dacker
04/10/2025
Tools to Make Sex Talks Easy with Dr. Evelin Dacker
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sexologist and Educator Dr. Evelin Molina Dacker about the power of open conversations around sexual health at every stage of life. She gets real about her own journey—breaking free from societal expectations and redefining what pleasure looks like, especially through menopause. During this conversation, Dr. Eveline shares her simple but powerful STARS framework to help guide open and shame-free discussions around intimacy. We discuss how this tool can help anyone—whether single or partnered—navigate important conversations about sex with ease and confidence. Along the way, we dive into the emotional and physical changes that come with aging, the surprising joys of this new chapter, and how shifting cultural attitudes are making space for deeper, more honest conversations about desire. We chat about how embracing these changes can lead to greater intimacy and confidence rather than fear or uncertainty. This episode is a reminder that talking about sex shouldn’t be awkward—it should be empowering. You’ll walk away with fresh insights on how to communicate your desires, navigate changes with confidence, and embrace pleasure at any stage of life Connect with Dr Ducker Website - MakeTimeForTheTalk.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexmeddoc/ Connect with Deborah
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Fantasies, Secrets & Good Sex with Dr. Toni Bear
03/28/2025
Fantasies, Secrets & Good Sex with Dr. Toni Bear
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist and intimacy expert Dr. Toni Baer. We dive into sexual identity, fantasies, and the power of secrets in relationships. Dr. Toni shares how her personal journey—from high school teacher to sexologist—was shaped by a deeply personal family tragedy that ignited her passion for helping others embrace their desires and navigate sexual identity. Along the way, we explore common sexual fantasies, why some are better left unspoken, and how privacy and consent shape intimate conversations. Dr. Toni also reveals how secrets can create stress in relationships offering guidance on how to balance openness with discretion. From cultural perspectives on sexuality to vetting within kink and polyamorous communities, this conversation sheds light on how our different backgrounds can shape different desires. Dr. Toni also teases her upcoming TV show, The Voyage of Desire, offering a global look at human passion. Listen in to discover how understanding your fantasies—and the role of secrets in your life—can lead to deeper intimacy and greater self-acceptance. Tune in wherever you listen to podcasts, and don’t forget to like, subscribe, and leave a review! Connect with Dr Toni Website - Free Gift: Aphrodite’s Love Secrets Annual ReAwakening Women's Retreat in Costa Rica. https://www.tonibearedd.com/retreats Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship?
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Unpacking Jealousy & Pleasure with Ken Blackman
02/19/2025
Unpacking Jealousy & Pleasure with Ken Blackman
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with international Sex and Intimacy Educator and Relationship Coach, Ken Blackman. In this conversation, we dive deep into the nuance of jealousy and how it appears in relationships, exploring the different types of jealousy that can uniquely affect intimate connections. We also touch upon the transformative power of identifying different relationship motivations and how understanding these can shift things from transactional interactions to passionate partnerships. Along the way, Ken shares his inspiring story from being an Apple software engineer to his current mission of helping couples co-create thriving and fulfilling relationships. Ken gives us some valuable insights and practical tools to enhance sexual satisfaction through somatic pleasure and bridge the ‘orgasm gap’ – the disparity in orgasm between partners. Listen to this powerful episode and learn how to identify your own jealousy patterns to foster a more relaxed, fulfilling approach to intimacy. Connect with Ken Website - Facebook - Free Gift: "JEALOUSY—Everything You Need to Know" https://tally.so/r/3jPrEY Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship?
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Flirting and the Feminine with Coco Williams
01/30/2025
Flirting and the Feminine with Coco Williams
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Certified Bondassage Trainer, Entrepreneur & Coach, Coco Williams who dives deep with us into the power of feminine energy, the art of flirting, and the journey of personal growth and healing. We talk about how subtle shifts in communication can significantly affect our interactions and relationships and the ways flirting can elevate your mood and energy while also exploring the nuances of flirting across different cultures and the cultural fears around it. Along the way, Coco opens up about her healing journey, including therapy, coaching, and self-reflection techniques all leading her to finding joy in femininity and the empowering aspects of sex work. Coco shares her unique coaching techniques and personal experiences, including stories about the powerful role of maintaining a high vibration to manifest your desires. Learn about the importance of human interaction and flirtation beyond the bedroom, and how embodying specific fantasies in marketing has brought Coco both joy and financial success. You won’t want to miss Coco’s powerful insights and tools to manifest your desires in this fun conversation! Connect with Coco Website - TheHeauxprenuer.com Twitter - https://x.com/theheauxprenuer Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theheauxprenuer/ Pinterest - SoWellMsBehaved Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship?
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Navigating Sexual Communication with Tallulah Sulis
01/15/2025
Navigating Sexual Communication with Tallulah Sulis
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sex Educator, Somatic Sex Therapist and Female Ejaculation Expert, Tallulah Sulis about empowering female sexuality, fostering better communication, and enhancing intimacy in relationships. As we talk, Tallulah shares a bit of her journey into somatic coaching as she learned the deep importance of nervous system regulation and discovered the concept of core erotic desires to deepen connection. Along the way, we chat about the value of slow seduction, the dynamics of initiating and responding partners, and how open, reciprocal communication can transform sexual experiences. This episode is absolutely packed with practical tools like "special attention dates" and "erotic mapping," giving you some very actionable steps to reduce pressure, explore desires, and cultivate a more fulfilling intimate life. Connect with Tallulah Free Gift *offering free 15 min phone consult Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship?
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The Neuroscience of Pleasure & Happiness with Dr. Nan Wise
01/03/2025
The Neuroscience of Pleasure & Happiness with Dr. Nan Wise
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I speak with the brilliant Neuroscientist, Best-Selling Author, Sex Therapist, & Licensed Psychotherapist Dr. Nan Wise. During this conversation, we dive into the fascinating and transformative topic of "The Neuroscience of Pleasure and Happiness," uncovering how our brains are beautifully designed for connection, joy, and emotional well-being. Along the way, Dr. Wise shares her inspiring journey from therapist to scientist, sparked by her deep curiosity about the powerful impact of pleasure on mental and emotional health. We also explore essential topics like overcoming sexual anxiety, fostering deeper, more authentic relationships, and navigating the challenges of our tech-driven world. Packed with wisdom and insight, this episode gives you some practical takeaways, including powerful exercises like "sensate focus" to reconnect with your body and mindfulness techniques to nurture more fulfilling, joyful connections in your life. Connect with Dr. Nan Author: Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding The Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life Website: Instatgram @AskDoctorNan Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship?
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From Conservative Roots to Liberated Lifestyle with Ayce Kypton
12/19/2024
From Conservative Roots to Liberated Lifestyle with Ayce Kypton
In this episode, I sit down with Certified Erotic Blueprints Coach and Somatic Sexological Bodyworker Ayce Kypton. Ayce shares his inspiring journey from growing up as a conservative, Republican Christian kid to living an erotically liberated lifestyle as a trans-masculine individual. Together, we explore his passion for somatic embodiment and reclaiming pleasure. Along the way, we dive into the importance of creating safe spaces—especially for LGBTQ individuals—to reconnect with their desires and express their needs openly. Ayce opens up about his personal journey of sexual self-discovery, revealing how approaches like the Erotic Blueprints and sexological bodywork helped shift his focus from pain to pleasure. Ayce teaches more about the five Erotic Blueprints and how they can enhance relationships and personal fulfillment. This conversation is packed with personal insights, practical advice, and a powerful reminder of the transformative impact of embracing pleasure without shame. Listen in on this engaging episode! Connect with Ayce https://www.aycekyptyn.com/somaticsexology Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ayce_kyptyn/ Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship?
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What is Relationship Anarchy? A conversation with Annie Boheler
12/05/2024
What is Relationship Anarchy? A conversation with Annie Boheler
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with holistic mental health pioneer, Annie Boheler. Annie introduces us to the concept of relationship anarchy– a uniquely refreshing approach to relationships that balances chaos and order, recognizing the full range of connections equally. Hear about the influence of drawing from her extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration. Annie’s extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration influences how she views the range and styles of relationships and the varying factors that play an impactful role to our experiences of autonomy and intimacy. Along the way, we explore her insights on dealing with societal norms like monogamy, and the importance of consent and authentic communication while healing relationships. We also discuss the pervasive impacts of shame and information overload, and how to navigate modern challenges in our relationships. Throughout the conversation, Annie offers us actionable steps to enhance connection and cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Connect with Annie Instagram Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@wellnessgeneralist1318 Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship?
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“Love's Not Colorblind” & Polyamorous Communities with Kevin Patterson
11/05/2024
“Love's Not Colorblind” & Polyamorous Communities with Kevin Patterson
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Author & Polyamory Educator Kevin Patterson exploring the world of non-monogamy. During this conversation, we delve into the nuances of polyamory, debunking stereotypes, and discussing the importance of clear communication and respect in non-monogamous relationships. Kevin's personal experiences, from navigating long-term relationships to balancing family and social dynamics, offer valuable insights for anyone exploring life outside the bounds of monogamy. We also get into the challenges of balancing multiple relationship dynamics, maintaining personal interests, self-care and parenthood. Kevin speaks to race and representation in the polyamorous community, emphasizing that acknowledging racial differences can enrich our understanding of one another. Kevin’s thoughtful approach to identity, power dynamics, and personal customization of relationships promises to be both enlightening and transformative. Whether you are polyamory-curious or poly-experienced, this conversation is rich with valuable tips and perspectives to nurture healthy polyamorous relationships and foster more inclusive communities. Connect with Kevin Instagram https://www.instagram.com/polyrolemodels Get the Books https://www.kevinapatterson.com/books Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship?
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Living a BDSM Life with Alesandra Madison
10/30/2024
Living a BDSM Life with Alesandra Madison
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with BDSM educator and creator of Dom Sub Living, Alesandra Madison. We delve into the dynamic world of Dom/Sub relationships, exploring how BDSM can be both healing and beneficial for partnership. Alesandra shares a bit of her journey into BDSM as a lifestyle, giving us some invaluable insights into the importance of open communication, mutual respect, and regular check-ins in maintaining healthy relationships. We talk about different styles of BDSM partnership, safety, finding partners, kink in modern culture and how to get started with BDSM. We also discuss the challenges of balancing a BDSM lifestyle with everyday responsibilities like family and finance. Alesandra tells about the importance of self-care rituals to stay aligned with one's role and gives us a glimpse into some of her personal practices. This conversation is chock full of tips and tidbits from talking to the kids about what they might discover to finding a BDSM partner and everything in between. Plus, Alesandra gives us a ton of resources from her free library on DomsubLiving.com, and gives us a sneak hint at her upcoming four-day challenge. Don't miss this enlightening conversation filled with practical advice and heartfelt stories to help you navigate your BDSM journey. Connect with Alesandra Free Resource Library Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship?
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Back to Women’s Pleasure with Pamela Madsen
10/16/2024
Back to Women’s Pleasure with Pamela Madsen
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with Pamela Madsen, a true pioneer in women’s sexual wellness and founder of the "Back to the Body Method." We dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence, self-love, and how women can reclaim their erotic energy for more than just sexual expression—as a vital force in all areas of life. Along the way, Pamela shares her journey, from her roots in the Bronx to creating immersive retreats in Joshua Tree that help women explore their bodies in safe, empowering environments. We talk about the holistic view of sexuality, where self-care, emotional wellness, and sexual health are all interconnected. Pamela tells us about her commitment to helping women embrace their full sexual selves. During this conversation, we explore the importance of sovereignty of all kinds and how reclaiming control over our lives begins with understanding and accepting our own sexuality. Join us for this candid conversation about how embracing erotic energy can lead to personal growth, confidence, and fulfillment. Connect with Pamela Learn about Back to the Body Retreats https://backtothebody.org/events?by=retreats Join the Newsletter Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback [email protected] Book a breakthrough session with Deborah Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
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Voicing Desire with Alexis Ware
10/01/2024
Voicing Desire with Alexis Ware
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with acupuncturist, theta healer, and sex relationship coach Alexis Ware, for a deep dive into voicing our desires. We explore the fascinating connection between the throat and the clitoris, and how speaking our truth is vital for intimacy and connection in relationships. Along the way, Alexis shares powerful insights on the importance of feeling safe to express our needs and the role open communication plays in fulfilling sexual and emotional connections. As we chat, Alexis reveals her transformative journey through orgasmic meditation, and emphasizes the significance of reclaiming our inherent power and creative potential as women. Together, we dig into the layers of societal conditioning that hold us back, and discuss practical techniques to reclaim our voice, power, and pleasure including a special heart meditation teaching. This episode is packed with wisdom and laughter, as well as actionable steps you can take to unveil your voice and elevate your sex life. Connect with Alexis for Free Heart meditation sign up for newsletter Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback [email protected] Book a breakthrough session with Deborah Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
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Understanding Control in Relationship with Dr. Tom Murray
09/18/2024
Understanding Control in Relationship with Dr. Tom Murray
Is there such a thing as ‘ethical porn’? In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sex Therapist Dr. Tom Murray to explore this question as well as pornography trends, erotophobia and different control dynamics as they play out within relationships . Along the way, hear more of Dr. Tom’s story of becoming a sex therapist including time spent with pornography distribution giving him an insider’s view to the industry. Besides exploring the relationship between societal norms, expectations, fantasies and desires, we take a deep dive into control dynamics, namely over-controlling, in relationships, a topic he writes about in his book, “Making Nice with Naughty: An Intimacy Guide.” Dr. Murray gives some ways to bring more playfulness into the bedroom to deepen intimacy and of course, have better sex. Connect with Dr Tom The Book Making Nice with Naughty https://drtommurray.com/books/ Making Nice with Naughty Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC78viRgDA05daSGFVD4QoPg Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback [email protected] Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
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Unpacking Sexual Freedom with Mandy Salley
09/02/2024
Unpacking Sexual Freedom with Mandy Salley
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Licensed Social Worker and Sexual Freedom Advocate, Mandy Salley of the Woodhall Freedom Foundation. In this conversation, we chat about some of the limitations of sexual freedom in the United States, touching on laws against activities like cunnilingus or interracial sex and how outdated these laws have become. We delve into the Comstock Act and its lingering effects on mailing erotic materials and contraception information. Along the way, Mandy shares insights into effective laws that protect sex workers, such as the "Stop Violence in the Sex Trades Act" in New York. Her passion for social justice and sexual freedom is evident as she encourages listeners to engage in open conversations and remain hopeful for change. And of course, Mandy invites us to connect with the Woodhull Freedom Foundation for resources and support in advocating for sexual rights in your area and community Connect with Mandy https://www.instagram.com/woodhullfreedom/ https://www.instagram.com/_mandy.salley/ Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback [email protected] Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
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Sinking into the Art of Seduction with Marla Renee Stewart
08/14/2024
Sinking into the Art of Seduction with Marla Renee Stewart
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist, author, and sexual strategist Marla Renee Stewart who shares her extensive experience studying human sexuality and running workshops worldwide through her sexuality education company, Velvet Lips and as co-founder of the groundbreaking Sex Down South Conference. Marla shares her own journey, including her move from California to the South, and how it shaped her mission to create spaces for marginalized communities to explore sexual liberation and within the kink world. She also talks about what she’s seen in the evolving landscape of sex and relationship from desire discrepancy to the increasing interest in non-monogamy and kink. Along the way, we get into the importance of seduction for a more satisfying sex life and Marla shares her hot tips on how to seductively spice things up while also challenging the common fantasy around spontaneous sex. Connect with Marla Sex Education Sex Down South Sexcessful Business Coaching Free Gift https://velvetlips.ck.page/5solutions Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback [email protected] Book a Bedroom Breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/023cee22/appointment/1540942/calendar/302593?appointmentTypeIds[]=1540942 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
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Sex and the Subconscious with Kate Shelor
07/17/2024
Sex and the Subconscious with Kate Shelor
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Hypnotherapist, Subconscious Reprogramming Expert and Relationship Coach, Kate Shelor who takes us into the complexities behind the differences between how men and women perceive and communicate love and intimacy. Kate shares some of her personal journey using hypnotherapy to overcome her personal challenges with orgasms. This led her to develop her own work bringing hypnotherapy into the realm of sex, body trauma, orgasms, and erections. Along the way we chat about the power of ‘scheduling’ intimacy, the unrealistic expectations created by the media, the differences between men and women’s communication style, and the power of hypnotherapy to assist with orgasm. Kate also gives us a therapeutic technique to help with resolving deep-seated emotional wounds as well as some practical advice to set up an environment for sexual play. This comprehensive conversation brings to consciousness the unconscious programming that can get in the way of a healthy sex life. Not only that, Kate brings us into this exploration through a conversation that takes the shame out of sexual communication. Connect with Kate https://twitter.com/coachkatykaT https://www.facebook.com/OfficialKateShelor/ Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback [email protected] Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
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Liberating Erotic Shadows with Adam Chacksfield
07/02/2024
Liberating Erotic Shadows with Adam Chacksfield
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Spiritual Teacher, Adam Chacksfield who takes us on a journey through spiritual healing and transformation of Erotic Shadows through his unique work combining non-duality and somatic practices. Adam discusses how shadow work can empower individuals to embrace their desires, set boundaries, and break free from shame stories, particularly with our erotic turn-ons and fantasies. Along the way, we hear about Adam's journey through inner transformation, exploration of the relationship between eroticism and spirituality, and development of his method for healing shadow. Adam's insights on embracing and exploring shadow aspects as a path to empowerment and connection make for a deep and intriguing discussion on embracing the full spectrum of human experience in sex and relationships. Connect with Adam http://www.adamchacksfield.com/ Got questions about sex and relationship?
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The Spiritual and Creative Power of Sexual Energy with Lisa Rizzoli
06/20/2024
The Spiritual and Creative Power of Sexual Energy with Lisa Rizzoli
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with certified Tantra educator and level two teacher trainer, Lisa Rizzoli. Lisa shares profound insights into the integration of sexual energy with life force energy, and how it can be harnessed to manifest the life we desire. We delve into her journey into Tantra, starting at a transformative retreat at Esalen, and how her experiences shaped her current practices. Lisa introduces a daily meditation practice called "loving myself awake," and discusses how it brings more sensation and awareness into the body. We also explore the spiritual and creative power of sexual energy, as well as techniques like the Yoni egg practice and the "seven-layer transformation" method. Lisa's candid narrative about trusting intuition, overcoming resistance, and transforming trauma offers listeners an enriching perspective on deepening intimacy and enhancing relationships. Connect with Lisa Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/167559486670086 complimentary audio Got questions about sex and relationship?
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Expanding the definition of orgasm with Susan Bratton
06/06/2024
Expanding the definition of orgasm with Susan Bratton
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Intimacy Expert to millions and best-selling Author Susan Bratton who brings her personal stories of receiving adoration to our discussion of expanding the definition of orgasm. During this fun and insightful conversation, we delve into the importance of knowledge, vulnerability, and meticulous scheduling to navigate different kinds of complex relationships while touching on the significance of adoration as a fundamental human desire that society often suppresses. Susan sheds light on the benefits of oxytocin, the need for more time and stimulation to achieve arousal and the essential role of foreplay. We discuss various techniques to make intercourse orgasmic for women and Susan shares some of her expanded orgasm practices to enhance intimate experiences. Along the way we discuss how to hold sexual energy, setting personal boundaries, and the significance of ongoing sexual education. Join us for this enlightening conversation that challenges traditional views and empowers listeners to prioritize their own desires and pleasure. Connect with Susan “Intimacy Expert To Millions CEO of: http://personallifemedia.com . https://the20store.com/ Got questions about sex and relationship?
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Tech Innovation and Enhancing Erectile Performance with Dr. Elliot Justin
05/21/2024
Tech Innovation and Enhancing Erectile Performance with Dr. Elliot Justin
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with CEO of Firmtech, Dr. Elliot Justin. Dr. Justin brings his extensive knowledge in medical technology and personal experience to share his innovations towards improved male sexual health and performance. Beyond the technology available, we talk about the importance of non-rushed, pleasurable sexual experiences, prioritizing regular lovemaking and how planning intimate moments can help maintain the romantic connection between partners. Diving into the science of pleasure a bit, Dr. Justin shares the benefits of regular sexual activity for maintaining penile and overall health, highlighting the role it plays in hormone regulation and relationship satisfaction. Along the way, we delve into the technology behind Firmtech’s products, exploring the benefits of using firm rings to enhance erections, prolong duration, and ultimately increase satisfaction with your sex life. Dr. Justin also highlights the emerging tech for women’s sexual health and gives us some practical tips and cutting-edge tools for enhancing your sexual wellness and relationship vitality. Connect with Dr Justin Insta https://www.instagram.com/myfirmtech/ YouTube Website https://myfirmtech.com/ Got questions about sex and relationship?
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Exploring the Wisdom of Sexual Fantasies with Artemisia de Vine
05/08/2024
Exploring the Wisdom of Sexual Fantasies with Artemisia de Vine
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sexual Fantasy Expert, Artemisia de Vine. Artemisia shares her personal story from her restrictive upbringing through her discovery of sexual fantasies and expanded consciousness to becoming a professional dominatrix. During this conversation, we dive into the exploration of desires rather than suppression of them in forming a healthy relationship with desire for sexual play. Atemisia brings a wealth of training and expertise in creating emotional and psychological safety during sexual play, offering listeners a unique exercise to explore sexual preferences. With insights from her upcoming book "The Spirituality of Smut: The Surprising Wisdom of Sexual Fantasies," Artemisia enlightens us on the transformative power of erotic imagination. Join us as we navigate the journey of embracing our deepest desires for a more satisfying and spiritually connected sex life through fantasy. Connect with Artemisa Free Gift Work with Artemisa Learn the Celeb Swoon technique: Find powerful clues about your unique sexual psychology by taking a closer look at your fav swoon-worthy celebs at MyFantasyIs.com Got questions about sex and relationship?
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