(#012) BDSM 101: Power, Play, and the Unexpected Turn-On with Daisy Fulgham
Release Date: 05/15/2025
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In this juicy first installment of a 3-part series on BDSM, Aimee is joined by fellow Somatica® coach Daisy Fulgham to explore the psychology, playfulness, and healing power behind BDSM dynamics. Recorded just after an immersive BDSM training, this episode offers a soft introduction to the world of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism.
Together, Aimee and Daisy share:
· A clear, consent-centered definition of BDSM (and what it's not)
· The different kinds of “subs” and why they enjoy the role
· What it’s like to step into Dom energy for the first time
· A vulnerable story of Aimee’s surprising college hookup that hinted at her core desires
· A playful yet powerful exercise in getting someone to their knees — without ever touching them
Whether you’re BDSM-curious, already exploring, or just want a peek behind the curtain, this episode is full of fun, insight, and perhaps some surprises about what it means to explore your erotic edge with care, curiosity, and consent.
⚠️ Warning: This episode is for adults only. Not safe for carpooling with the kids or your mom – unless she’s that kind of mom.
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A little more about Daisy- Daisy Fulgham is a trained Sex and Relationship Coach through the Somatica® Method, dedicated to helping individuals and couples break down shame, uncover their core desires, and rewrite the story of their intimate life. Her work supports clients in building emotional vulnerability, enhancing sexual connection, and navigating dating challenges. Whether you're looking to reignite passion, grow in self-confidence, or connect more deeply with others, Daisy brings bold, compassionate guidance to help you own your pleasure and power. Her work is about more than just sex—it's about liberation.
Connect with Daisy at DaisyFulgham.com