There She Is
Welcome to There She Is, an intimate space for and about midlife women diving into all that's possible. I'm Aimee Ames, a spiritual, joy seeking sex and relationship coach. Let's jump in!
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(#022) Making Hormones Make Sense with Janel Anderson
11/06/2025
(#022) Making Hormones Make Sense with Janel Anderson
The menopause transition can feel overwhelming, confusing, and downright uncomfortable—it can knock us off balance in every way. What if we welcomed this change not as a crisis, but as a profound invitation to learn more about our body and find a deeper alignment with who we truly are? In this episode, Aimee is joined by Janel Anderson—a Certified Functional Medicine Nutritionist, Board Certified Nutritionist, and Doctor of Natural Medicine—who has a true gift for making hormones make sense. Together, they dive into the science and the soul of hormones in midlife, blending practical wisdom with deep empowerment for women navigating perimenopause and beyond. In this episode, we talk about The “personalities” of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone—and how they shape mood, energy, and desire Why perimenopause is a powerful threshold into our inner Fall How modern life can disconnect us from our body’s innate wisdom Simple, actionable steps to ease symptoms and support your body through change The seasons and soul of womanhood—how our cycles mirror nature’s rhythms Reclaiming midlife as a time of choice, agency, and authentic self-discovery Connect with Janel Anderson Empowering midlife women to understand their body + use food + lifestyle to ALIGN & THRIVE You can find Janel online at and 🌿 Instagram: Podcast: Connect with Aimee Ames 💫 💫 💫 💫 Instagram: Disclaimer: This conversation is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Please consult your healthcare provider about your personal health and hormonal needs.
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(#021) Taking Center Stage in Midlife - An Akashic Reading with Jane Sterken
09/11/2025
(#021) Taking Center Stage in Midlife - An Akashic Reading with Jane Sterken
This week I invited Akashic reader Jane Sterken to join me for a heart-opening conversation—and a mini live reading. I’ve had two sessions with Jane over the past year, each one a catalyst for growth, confidence, and that unmistakable There She Is energy. Jane modernizes and reframes "Akashic Records" beautifully as the space of the soul—a loving field that reflects who you truly are and what you’re opening into. We talk about moving from grind to flow, releasing limiting beliefs, trusting desire, and why center stage might be the next right place to sit—quietly, confidently—especially in midlife. This may sound and feel mysterious and "woo", and yet it has the potential to inspire and empower you in beautiful ways. If you're open and curious, I highly recommend getting a reading with Jane. She's talented, warm, and generous, and will have your soul shining even more brightly in just an hour! *There are a few long pauses in her reading. They are intentionally not shortened so you can get a feel for a true reading.* In this episode, we joyfully discuss: What the Akashic is - from “records” to an alive, loving mirror of your soul The power of ease over effort - how we've opened to allowing the next right step to appear rather than succumbing to the paradigm of "working hard" Embracing confidence as a practice of confiding in yourself to build inner trust and letting joy lead Allowing our desires to be limitless - there is no ceiling on our joy! A moving, mini live reading and a powerful visual for Aimee's next phase as an empty-nester and midlife woman - and an invitation for all of us to put ourselves center stage About Jane Sterken Jane is a midlife mama of 3 kids who has been on a deep and exciting spiritual journey since the fall of 2020. About 2 years ago, the Akashic opened up for her and she’s eager to share the high-vibe expansive Akashic energy and help people feel more whole and healed by reconnecting with their own heart and soul and JOY! Jane is the intuitive behind Akashic Joy, offering 1:1 Akashic readings, a weekly guided Akashic meditation (Wednesdays, 10:00am PT on Zoom), and a new Akashic + Reiki Joy Immersion—four weeks of readings and distance Reiki to create lasting energetic shifts. Website: akashicjoy.com YouTube: Akashic Joy (guided meditations & replays) Offerings: 1:1 readings, weekly group meditation, Akashic + Reiki Joy Immersion Work with Jane Book a session or the 4-week immersion at akashicjoy.com Join the Wednesday 10am PT guided Akashic meditation on Zoom Listener special ✨ Let her know you heard her on There She Is! $20 off a single Akashic reading $30 off the Akashic + Reiki Joy Immersion package Learn more about Aimee Ready to go deeper than the podcast? Learn more about private coaching with Aimee at or schedule a
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(#020) Why Women Need to Nourish Their Egos
09/04/2025
(#020) Why Women Need to Nourish Their Egos
Welcome back to There She Is! After a summer of family milestones, travel, and soaking in presence, I’m kicking off a brand-new FALL season with a solo episode. In this quickie I revisit a bold comment I made in my last episode—one that made me pause when I re-listened. I wondered - Was that too much? Too confident? Too bold? Here’s my conclusion - women are often conditioned to believe that they are “a lot” or “too much”. But in midlife, I’m learning to see it differently. It's about knowing, celebrating, and owning your worth. In this episode, I share: ✨ Why I decided to take the summer off - and the freedom of creating a life on my terms ✨ The story behind my bold, unapologetic comment about finding my dream man ✨ How women’s egos are often undernourished—not overinflated—and why building yours may be essential ✨ The practices and reflections that helped me shift from self-doubt to grounded confidence ✨ An exercise from Mama Gina’s Holy Trinity that can help you strengthen your own healthy ego - especially if done with other supportive women Let's stop shrinking and second-guessing, and start building the self-worth that allows us to attract—and live—the life we truly desire. 🎧 What bold, brave thought, action, or manifestation will this new season bring for YOU? Tune in and let’s step boldly into this new season together! Learn more about Aimee Ames at and/or follow her on Instagram at @aimeeamescoaching.
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(#019) Midlife Marriage & Keeping the Spark Alive with Melissa Murphy
08/11/2025
(#019) Midlife Marriage & Keeping the Spark Alive with Melissa Murphy
In this candid continuation of my conversation with Melissa Murphy, we drop the filters and let you in on the kind of chat we’d have over coffee or on a hike. We talk about marriage in midlife—how it shifts as kids grow up, the importance of seeing each other again with fresh eyes, and the work (and fun) it takes to keep the connection alive after decades together. Melissa opens up about her own 24-year marriage, the role therapy has played, and what it means to grow together rather than apart. We also wander into the real, behind-the-scenes stuff—my work as a sex and relationship coach, Melissa’s exciting new coaching offer for women navigating perimenopause and menopause, and why sometimes the bravest thing we can do is try something new before we hit “rock bottom.” In this episode, you’ll hear us talk about: How to rekindle intimacy and connection in long-term relationships The surprising benefits of therapy or coaching—for yourself and your marriage Melissa’s personalized “Now What?” coaching offer for women ready to feel their best in midlife - just in time for FALL! Why investing in your relationship before there’s a crisis is so powerful The joy of listening to that inner voice and saying yes to the thing that excites you Whether you’re married, divorced, dating, or somewhere in between, this conversation is full of honesty, laughter, and ideas for creating more love, joy, and connection in your own life. Learn more about and connect with Melissa: Instagram: Follow Aimee on or to learn about working together. Learn more about her and her offerings at .
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(#018) Living for Ourselves - with Melissa Murphy
06/26/2025
(#018) Living for Ourselves - with Melissa Murphy
What happens when we begin to choose what lights us up — whether it fits into our identity as a mom or not? We reconnect with the woman we truly are. In this heartfelt conversation, Aimee sits down with midlife powerhouse Melissa Murphy — certified nutrition and fitness coach, mom of three, and host of the Now What? podcast — to explore what it means to start living for ourselves after years of living for (and through) our children. Together, they talk about the identity shift that happens as motherhood evolves, the courage it takes to say yes to something new, and how Melissa found her growing edge by training for her first bodybuilding competition — at 54. Inside this episode: Why midlife can be a time of possibility, purpose, and reinvention How to move from perfectionism and paralysis to inspired action — even if it’s messy What it looks like to unapologetically reclaim your body, your voice, and your goals Why choosing yourself is a powerful gift to model for your children — even if they don’t fully get it (yet) The quiet magic that emerges when we ask, “Now what?” This is a real, vulnerable conversation between two midlife women finding their way back to themselves, while still navigating the ever-shifting landscape of parenting young adults. Whether you’re in the fog of empty nesting, craving something more, or simply wondering what’s next — this episode is a reminder: This is not the end. It might just be your beginning. 🎧 Listen now and meet the woman underneath all the roles. There she is Follow Melissa on IG Follow Aimee on or to learn about working together. Learn more about her and her offerings at .
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(#017) The Power of Presence - Intimacy After Alcohol
06/19/2025
(#017) The Power of Presence - Intimacy After Alcohol
Part 2 of 2 in the “Alcohol & Midlife” mini-series In Part 2 of my conversation with coach and functional nutritionist Teri Patterson, we explore how our relationship with alcohol impacts our relationships with others—especially when it comes to intimacy, sex, and connection. This is a tender, honest conversation about what happens when we stop numbing and start showing up—fully present, in our bodies, and able to feel again. Together, we explore: How alcohol can create emotional distance, even in close relationships The vulnerability and beauty of sober sex—and why it can be so intense Why presence is the foundation of real connection How early sexual experiences shaped by alcohol affect us long after What shifts in partnership and friendship when one person stops drinking The power of shared vulnerability in safe, supportive spaces This episode is an invitation to return to your body, deepen your capacity for connection, and trust in the kind of intimacy that’s built on presence, not performance. 🎧 Haven’t listened to Part 1 yet? Start there → The Courage to Question – What Alcohol Is (and Isn’t) Doing for You More About Teri - Teri Patterson is a Functional Nutritionist and Senior Coach with This Naked Mind, blending science-backed nutrition with mindset coaching to help mid-life women thrive without alcohol. As a group coach with Alcohol-Free Lifestyle, Teri supports high-achieving women in creating true wellness from the inside out. She’s the creator of The SELF Experience, host of the Sober Edge podcast, and co-founder of the Sober Edge Book Club. Teri believes living alcohol-free is the key to designing a vibrant, purpose-driven life at any age. Visit her website Follow her on Follow Aimee on or to learn about working together.
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(#016) The Courage to Question - What Alcohol Is (and Isn't) Doing for You
06/19/2025
(#016) The Courage to Question - What Alcohol Is (and Isn't) Doing for You
In Part 1 of this honest and empowering two-part series, I sit down with my dear friend and coach Teri Patterson to explore how so many women in midlife are courageously re-evaluating their relationship with alcohol. I also share my own multi-year journey—from daily drinking to (mostly) alcohol-free living—and why choosing this path has been one of the most empowering decisions I’ve made. Together, we unpack: Why it’s time to move beyond the question of “problem drinking” The fear, identity shifts, and deep curiosity that often spark change How simply getting curious is its own courageous act Why alcohol can be a coping tool—and how to build a more supportive toolkit Why letting go doesn’t have to mean forever—and how it often leads to more of who you truly are Whether you’re sober curious, taking a break, or just beginning to wonder, this conversation invites you to explore what’s possible. As always, this is a shame-free place. Just curiosity, support, and the potential to explore more of your There She Is energy! 🎧 Listen now, and then follow up with Part 2: “The Power of Presence - Intimacy Without Alcohol” — where we explore how alcohol impacts relationships, intimacy, and your ability to be fully present. More About Teri - Teri Patterson is a Functional Nutritionist and Senior Coach with This Naked Mind, blending science-backed nutrition with mindset coaching to help mid-life women thrive without alcohol. As a group coach with Alcohol-Free Lifestyle, Teri supports high-achieving women in creating true wellness from the inside out. She’s the creator of The SELF Experience, host of the Sober Edge podcast, and co-founder of the Sober Edge Book Club. Teri believes living alcohol-free is the key to designing a vibrant, purpose-driven life at any age. Visit her website Follow her on Follow Aimee on or to learn about working together.
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(#015) Finding Your Feet in the Fog - How to Stay Grounded in Times of Uncertainty
06/12/2025
(#015) Finding Your Feet in the Fog - How to Stay Grounded in Times of Uncertainty
In this solo “Quickie with Aimee,” I’m sharing a gentle reminder—for both of us—on how to find calm in the midst of midlife transitions. My twins just graduated high school, the future feels uncertain, and summer’s lack of structure has me swimming in emotions. I’ll be honest: I forgot my tools for a minute and I was feeling a bit lost in the fog. This episode is my way of coming back to center—and inviting you to do the same. If you’re feeling foggy, untethered, or overwhelmed, here are some simple, grounding practices to help you feel a little more steady in the unknown. Whether you're in midlife, in a transition, or simply feeling untethered this summer—this one’s for you. And as always, take what resonates. Make these your own. Honor your way and what works best for you and your life. I'd love to hear your grounding rituals and routines in the comments! ✨ In this episode, I share: The power of acknowledging you’re in a hard season (and offering yourself grace) Four grounding tools that help me find steadiness in uncertain times Why platonic touch and connection are vital to well-being A powerful mindset shift when you’re in the “I don’t know” space 👉 ♥️ Know someone going through a big change? Share this episode with them. Let’s support each other through the messiness and the magic of all that is midlife! Ways to work with me - Schedule a to learn more about my coaching and breathwork practice. for inspiration, events and workshops, and podcast updates. Follow me on IG . Follow the podcast and schedule automatic downloads so they are ready when you are!
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(#014) Chosen, Bound & Held: What I Learned from My First BDSM Scene (with Daisy Fulgham)
05/29/2025
(#014) Chosen, Bound & Held: What I Learned from My First BDSM Scene (with Daisy Fulgham)
In this powerful final episode of our three-part BDSM series, I share a deeply personal experience: the scene I participated in during a professional training—a scene that pushed my edges, met a core childhood wound, and reminded me of the power of safe, consensual play. Alongside my sweet guest and fellow Somatica-trained coach, Daisy Fulgham, we unpack what made this scene so impactful—from the emotional build-up and the intentional tools used, to the aftercare that allowed deep integration. We talk about the healing power of being witnessed, of being chosen, and of not having to be perfect in order to be loved. This is a tender, grounded, and embodied conversation about: · The importance of boundaries, limits, and safe words · What “aftercare” really is and why it matters—both inside and outside the bedroom · How BDSM can support deep psychological healing · The beauty of being nurtured and celebrated in your vulnerability · Why “sprinkling” BDSM into your sex life doesn’t require a dungeon (unless you want one 😉) This is an invitation to stay curious and compassionate—with yourself and with others. My story may not be your story, but I hope it expands your understanding of what’s possible when we allow ourselves to be fully seen and fully held. An extra special thank you to Daisy Fulgham for her generous presence and insight, and to Shelby Devlin for her exquisite facilitation, integrity, and just for being the beautifully authentic and courageous human she is. Learn more about Shelby [link if available]. When you’re ready for more… ✨ Daisy & I both offer complimentary calls to see if we’re a good fit for working together. Whether you’re partnered or single, wanting to explore BDSM or other avenues of intimacy and relationships, we’d love to connect! with Aimee or visit her Book a call with Daisy or visit her .
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(#013) BDSM: The Powerful Potential for Healing with Daisy Fulgham
05/22/2025
(#013) BDSM: The Powerful Potential for Healing with Daisy Fulgham
In this second episode of our 3-part series on BDSM, Daisy and I go deeper into the heart of this often-misunderstood world—exploring its powerful potential for healing, agency, and joyful discovery. We share personal reflections from a recent BDSM training for coaches, including what it felt like to learn and practice giving and receiving impact (like hair pulling, spanking, and even slapping), and how the emphasis on consent and choice created a surprisingly playful and freeing experience. Whether you’re curious about BDSM or simply drawn to the idea of exploring your edges in a safe and empowered way, this conversation is for you. 💥 In this episode, we explore: Why BDSM can be healing when done with care The difference between pain and harm—and how pain can be pleasurable The liberating joy of discovering new desires How setting boundaries and speaking your needs is its own act of empowerment Why exploring your “growing edge” can lead to deeper confidence and embodiment We also tease what’s coming next: my own vulnerable demo, where I step into a scene and explore my edges in a deeply personal and revealing way. That conversation continues in Part 3—don’t miss it. This series is for the curious. You don’t need to “be into it.” You don’t need to know anything. You just need a little curiosity. Want support exploring your desires or creating more connection in your life? Book a free connection call with me . Connect with Daisy Fulgham Website: Instagram:
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(#012) BDSM 101: Power, Play, and the Unexpected Turn-On with Daisy Fulgham
05/15/2025
(#012) BDSM 101: Power, Play, and the Unexpected Turn-On with Daisy Fulgham
What if surrendering control could be the most empowering thing you’ve ever done? In this juicy first installment of a 3-part series on BDSM, Aimee is joined by fellow Somatica® coach Daisy Fulgham to explore the psychology, playfulness, and healing power behind BDSM dynamics. Recorded just after an immersive BDSM training, this episode offers a soft introduction to the world of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. Together, Aimee and Daisy share: · A clear, consent-centered definition of BDSM (and what it's not) · The different kinds of “subs” and why they enjoy the role · What it’s like to step into Dom energy for the first time · A vulnerable story of Aimee’s surprising college hookup that hinted at her core desires · A playful yet powerful exercise in getting someone to their knees — without ever touching them Whether you’re BDSM-curious, already exploring, or just want a peek behind the curtain, this episode is full of fun, insight, and perhaps some surprises about what it means to explore your erotic edge with care, curiosity, and consent. ⚠️ Warning: This episode is for adults only. Not safe for carpooling with the kids or your mom – unless she’s that kind of mom. If you're interested in private coaching with Aimee, visit and book a free Discovery Call. A little more about Daisy- Daisy Fulgham is a trained Sex and Relationship Coach through the Somatica® Method, dedicated to helping individuals and couples break down shame, uncover their core desires, and rewrite the story of their intimate life. Her work supports clients in building emotional vulnerability, enhancing sexual connection, and navigating dating challenges. Whether you're looking to reignite passion, grow in self-confidence, or connect more deeply with others, Daisy brings bold, compassionate guidance to help you own your pleasure and power. Her work is about more than just sex—it's about liberation.
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(#011) My Birthday Self-Devotion Ritual of Love & Gratitude
05/08/2025
(#011) My Birthday Self-Devotion Ritual of Love & Gratitude
It’s my birthday and There She Is is 2 months old! I have appreciation gifts for YOU! In this special birthday episode of There She Is, I’m celebrating by sharing one of my most cherished rituals: a powerful self-devotion practice I do each year to honor my body, reflect on my growth, and deepen my self-love. Deeper, more fulfilling connections and intimacy begin with your relationship with yourself. This is a simple and nourishing practice that invites in more self-love and gratitude for your amazing vessel, exactly as it is. Whether you have 5 minutes or 30, this practice can become a beautiful way to actually rewire your brain and how you feel about your body. If you're ready to awaken to more pleasure, presence, and appreciation in your life, you'll love this ritual! I also share a few birthday gifts for you, including special offers on coaching, breathwork sessions, and details about the next gatherings of Our Sacred Circle. In this episode, you’ll hear: A guided body love practice rooted in presence, gratitude, and touch How touch can rewire your brain to increase self-love and body acceptance A simple version of this practice you can use daily Insight into reclaiming your body — especially for mothers and midlife women Announcements and discounts for May: coaching, breathwork, and community circles ✨ Birthday Offers Mentioned: 20% off a 6-session coaching package (start by Sept. 30) Schedule a complimentary call (required) 20% off 3 private breathwork sessions (only 3 packages available!) no code needed Our Sacred Circle monthly gatherings — now with virtual options! All the details are at .
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(#010) A Compassionate Check-In: Are You Having the Sex You Want?
05/01/2025
(#010) A Compassionate Check-In: Are You Having the Sex You Want?
If you’re feeling disconnected from your sex life in midlife, you’re not alone. Last week I shared some reasons why I am having the best sex of my life, and this episode is an opportunity for you to ask yourself how fulfilled you are. There isn’t a need to fix or solve anything right now. Just compassionately check-in with what’s true for you. Midlife shifts so much: your body, your time, your energy, your desires.This isn’t about what needs changing. It’s about checking in with where you are right now—with honesty, curiosity, and compassion. In this Quickie, we talk about: Why awareness—not action—is the first step Redefining sex, intimacy, and connection in midlife The many reasons less sex or low desire are normal—and not shameful A powerful reframe around sexual trauma and healing 📍Whether you're curious, content, or craving more—this episode offers meaningful reflections to help you tune into what’s true for you. If you’'d like to explore this more with me, . I’d love to support you. Learn more about Aimee and her coaching at and follow her on Instagram .
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(#009) 4 Reasons Why I'm Having the Best Sex of My Life
04/24/2025
(#009) 4 Reasons Why I'm Having the Best Sex of My Life
Welcome to our first "Quickie with Aimee" - a solo episode in 20 minutes or less. I'm getting even more vulnerable in this one and diving into a topic I promised this podcast would explore more fully - sex in midlife. Inspired by a recent New York Times article about Gen X women having the best sex of their lives, I couldn’t help but shout same here! But why is that true for me? In this quickie episode, I share four personal reasons why, at age 50, I’m experiencing the most satisfying, fulfilling, and adventurous sex of my life. If you're curious about what might be possible for your own sex life - divorced, dating, single, or partnered - this one’s for you. 🔥 In this episode, I share: Why new partners have brought surprising freedom and possibility The power of connecting with your erotic energy - and how it affects so much more than sex How ditching alcohol has made my sex life even better The role of body love, acceptance, and confidence in creating deeper pleasure A little teaser - next week’s quickie will explore the flip side - why you might not be experiencing your best sex and what, if anything, you'd like to do to change that. Can't wait to listen? Download the episode and join me!
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(#008) The Love of Friendship — A Midlife Relationship That Changes Everything with Marni Ilyse
04/17/2025
(#008) The Love of Friendship — A Midlife Relationship That Changes Everything with Marni Ilyse
In this soul-nourishing episode, I’m joined by one of my dearest friends and chosen family, Marni Ilyse Rivera. We explore the power of deep friendship in midlife — the kind that sees you, supports you, and says “There she is” every time you show up as your full self. From our first meeting to becoming besties and “Mama partners”, we reflect on the magic of female connection, how chosen sisterhood has become one of the most transformative relationships in our lives, and what it means to walk through fire together. We laugh, cry, tease, and honor each other — and we invite you into the joy, safety, and radical acceptance that true friendship can offer. Whether you’ve found your “person” or are still longing for deep connection, this episode is a heartfelt reminder that it’s never too late to find your people, become yourself, and feel at home in love that doesn’t have to be romantic to be life-changing. In this episode, we talk about: The healing power of a midlife friendship built on loyalty, honesty, and unconditional love How Marni’s comfort in the discomfort allows her to show up for others — from grief and illness to everyday struggles — with presence, compassion, and homemade chicken pot pie The way breathwork cracked open a new channel of connection for Marni — creatively, emotionally, and spiritually — including powerful visits with her mom and grandma on the other side How her deep faith fuels her service and inspires her mentorship of the youth in our community, especially as a steady, loving presence for teens navigating loss and identity Our shared dreams of community living, spiritual growth, and what it looks like to cheer each other on as single women and moms Our dream of working together to create spaces for women in midlife to be supported and seen - Our Sacred Circle is just the start! If this episode touched you, share it with your special “Marni” friend. Or, if you’re seeking this kind of connection, come join Our Sacred Circle — a new gathering for midlife women to be seen, supported, and celebrated. 💛 Follow along and connect with me on IG or on my website Follow Marni on IG More details about Our Sacred Circle, a monthly gathering for midlife women, can be found
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(#007) The Midlife Sleep-Over with Kelly Day O'Brien
04/10/2025
(#007) The Midlife Sleep-Over with Kelly Day O'Brien
In this episode, Kelly Day O’Brien and I continue our conversation, this time with sleep in midlife as the focus. As a mindfulness and sleep coach, Kelly has some surprising and helpful insights and tips on how to support the most restorative sleep possible. For those of you who like to be in control, welcome to your growing edge! Kelly shares the most common physiological and psychological sleep challenges midlife women face, especially during perimenopause and menopause. We talk about hormone shifts, anxiety spirals at 3 a.m., the pressure to “sleep right,” and the profound impact of overthinking our rest. You’ll hear about: Why you can’t force sleep—and what happens when you try How midlife hormones change your sleep needs What “sleep hygiene” really means (and what it doesn’t) The role of mindset and surrender in getting better rest How connection—emotional and physical—impacts our sleep Practical tips for honoring your body’s shifting rhythms When and why sleeping separately might be something to consider This conversation is for you if you are tired of being tired, wanting to find peace with sleep, or looking for practical and mindful ways to support your unique body’s sleep needs. Hope you enjoy and blessings for sweet dreams! You can learn more about Kelly and her coaching at Aimee's website is and you can follow her on IG @aimeeamescoaching.
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(#006) Rewriting the Rules of Accountability with Kelly Day O’Brien
04/03/2025
(#006) Rewriting the Rules of Accountability with Kelly Day O’Brien
In this episode of There She Is, I’m joined by my accountability coach, Kelly, for an honest and empowering conversation about what it really means to hold yourself accountable—especially in midlife. As part of the year-long program Accountability Works (AW), I’ve discovered that effective accountability isn’t about rigid discipline or perfection, but about learning to meet yourself with compassion, curiosity, and the courage to pivot when something no longer fits. This approach has helped me grow my business while staying grounded in honoring my unique way of doing things. While this may not sound like a super sexy topic, I think you’ll find it very relatable as one of the everyday ways we can connect even more to our “There She Is” energy. It’s about personal growth, self-awareness, and showing up for yourself in the best and most loving way you can, for now. Highlights of our conversation include: The one commitment that got me into AW and how it eventually led me to the creation of this podcast The lessons that can be found in the missed commitments How compassion and curiosity—not shame—are the fuel for sustainable change The importance of honoring what’s most aligned for now and how redirection is not the same as quitting How midlife is the perfect time to reassess your “factory settings” and choose your desired system upgrades! Kelly Day O’Brien is a national board-certified health and wellness coach. She is trained in integrative and functional lifestyle methodologies and specializes in sleep behavior coaching. We also chatted a lot about sleep – some good basics for maximizing what you need, especially in midlife, and how trying less can often support you more. There was so much juiciness that you just get a teaser now, as that conversation will be a future episode. Stay tuned! Kelly’s website Accountability Works IG @accountabilityworks Aimee's website IG @aimeeamescoaching
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(#005) From Silence to Spotlight: The Menopause Monologues
03/27/2025
(#005) From Silence to Spotlight: The Menopause Monologues
In this rich and revealing episode of There She Is, Aimee is joined by three radiant women—Carrie Vanhouten, Lisa Ann Morrison, and Lulu Braunstein—who are bringing light, hot flashes, and heart to the stage with their bold, beautiful project: The Menopause Monologues. From their cozy East Bay gathering, they share how rage, laughter, and community came together to create a theater production that’s opening hearts and igniting conversations about menopause like never before. Through honest storytelling, vulnerable shares, and a whole lot of love, these women have made space for others to step into the spotlight and say, “There she is.” Whether you’re in the thick of perimenopause, post-menopausal, or just starting to wonder what it all means, you belong in this conversation. ***The information in this episode is NOT medical advice. We are simply sharing our stories and what we have learned along the way. Please consult with a doctor for any medical support or advice if you are experiencing any symptoms of perimenopause and want to know your options. There ARE options.*** In this episode, we talk about: The personal and collective birth of The Menopause Monologues How community storytelling creates connection and healing Vagina puppets, vibrator confessions, and the courage to laugh at it all The cultural silence around menopause—and why that’s changing Accepting vs. acknowledging what's happening in menopause How reclaiming the word “crone” is a feminist revolution The freedom, confidence, and “giving fewer f*cks” that can come with midlife The power of visibility—literally putting women’s stories in the spotlight Resources & Links: 🔥 Learn more and submit your story at: 🔥 Follow them on Instagram: 🔥 Join the Facebook community: The Menopause Monologues 🔥 Curious about HRT, menopause symptoms, and how to find good care? Check out The Menopause Society:
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(#004) The Death & Rebirth of Self: Finding Authenticity Through Transformation with Sarah Knapik
03/20/2025
(#004) The Death & Rebirth of Self: Finding Authenticity Through Transformation with Sarah Knapik
In my very first interview on There She Is, I share an intimate and inspiring conversation with Sarah Knapik, a mother, spiritual coach, and Bufo priestess stewarding Oakland’s first 5-MeO-DMT church. Sarah vulnerably shares her powerful story of how walking away from a picture-perfect life led her home to her own divine love. In this episode we dive into: How Sarah’s spiritual awakening began with a nervous breakdown that led to her greatest breakthrough The journey of shedding old identities to step into true authenticity The freedom of embracing the truth of “both/and” How Bufo (5-MeO-DMT) became a pivotal tool for her healing and transformation The role of psychedelics in reprogramming the subconscious mind and healing deep-seated wounds The power of integration and how true embodiment is more than just a single experience The invaluable gift of community and in one’s healing journey Wherever you are on your journey back to your unique and magical Divine Self, I hope our conversation inspires and supports you. 💫 Sarah is now accepting applications for her Devotion Program: The Path to Peace - a six-month immersive journey that combines deep inner healing, embodiment work, and a Bufo retreat to help women reclaim their power, connect with their higher self, and step into their soul’s purpose. Learn more on her website! 🔗 Resources & Links: Visit Sarah’s website: Follow Sarah on Instagram: Visit Aimee’s website: Follow me on Instagram:
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(#003) Breaking the Cycle: Why Your Pleasure Matters
03/13/2025
(#003) Breaking the Cycle: Why Your Pleasure Matters
What if the beliefs you’ve carried about love, worthiness, and intimacy aren’t actually yours? In this episode, we dive deep into the ways childhood conditioning shapes our sense of self — and how we can break free from the patterns that no longer serve us. In this episode, I open up about my transformative journey of unlearning the belief that love must be earned. I explore how deep-seated wounds shape our relationships, sense of pleasure, and ability to feel truly seen. Through somatic intimacy coaching, breathwork, and radical self-acceptance, I discovered a path to reconnect with my body, honor my desires, and step fully into my power. This conversation is raw, real, and packed with insights for any woman who has ever felt like she had to give more than she received — whether in relationships, sex, or life itself. 💡 In This Episode, We Explore: The impact of childhood wounds on our sense of self-worth How somatic coaching and embodiment practices help heal deep-seated beliefs The myth that women must "perform" in relationships to receive love Why slowing down and feeling safe is the key to deeper pleasure The power of reclaiming your voice, your body, and your desires If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re worthy of love, if you’ve felt disconnected from your body, or if you’re ready to step into the fullest version of yourself—this episode is for you. 🔗 Resources & Links: Visit my website: Follow me on Instagram:
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(#001) The Heart of There She Is: What This Podcast Is All About
03/08/2025
(#001) The Heart of There She Is: What This Podcast Is All About
Welcome to the very first episode of There She Is! I’m your host, Aimee Ames — a spiritual, joy-seeking sex and relationship coach — here to help midlife women rediscover themselves, unapologetically. In this intimate kickoff episode, I’ll share the inspiration behind the name There She Is and why midlife isn’t a crisis — it’s a powerful awakening. We’ll dive into what this podcast is all about: reclaiming your sensuality, embracing your true desires, and finding joy in every corner of your life. 💡 What you’ll hear in this episode: The personal story behind There She Is Why midlife is your second coming of age What to expect from future episodes: juicy conversations on sex, pleasure, creativity, and self-discovery A sneak peek of upcoming guests and topics ✨ Whether it’s a quiet realization in front of a mirror or a full-on goddess awakening, this space is for you. Let’s celebrate your journey to say, “There she is.” 🔗 Resources & Links: Visit my website: Follow me on Instagram:
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(#002) Reclaiming Pleasure, Power, and Boundaries
03/08/2025
(#002) Reclaiming Pleasure, Power, and Boundaries
What if the stories you’ve been told — and the ones you’ve told yourself—aren’t true? In this episode, we dive deep into the process of unlearning the limiting beliefs that have kept us small, disconnected, and out of alignment with our true selves. My guest shares her raw and powerful journey from people-pleasing and self-abandonment to reclaiming her voice, her body, and her desires. We talk about the impact of childhood conditioning, the societal expectations that shape us, and the moment she realized she had been living someone else’s version of success. Through breathwork, deep self-reflection, and radical honesty, she found the courage to break free from old patterns and step into the fullest expression of who she is. 💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How to recognize and release the limiting beliefs that no longer serve you The role of breathwork and embodiment practices in healing Why pleasure and self-expression are essential, not indulgent The power of setting boundaries without guilt How to embrace the unknown and trust yourself on the journey back home If this episode resonated with you, let us know! Share your biggest takeaway on Instagram and tag us at @aimeeamescoaching so we can celebrate your journey with you. 🔗 Resources & Links: Visit my website: Follow me on Instagram:
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