Porn, Relationships, & The Boundaries Men Are Afraid To Set (Q&A Episode) | Ep. 318

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In this Q&A episode, Coach Frank Rich is joined by Coach Arnold, Head Coach inside The Rebuilt Man Brotherhood, to answer real questions submitted by men who are actively working to break free from porn addiction and rebuild their lives.

 

This conversation goes far beyond tactics.

 

Frank and Arnold address two deeply personal struggles that silently keep many men stuck:

• Trying to change others instead of changing yourself

• Carrying guilt, anxiety, and responsibility for people you’re no longer meant to carry

 

If you’re growing, evolving, and starting to feel resistance from relationships around you — this episode will hit home.

 

Questions Answered in This Episode

1️⃣ “My partner and I watch porn together and don’t see a problem with it. How should I respond?”

 

Frank breaks down why it’s not your job to convince anyone they have a problem and how trying to do so often drains your energy and pulls you back into old patterns.

 

Coach Arnold adds a neuroscience-based perspective, explaining how pairing porn with intimacy can create dangerous conditioning loops in the nervous system. Over time, this can lead to dependency, sexual dysfunction, and the inability to perform without external stimulation.

 

Key takeaway:

Real change doesn’t come from arguments.

It comes from identity, boundaries, and embodied transformation.

 

 

2️⃣ “How do I break free from the savior / rescuer / caretaker mentality while still serving my family?”

 

This question opens the door to a powerful discussion on people-pleasing, guilt, and upper-limit problems, especially with extended family.

 

Frank draws a clear line between:

• Being a protector and provider inside your home

• Being emotionally controlled by guilt outside your home

 

When a man commits to growth, old family dynamics can pull him back into past identities — often becoming a hidden trigger for relapse.

 

Coach Arnold explains how men unconsciously self-sabotage success to avoid outgrowing others, and why boundaries aren’t selfish — they’re necessary.

 

Key takeaway:

You don’t prove growth with words.

You live it and let others respond how they choose.

 

 

Core Themes Covered

• Why trying to “save” others keeps you stuck

• Porn, conditioning, and nervous system wiring

• Identity change vs behavior control

• People-pleasing as a hidden relapse trigger

• Family guilt, boundaries, and masculine leadership

• Outgrowing relationships without resentment

• Letting action — not arguments — lead transformation

 

 

This Episode Is For Men Who:

• Feel torn between who they were and who they’re becoming

• Experience guilt when they start doing better than their family

• Keep getting pulled back into old patterns around certain people

• Want real freedom, not just short streaks

• Are ready to lead their life from identity, not fear

 

 

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