Episode 52: Entitlement in the Unfaithful: From Demanding to Devotion
Release Date: 08/28/2025
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Episode 52: Entitlement in the Unfaithful: From Demanding to Devotion
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Entitlement is the silent killer of recovery after infidelity. When an unfaithful partner comes from a position of entitlement, it poisons trust, sabotages healing, and deepens betrayal trauma. In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, we unpack how adult entitlement shows up in the unfaithful partner, why it destroys safety and trust, and what it takes to break free from it. 👉 For betrayed partners: You’ll hear why entitlement makes you feel invisible, invalidated, and unsafe—and why your pain is real and justified. 👉 For unfaithful partners: You’ll learn how entitlement fuels...
info_outlineEntitlement is the silent killer of recovery after infidelity.
When an unfaithful partner comes from a position of entitlement, it poisons trust, sabotages healing, and deepens betrayal trauma. In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, we unpack how adult entitlement shows up in the unfaithful partner, why it destroys safety and trust, and what it takes to break free from it.
👉 For betrayed partners: You’ll hear why entitlement makes you feel invisible, invalidated, and unsafe—and why your pain is real and justified.
👉 For unfaithful partners: You’ll learn how entitlement fuels continued betrayal trauma, how to spot it in your own thinking, and the steps needed to move from “deserve and demand” to “determined devotion.”
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
• The hidden ways entitlement rationalizes betrayal
• How entitlement hurts the Betrayed Partner
• How entitlement in the Unfaithful actually hurts the Unfaithful Partner (!)
• What drives selfishness, shame, and minimization
• Why entitlement blocks empathy and real accountability
• Steps to dismantle entitlement and rebuild relational integrity
Whether you are the betrayed partner searching for clarity or the unfaithful partner ready to change, this episode helps you recognize entitlement. For the Unfaithful, it will give you the tools to replace entitlement with humility, empathy, and growth - and relational repair.
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