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Episode 35: No Accountability for the Space (with Dr. Lee Baucom)

The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee

Release Date: 12/12/2025

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When nobody owns the in-between—the tone after work, quick repairs, the simple “what’s on tonight?”—everything in a marriage feels heavier. In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Lee Baucom (author/coach, Save The Marriage System) to talk about shared accountability, conflict vs. contention, and tiny, visible habits that make evenings calmer and connection stronger.

If you’re feeling like roommates, stuck in chase/withdraw cycles, or carrying the mental load alone, this conversation gives you simple language and follow-through you can actually keep.

What you’ll learn

  • The difference between conflict (normal) and contention (harmful) in marriage

  • How to stop the pursue–withdraw / chase–distance loop

  • What “accountability for the space” means—and why it rebuilds emotional safety

  • Two tiny rituals: a 20-second re-entry hug + “What’s on tonight?” to reset your evenings

  • A simple repair format (Event → Impact → Ask) that prevents resentment from piling up

  • Why shared vision + visible follow-through beats long talks you won’t keep

 

About my guest

Dr. Lee Baucom is the creator of the Save The Marriage System.  For over 3 decades, he has helped couples around the world to find their way back from crisis to a renewed and loving marriage.  He is the author of 7 books on thriving in life and on relationships, and the creator of numerous online courses.  Lee helps couples find the root cause of most marriage crises, and helps them find a way back, to get “un-paused,” as he says.  And yes, he is happily married, for over 37 years.  In his spare time, he plays pickleball, paddle boards, scuba dives, and does lots of hiking.

About Taralee

Taralee Eddington is a Marriage Crisis Coach and the creator of the FOCUS Framework™, a practical approach that helps couples calm conflict, rebuild emotional safety, and reconnect when things feel stuck or fragile. She supports couples and individuals who feel caught in painful patterns—walking on eggshells, repeating the same fights, or drifting into distance—and helps them understand what’s really happening underneath the conflict so they can take clear, steady steps toward healing. Taralee is the founder of Peaceful Heart Journey and the host of The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee.  She teaches tools that are simple, honest, and usable in real life.

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