(#014) Chosen, Bound & Held: What I Learned from My First BDSM Scene (with Daisy Fulgham)
Release Date: 05/29/2025
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info_outlineIn this powerful final episode of our three-part BDSM series, I share a deeply personal experience: the scene I participated in during a professional training—a scene that pushed my edges, met a core childhood wound, and reminded me of the power of safe, consensual play.
Alongside my sweet guest and fellow Somatica-trained coach, Daisy Fulgham, we unpack what made this scene so impactful—from the emotional build-up and the intentional tools used, to the aftercare that allowed deep integration. We talk about the healing power of being witnessed, of being chosen, and of not having to be perfect in order to be loved.
This is a tender, grounded, and embodied conversation about:
· The importance of boundaries, limits, and safe words
· What “aftercare” really is and why it matters—both inside and outside the bedroom
· How BDSM can support deep psychological healing
· The beauty of being nurtured and celebrated in your vulnerability
· Why “sprinkling” BDSM into your sex life doesn’t require a dungeon (unless you want one 😉)
This is an invitation to stay curious and compassionate—with yourself and with others. My story may not be your story, but I hope it expands your understanding of what’s possible when we allow ourselves to be fully seen and fully held.
An extra special thank you to Daisy Fulgham for her generous presence and insight, and to Shelby Devlin for her exquisite facilitation, integrity, and just for being the beautifully authentic and courageous human she is. Learn more about Shelby [link if available].
When you’re ready for more…
✨ Daisy & I both offer complimentary calls to see if we’re a good fit for working together. Whether you’re partnered or single, wanting to explore BDSM or other avenues of intimacy and relationships, we’d love to connect!
Book a call with Aimee or visit her website.
Book a call with Daisy or visit her website.