(#006) Rewriting the Rules of Accountability with Kelly Day O’Brien
Release Date: 04/03/2025
(#008) The Love of Friendship — A Midlife Relationship That Changes Everything with Marni Ilyse
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In this soul-nourishing episode, I’m joined by one of my dearest friends and chosen family, Marni Ilyse Rivera. We explore the power of deep friendship in midlife — the kind that sees you, supports you, and says “There she is” every time you show up as your full self. From our first meeting to becoming besties and “Mama partners”, we reflect on the magic of female connection, how chosen sisterhood has become one of the most transformative relationships in our lives, and what it means to walk through fire together. We laugh, cry, tease, and honor each other — and we invite you...
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(#007) The Midlife Sleep-Over with Kelly Day O'Brien
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In this episode, Kelly Day O’Brien and I continue our conversation, this time with sleep in midlife as the focus. As a mindfulness and sleep coach, Kelly has some surprising and helpful insights and tips on how to support the most restorative sleep possible. For those of you who like to be in control, welcome to your growing edge! Kelly shares the most common physiological and psychological sleep challenges midlife women face, especially during perimenopause and menopause. We talk about hormone shifts, anxiety spirals at 3 a.m., the pressure to “sleep right,” and the profound impact...
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(#006) Rewriting the Rules of Accountability with Kelly Day O’Brien
There She Is
In this episode of There She Is, I’m joined by my accountability coach, Kelly, for an honest and empowering conversation about what it really means to hold yourself accountable—especially in midlife. As part of the year-long program Accountability Works (AW), I’ve discovered that effective accountability isn’t about rigid discipline or perfection, but about learning to meet yourself with compassion, curiosity, and the courage to pivot when something no longer fits. This approach has helped me grow my business while staying grounded in honoring my unique way of doing things....
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(#005) From Silence to Spotlight: The Menopause Monologues
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(#004) The Death & Rebirth of Self: Finding Authenticity Through Transformation with Sarah Knapik
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In my very first interview on There She Is, I share an intimate and inspiring conversation with Sarah Knapik, a mother, spiritual coach, and Bufo priestess stewarding Oakland’s first 5-MeO-DMT church. Sarah vulnerably shares her powerful story of how walking away from a picture-perfect life led her home to her own divine love. In this episode we dive into: How Sarah’s spiritual awakening began with a nervous breakdown that led to her greatest breakthrough The journey of shedding old identities to step into true authenticity The freedom of embracing the truth of “both/and” ...
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(#003) Breaking the Cycle: Why Your Pleasure Matters
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What if the beliefs you’ve carried about love, worthiness, and intimacy aren’t actually yours? In this episode, we dive deep into the ways childhood conditioning shapes our sense of self — and how we can break free from the patterns that no longer serve us. In this episode, I open up about my transformative journey of unlearning the belief that love must be earned. I explore how deep-seated wounds shape our relationships, sense of pleasure, and ability to feel truly seen. Through somatic intimacy coaching, breathwork, and radical self-acceptance, I discovered a path to reconnect with my...
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(#001) The Heart of There She Is: What This Podcast Is All About
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Welcome to the very first episode of There She Is! I’m your host, Aimee Ames — a spiritual, joy-seeking sex and relationship coach — here to help midlife women rediscover themselves, unapologetically. In this intimate kickoff episode, I’ll share the inspiration behind the name There She Is and why midlife isn’t a crisis — it’s a powerful awakening. We’ll dive into what this podcast is all about: reclaiming your sensuality, embracing your true desires, and finding joy in every corner of your life. 💡 What you’ll hear in this episode: The personal story behind There She Is ...
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(#002) Reclaiming Pleasure, Power, and Boundaries
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What if the stories you’ve been told — and the ones you’ve told yourself—aren’t true? In this episode, we dive deep into the process of unlearning the limiting beliefs that have kept us small, disconnected, and out of alignment with our true selves. My guest shares her raw and powerful journey from people-pleasing and self-abandonment to reclaiming her voice, her body, and her desires. We talk about the impact of childhood conditioning, the societal expectations that shape us, and the moment she realized she had been living someone else’s version of success. Through breathwork,...
info_outlineIn this episode of There She Is, I’m joined by my accountability coach, Kelly, for an honest and empowering conversation about what it really means to hold yourself accountable—especially in midlife.
As part of the year-long program Accountability Works (AW), I’ve discovered that effective accountability isn’t about rigid discipline or perfection, but about learning to meet yourself with compassion, curiosity, and the courage to pivot when something no longer fits. This approach has helped me grow my business while staying grounded in honoring my unique way of doing things.
While this may not sound like a super sexy topic, I think you’ll find it very relatable as one of the everyday ways we can connect even more to our “There She Is” energy. It’s about personal growth, self-awareness, and showing up for yourself in the best and most loving way you can, for now.
Highlights of our conversation include:
- The one commitment that got me into AW and how it eventually led me to the creation of this podcast
- The lessons that can be found in the missed commitments
- How compassion and curiosity—not shame—are the fuel for sustainable change
- The importance of honoring what’s most aligned for now and how redirection is not the same as quitting
- How midlife is the perfect time to reassess your “factory settings” and choose your desired system upgrades!
Kelly Day O’Brien is a national board-certified health and wellness coach. She is trained in integrative and functional lifestyle methodologies and specializes in sleep behavior coaching. We also chatted a lot about sleep – some good basics for maximizing what you need, especially in midlife, and how trying less can often support you more. There was so much juiciness that you just get a teaser now, as that conversation will be a future episode. Stay tuned!
Kelly’s website www.rootwellcoaching
Accountability Works www.accountabilityworks.com
IG @accountabilityworks
Aimee's website www.aimeeames.com
IG @aimeeamescoaching