27: Breaking Free from Patriarchy, Sexism and Misogyny in Hetero Relationships with Vivek Patel
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In this episode I'm so honored to be joined by Vivek Patel of Meaningful Ideas to explore the impact of patriarchy, sexism, and misogyny in heterosexual relationships and how to break free from this toxic conditioning that contributes to so much pain for so many people. Vivek shares his own personal journey of recognizing and unlearning his own sexist conditioning and how this profoundly improved his own marriage. He also offers practical tips for how others can do this, too. Vivek emphasizes the importance of redefining masculinity, dismantling hierarchical mindsets, and the power of...
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26: Understanding Attachment Theory to Create Secure Relationships with Maya Diamond
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In this insightful episode of the Love Each Other Better Podcast, I’m honored to have a very special guest, relationship expert Maya Diamond. Maya guides us in a deep-dive into the fascinating world of attachment theory. She unravels the complexities of the four primary attachment styles—secure, avoidant, anxious, and fearful avoidant—and explores how our childhood experiences shape the way we connect in adult relationships. Maya shares practical, actionable advice for healing insecure attachment styles, offering listeners valuable tools to foster more secure and fulfilling...
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25: How to Be Assertive Without Being an A-hole
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In this episode we dive into how to communicate assertively without crossing into aggression. I share powerful insights from Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and offer practical tools to help you ask for what you want in a way that empowers you AND strengthens your connection with others. Whether you're navigating conflict with your partner, or just want to communicate more effectively, I’ve got heart-centered tips to help you create happier, more satisfying relationships. If you've ever wondered how to speak up for yourself without being confrontational, this episode is for you! ...
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24: Building Beloved Community with Roxy Manning, PhD
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In this episode of Love Each Other Better, I’m thrilled to welcome Roxy Manning, PhD, a psychologist, Nonviolent Communication trainer, and the author of How to Have Anti-Racist Conversations. Together, we explore the concept of the Beloved Community, inspired by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., and how it ties into Roxy’s work and activism. We dive into topics like having authentic and courageous conversations, addressing systems of oppression within families, and navigating how to handle harm in relationships. We also discuss the difference between positive and negative peace, and why...
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23: Relationship Resolutions for Your Best Year Yet
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Welcome to a special New Year’s episode! As we say goodbye to 2024 and look ahead to 2025, I’m diving into the idea of Relationship Resolutions. Whether it’s your partner, kids, friends, coworkers, or even yourself, the relationships in our lives shape so much of our joy and fulfillment. In this episode, I share simple, practical ideas for strengthening those connections in meaningful ways. Using insights from Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I’ll guide you through reflection and goal-setting so you can show up with more intention, communicate more clearly, and build relationships that...
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22: Challenging White Supremacy, Patriarchy, and Capitalism in our Families with Jen Lumanlan
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In this thought-provoking episode of the Love Each Other Better podcast, I sit down with Jen Lumanlan, host of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast and author of Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection & Collaboration to Transform Your Family and the World. Join us for an introduction to how white supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism shape family dynamics and influence parenting approaches, and how to shift out of traditional power dynamics to make family life easier and more connecting. Jen shares powerful insights and practical tools to help parents navigate conflicts and create family...
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21: Self-Regulation Strategies for Thriving Relationships with Dr. Gila
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In Episode 21 of the Love Each Other Better podcast, I’m joined by clinical psychologist, neuropsychologist, and certified parenting coach, Dr. Gila, to explore self-regulation strategies and their transformative impact on intimate relationships. Dr. Gila is a master at simplifying complex concepts in interpersonal neurobiology while providing practical, actionable tools for managing emotional stress so we can thrive in our relationships. In this illuminating episode that is infused with compassion, Dr. Gila discusses the importance of self-awareness, daily self-care...
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20: Building Connection: The Intersection of Neuroscience and Nonviolent Communication, with Sarah Peyton
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In this enlightening episode I'm joined by Sarah Peyton, a renowned neuroscience educator, author, and certified Nonviolent Communication trainer. We delve into the fascinating intersection of neuroscience and Nonviolent Communication, unpacking how our understanding of trauma, nervous system states, and attachment styles can profoundly influence our relationships. Key Topics Include: The neuroscience of attachment styles and their impact on relationships How trauma affects emotional regulation and relational dynamics The role of Nonviolent Communication in fostering secure attachments ...
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19: "How do we find time to connect in our busy lives?" Live Coaching with Noelle + Frank
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How do you keep the spark alive with your partner when life feels like a never-ending to-do list? In this very special episode, you get to be a fly on the wall as I sit down with Noelle and Frank, a married couple caught in the familiar struggle of staying emotionally and physically connected amid the demands of modern family life. Through live, real-time coaching, we: Uncover the hidden assumptions, miscommunication, and unmet needs creating distance between them. Use Nonviolent Communication (NVC) tools to clear up misunderstandings and foster deeper empathy. Craft a practical,...
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18: Exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy with Dr. Rachael Meir
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In this inspiring episode, we explore the nuances of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) with Dr. Rachael Meir, addressing common questions and concerns about polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of ethical/consensual non-monogamy. Dr. Meir breaks down the distinctions between terms like ENM and polyamory, explaining how ENM serves as an umbrella concept for a variety of relationship dynamics. We delve into how to create mutually satisfying agreements, manage complex emotions like jealousy, and ensure clear communication within non-monogamous relationships. Drawing from her expertise in...
info_outlineIn this episode, I dive into a common critique of Nonviolent Communication (NVC): that it feels robotic, formal, inauthentic, and unnatural. Have you encountered this criticism before, or do you share these feelings yourself? Or maybe your partner has said this?
NVC is a powerful framework for communication and conflict resolution, but some struggle with its structured approach, particularly the self-expression component involving observations, feelings, needs, and requests.
Let's unpack this criticism and explore why it's SO worth embracing the initial awkwardness of NVC.
Yes, NVC can feel awkward and unnatural initially, but consider the alternative: fruitless fights, simmering resentment, and unhappy relationships. NVC, with its radically heart-centered approach, offers a path to deeper connection, understanding, and mutual fulfillment.
Join me as we explore how NVC can open hearts and transform relationships. Let's embrace the unfamiliar and discover how to love each other better.
For personalized support in applying NVC to your relationship, explore my new Private Coaching Program for Couples at www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting.
Email me [email protected] with any questions or feedback about this episode - I'd love to hear from you!