How do I stop attracting unhealthy partners?
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
Release Date: 04/26/2025
How do I get over trust issues and stop ruining my relationships?
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
How do you stop sabotaging relationships when your trust issues keep getting in the way? Can you really learn to trust again after betrayal—or are you doomed to repeat the same painful patterns? In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who is struggling with deep trust issues that continue to harm his relationships, even when he knows his fears aren’t based in reality. Angela explores: Why betrayal trauma rewires our ability to trust How fear and anxiety can masquerade as intuition Why seeking constant reassurance from a...
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I have complex trauma from childhood. How do I learn to love myself?
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
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Why do people ghost after intimacy or conflict in relationships?
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
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My partner became someone I didn’t even recognize anymore. How do I learn to trust again?
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
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How do I heal while I’m in a toxic relationship?
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
Is it possible to heal your heart while you're still stuck in a toxic relationship? Or do you have to get out before true healing can even begin? In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who feels trapped—yearning to heal while still living with a partner who has caused deep emotional pain. Angela explores: Why survival mode and healing mode cannot happen at the same time How toxic relationships keep old wounds open, preventing real recovery Why letting go of trying to “earn” love is the first step toward freedom How...
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My partner wants to separate. How do I save my marriage?
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
What can you do when your relationship feels like it’s slipping away—and you're just now realizing how much was broken? Can love be rebuilt after separation? In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who is heartbroken over the possibility of losing his marriage. Now aware of communication issues he didn't fully understand before, he's asking how to become a better partner—and whether there’s any hope of saving the relationship. Angela explores: Why change has to start within, not with convincing your partner How...
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My wife doesn’t get along with my family. What do I do?
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
What happens when the people you love don’t get along—and you're stuck in the middle? How do you honor your partner's feelings without betraying your family, or yourself? In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who feels torn between his wife and his family during stressful holiday visits. His wife struggles with feeling disrespected by his mother and sister, but he’s spent years learning how to "go along to get along"—and now he's caught between them. Angela explores: Why “going along” with family dynamics...
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I can’t seem to move on from my vulnerable narcissist partner
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
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How do I stop attracting unhealthy partners?
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
What makes a relationship truly healthy—and how do you recognize when it’s not? Is it about working harder, lowering your expectations, or something deeper? In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who wonders how to stop attracting unhealthy partners and build real connection. Angela explores: Why you can’t “work harder” to make an unhealthy relationship healthy How to recognize the early signs of emotional unavailability or dismissiveness The difference between realistic relationship challenges and toxic dynamics...
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Can I have a healthy relationship when I have unhealed trauma?
Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma
Can you have a healthy relationship while still healing from trauma? What does healing actually look like when you’re trying to build something real and lasting with someone else? In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who wonders if it's possible to move forward in love after surviving an abusive relationship. Angela explores: Why trauma doesn’t just "disappear" before we start a new relationship How healing has two layers: what we can work through alone—and what only surfaces in relationship How intimacy naturally...
info_outlineWhat makes a relationship truly healthy—and how do you recognize when it’s not? Is it about working harder, lowering your expectations, or something deeper?
In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who wonders how to stop attracting unhealthy partners and build real connection.
Angela explores:
- Why you can’t “work harder” to make an unhealthy relationship healthy
- How to recognize the early signs of emotional unavailability or dismissiveness
- The difference between realistic relationship challenges and toxic dynamics
- Why healthy love feels different—and sometimes unfamiliar—after relational trauma
- How raising your standards (not lowering them) is key to finding lasting connection
- What it really means to be “good enough” in love
If you’ve ever found yourself bending, shrinking, or overworking just to hold a relationship together—or doubted whether you deserve more—this episode offers powerful guidance for honoring your worth and choosing healthier love.
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