Episode 14: Why Connection Changes Everything- A Conversation with Todd Sarner
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
Release Date: 07/18/2025
Episode 42: Before It Falls Apart- The Early Signs of Emotional Disconnection (with Dr. Lee Baucom)
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
In this episode of The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee, I sit down with marriage expert Dr. Lee Baucom to talk about something so many couples experience — emotional disconnection — often long before a relationship reaches a breaking point. We explore the subtle warning signs that a marriage is drifting into crisis, why couples don’t notice them until it feels “too late,” and what actually helps rebuild trust and emotional safety when things feel fragile. Dr. Baucom shares powerful insights about: The small moments that slowly erode connection Why couples misinterpret each other’s...
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Episode 41:The Most Empowering Shift You Can Make in Your Marriage- Own Your Thoughts
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
What if the most painful part of your marriage isn’t what your spouse is doing… but what you’re making it mean? In this episode of The FOCUS Podcast, we’re diving into the O in the FOCUS Framework: Own Your Thoughts — and this may be the most powerful shift you can make in your relationship. You’ll learn why: · Your spouse doesn’t actually cause your feelings · The meaning you assign to their behavior shapes your emotional experience · January often brings “crisis...
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Episode 40: How to Stop Spiraling - Separating Facts from Stories
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling after a short text, a quiet dinner, or a simple sigh — this episode is for you. In this week’s episode of The FOCUS Podcast, we’re breaking down one of the biggest hidden causes of conflict in relationships: the stories we tell ourselves. Most of the pain in your marriage doesn’t come from what your spouse actually did… It comes from what your brain made it mean. You’ll learn: · The difference between facts and stories · How your brain’s Reticular Activating...
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Episode 39: Why January Feels So Heavy for Your Marriage (And What Actually Helps)
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
January has a reputation for being “Divorce Month” — but the real story isn’t about statistics. It’s about what couples are feeling when the holiday noise fades and the emotional weight finally sets in. In this episode, Taralee breaks down why so many relationships feel like they’re falling apart in January, what’s actually happening beneath the surface, and why emotional clarity without a framework often leads to panic instead of progress. You’ll learn: • Why December distractions hide deeper issues • How your nervous system drives your relationship decisions • The...
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Episode 38: New Year, New Focus- Break the Patterns in Your Relationship
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
Welcome to a brand new year (2026) and a brand new season of The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee—where “what you focus on expands.” This episode is for you if 2025 didn’t go the way you hoped… and you’re ready to stop repeating the same patterns with a new calendar. In today’s kickoff, we’re talking about why goals don’t stick (hint: it’s not motivation—it’s your practiced patterns), and the simple framework I’ll be using all season to help you create real, sustainable change. Inside this episode: Why you “fall back” into old reactions under stress (and what to do...
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Episode 37: Season 1 Finale - What 2025 Taught Me About Real Change
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
This is the final episode of 2025 — and the Season 1 finale of The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee. In this episode, I’m wrapping up the patterns I saw again and again this year, sharing a simple end-of-year reset (no perfect journaling required), and giving you a Season 2 blueprint for 2026. We’re talking about the 3 things that actually create change in real relationships: Clarity — separating facts from stories so you stop reacting to assumptions Ownership — recognizing your influence without falling into self-blame Repair — learning how to come back faster after...
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Episode 36: From Duty to Desire - True Intimacy with Dan Purcell
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
In this episode of The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee, I’m joined by Dan Purcell, creator of Get Your Marriage On, for a deep, honest, and faith-friendly conversation about intimacy in Christian marriages—far beyond just “improving your sex life.” We talk about what real intimacy actually is: two imperfect humans learning to be emotionally and physically vulnerable, willing to truly be themselves with each other instead of performing or people-pleasing. Dan shares how his mission is to help Christian couples build the kind of inner strength, self-acceptance, and emotional safety that...
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Episode 35: No Accountability for the Space (with Dr. Lee Baucom)
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
When nobody owns the in-between—the tone after work, quick repairs, the simple “what’s on tonight?”—everything in a marriage feels heavier. In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Lee Baucom (author/coach, Save The Marriage System) to talk about shared accountability, conflict vs. contention, and tiny, visible habits that make evenings calmer and connection stronger. If you’re feeling like roommates, stuck in chase/withdraw cycles, or carrying the mental load alone, this conversation gives you simple language and follow-through you can actually keep. What you’ll learn The...
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Episode 34: Resentment From Past Conflicts
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
Resentment doesn’t usually show up as one big blow-up—it shows up as all the unrepaired little moments that keep sneaking into today’s conversation. In this episode of The FOCUS Podcast, Taralee Eddington (Marriage Crisis Coach + creator of the FOCUS Framework) breaks down “Resentment from Past Conflicts” in a simple, human, doable way—no lectures, no “communication perfection,” just clear tools that actually work when you’re tired and tender. You’ll learn why resentment is basically unfinished business, how “tiny” moments can feel huge when you’ve got old tabs still...
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Episode 33: The Ease of Seeing the Negative - Rewiring Your Marriage for What’s Working
The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee
Ever feel like one annoying comment from your spouse cancels out ten kind ones? Or like compliments bounce off, but critiques stick for hours? In this week's episode of The FOCUS Podcast, Taralee Eddington (Marriage Crisis Coach + creator of the FOCUS Framework™) walks you through Connection Killer #4 in the 7 Connection Killers series: The Ease of Seeing the Negative—and how to gently retrain your brain toward what’s true and working, not just what’s wrong. You’ll learn: Why your brain naturally scans for threat (negativity bias)—and why you’re not broken How negative...
info_outlineEpisode 14 – Why Connection Changes Everything: A Conversation with Todd Sarner
What if the most effective parenting strategy isn’t a strategy at all—but a relationship?
In this powerful and heartfelt episode, Taralee sits down with parenting coach and psychotherapist Todd Sarner, founder of Transformative Parenting and former faculty member at the Neufeld Institute, for a conversation that every parent needs to hear.
Todd shares his personal journey into parenting work, shaped by his own adolescence and deeply informed by attachment science and the teachings of Dr. Gordon Neufeld (Hold On to Your Kids). Together, Todd and Taralee explore:
💡 Why connection—not control—is the foundation of healthy behavior
🧠 How your child’s developing brain (especially the prefrontal cortex) impacts their emotions and choices
📉 What’s really behind bossy or defiant behavior
💚 How to “collect before you direct” and read your child’s emotional green light
🔁 The power of repair, even when you feel like it’s too late
🌪️ Why you must be the calm in your child’s storm—and how to do it
Whether you’re parenting toddlers, teens, or young adults, this episode will equip and encourage you to lead with confidence, compassion, and connection.
🎧 Don’t miss this one—it’s full of truth, hope, and actionable wisdom for every stage of the parenting journey.
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🎁 Ready to strengthen your relationship with your teen? Enrollment is now open for Taralee’s private 4-week coaching program — but doors close Sunday, July 20!
👉 Watch the free 10-minute intro video here: peacefulheartjourney.com/parent-teen-reconnect
Or Visit www.peacefulheartjourney.com
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✨ Learn more about Todd Sarner:
Todd Sarner is a parenting coach and psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience helping families move from power struggles and emotional overwhelm to calm, connection, and cooperation. His approach is grounded in attachment science and practical psychology, offering parents real-world tools that work—even in the heat of the moment. Todd is the Director of Transformative Parenting and was an original intern and former Faculty Member at the Neufeld Institute, where he was mentored by renowned developmental psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld.
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