This is What Blocks You From Authentic Relating with Starielle Hope| #45
This Tantric Life with Layla Martin
Release Date: 11/03/2024
This Tantric Life with Layla Martin
Shownotes How to use pain to carve out space for more joy The key to re-establishing beautiful orgasmic experiences Layla’s experience training terror into safety in her nervous system The tools that allowed Layla to love greater than her relational trauma Why some of our earliest imprints of whether pleasure is safe happen in infancy How to heal trauma from a resource perspective so it becomes a gift Bio Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and has taught over 50,000 people. Her best-selling book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out...
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Shownotes Nisha’s core components of leadership and why they’re so important The internal narrative Layla used to carry around leadership How to be both soft and gentle and ferocious and fiery as a woman Why we are exhausted from hypervigilance Steps you can take right now to build your own sanctuary Why the world represses mothers from their eroticism Bio Nisha Moodley is a Devotional Leadership guide, founder of Global Sisterhood Day, host of Devotion Podcast and a mother. As a biracial woman with training in health and executive coaching, ancestral...
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Shownotes Why relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t How to be fully present with what’s true in the moment Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important Why hiding your power creates disarray Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level Bio From a young age, Tom Slater sought to learn through direct experience, a path that has taken him across the globe, immersing himself in many traditional and indigenous...
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Shownotes The best and worst sex ideas of 2025 The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone Why safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic The biggest sexual problems people face Dr. Emily’s take on why people cheat How sex is a multi-layered experience Bio Emily Morse is a doctor of human sexuality and host of the award-winning #1 sexuality podcast, “Sex With Emily,” which has been on air for two decades. She’s a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and the bestselling author of Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ & Own...
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Shownotes The difference between secure attachment and secure functioning Why a deep desire for love is underneath all attachment styles How shared purpose in your relationship brings you closer Why you have to become a whisperer for your partner One of Dr. Tatkin’s top ways to create safety for your partner The biggest mistake people make in modern dating Bio Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is a clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, co-founder of the PACT Institute and an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He also teaches and supervises...
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Shownotes Layla’s most powerful manifestation ritual Why you have to grieve to step onto a new timeline The key to digesting a negative or heavy experience How to do Sex Magic in 10-15 minutes Bio Layla Martin is a visionary and thought leader who teaches on sexuality, relationships and self-love to people across the globe. Her devoted study of Tantra for 20+ years along with her sexuality, neuroscience and human biology studies at Stanford University have informed her unique teaching process and the creation of her proprietary VITA™...
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Shownotes Why the archetype of successful women is often unsuccessful in love The hardest thing about keeping things sexy as a mother Why rewiring ourselves for healthy love means being available to be chosen How the feminine archetypes impact dating and relationships Why we choose the love that feels comfortable to us, even if it hurts us Mel’s best advice for anyone who is worried about dying alone Bio Mel Wells is a world-renowned 7-figure love and leadership mentor for successful female entrepreneurs. She empowers women to create the love lives and...
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Shownotes The story behind the quasi-cheating incident that ended the relationship Why Ryan and Layla’s first kiss went horribly wrong How to take full responsibility for your actions and impact on others Why Ryan showed up at the Stanford campus in a full-on chicken costume How radical love is different than self-sacrificing What Ryan and Layla learned from opening their relationship Bio Ryan Cheney is a therapist, seeker, and guide devoted to the process of inner transformation. Based in Austin, TX, he works with individuals and couples to uncover what...
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Shownotes What Eva learned through menopause that she wishes she had known The science behind body changes in perimenopause and menopause Some of the key practices Eva recommends for midlife How meditation supports perimenopause and menopause How Eva’s needs with men and relationships changed through menopause Why Eva calls Kali the Patron Goddess of Menopause Bio Eva Clay is an acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and professional troublemaker whose mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex and science. She's helped thousands of...
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Shownotes Exactly what Internal Family Systems therapy is The actual mechanism that creates the most profound level of healing Psychedelics as a loving catalyst to know ourselves more The truth about psychedelic stigma Why it’s important to prepare your set and setting with psychedelics The difference between doses of psilocybin Bio Nick Brüss, EdD, LMFT, is a leading licensed psychedelic therapist, researcher and educator who is passionate about inspiring and helping people heal, grow and live creative lives. He’s pioneering treatments and programs that...
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Why pure play is so important in healing
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The importance of trusting the pace of your body
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A simple practice to make emotions conscious
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Why relational wounding is healed in relationship
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How to access your partner’s deepest magic
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What you can do to become more magnetic
Bio
Starielle Hope is a relationship and intimacy coach who specializes in working with people who have found success in their careers, but struggle to find the same success in relationships.
She grew up in a constant state of loneliness that she thought was normal because it was all she had ever known. After feeling terribly isolated because connecting with others didn’t come naturally to her, she experienced a wakeup call in her early 20s when I learned that, not only was this not normal, but she could actually learn how to connect more deeply with others just as she could learn any other skill. So she set out to reverse engineer connection and intimacy for herself.
Along the way, she discovered that she has a unique talent for taking abstract emotional concepts and breaking them down into tangible, step-by-step processes that those who are more comfortable in their logical/rational minds (like Starielle) can understand and adopt.
Learning how to connect more deeply with others has improved her happiness and well-being more than anything else she’s ever done, and she absolutely loves sharing what she’s learned along the way.
Starielle has been doing this work for over a decade now and loves every minute of it. She currently shares the knowledge she’s gathered through one-on-one coaching and online courses and will be publishing her first book later this year.
Discover more of Starielle’s work and connect with her on her website.
Timestamps
00:02:01 - Guest introduction
00:03:55 - How Layla and Starielle first met
00:08:30 - Starielle shares a powerful example of magnetism from Layla’s birthday
00:09:40 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com
00:10:28 - Why pure play is so important in healing
00:11:34 - Starielle shares about her personal growth path
00:13:05 - True play is the opposite of trauma
00:18:13 - Feeling your feelings allows you to sparkle
00:23:24 - The importance of trusting the pace of your body
00:23:49 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification
00:28:14 - Starielle shares a simple practice to make emotions conscious
00:34:00 - Relational wounding is healed in relationship
00:37:37 - 3 stages of dependence
00:43:11 - How to access your partner’s deepest magic
00:44:10 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements
00:45:19 - Get Layla’s free Orgasmic Breathwork Practice for deeper pleasure
00:46:30 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery
00:49:13 - The different energies of anger
00:52:43 - Men are meant to be warriors
00:56:20 - Expand your pleasure potential with Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass
00:59:52 - Why reading women’s signals is so important for men
01:05:50 - One of the biggest issues Starielle sees with men
01:09:15 - What you can do to become more magnetic
01:11:36 - Starielle shares her experience in VITA™ Coaching
01:15:10 - Conclusion