Episode 4- Reclaiming Your Power in Marriage: Why Trying to Fix Your Husband Isn't the Fix
Release Date: 04/21/2025
Episode 40: From Pressure to Alignment: Redefining New Year Intentions
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As the year winds down, so many of us feel the pressure to set big goals, make sweeping resolutions, and “fix” ourselves before January arrives. In this episode, I invite you to pause, soften, and take a different approach. Instead of hustling toward change from a place of pressure or self-criticism, we explore how to reflect on the past year with honesty and compassion, reconnect with your why, and listen to what truly resonates for you—not what society, social media, or “experts” say you should want. I share personal stories about my own relationship with goal-setting, why...
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Episode 39: Disappointing Your Man: Rethinking Birthdays & Holidays
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In today’s episode, we’re talking about disappointment, birthdays, Christmas, and the pressure so many of us feel to make celebrations perfect. I’m sharing a very real story from my husband’s birthday and unpacking why we often tie our worth, safety, and sense of being loved to how other people experience us. This is a conversation about cutting the cords, calling your power back, and redefining what it really means to celebrate the people you love — without guilt, fear, or overfunctioning. If this episode resonates and you’re feeling tired of carrying so much in your relationship,...
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Episode 38 : Holding Beliefs for Your Man
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In this heartfelt episode, I open up about one of the greatest gifts I’ve learned to offer my husband: holding belief for him when he forgets who he is. I share a tender moment from my own marriage—lying in bed beside a husband who felt overwhelmed, stuck, and unsure—and the powerful shift that happened when I chose belief over judgment, presence over fixing. Through stories from youth sports, grief, and late–night tears, I show what it has looked like for me to be a quiet, steady companion instead of a rescuer. I talk about the viral “Hemingway” quote on human connection, why...
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Episode 37: Navigating Grief in Marriage
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Whether it’s the loss of a parent, a friend, a sibling, a child, a pet, or even grief brought on by world events—heartbreak will make an appearance in your relationship. And when it does, most of us realize we were never taught how to move through it, let alone how to move through it as a couple. I share openly about the very raw, recent loss of one of my husband’s closest college friends, what it stirred up in our home, and how differently the two of us process pain. You’ll hear honest stories, half-baked thoughts in real time, and the tools I lean on from my training, my past...
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Episode 36: Hobbies, Husbands, and the Myth of “Doing Everything Together”
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In this week’s episode, we explore one of the most common pain points I see in relationships: “My husband is always off doing his hobbies… and we have nothing in common.” I walk you through why you don’t need shared hobbies to feel deeply connected, loved, and aligned—and why forcing yourself into interests that aren’t authentic never creates real closeness. Instead, we look at how shared values, not shared activities, are what actually hold a relationship together. Through personal stories, relatable examples, and a gentle reframing of resentment, balance, and individuality,...
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Episode 35: The Order of Operations in Marriage and Business
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In today’s episode, we explore the surprising connection between math and creating a thriving marriage, business, and personal life. Using the classic order of operations (P.E.M.D.A.S.) as a metaphor, we break down the sequence of steps that lead to clarity, connection, and real success—starting with you. Just like in algebra, you can’t skip steps and expect the right outcome. We talk about why caring for yourself first is essential, how your thoughts act as exponents that amplify everything, why regulating your energy matters, and how healthy communication becomes possible only after...
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Episode 34: Shame In Marriage
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In this deeply honest and heartfelt episode, we explore what it truly means to love and accept all parts of ourselves—the light and the dark. Using powerful stories from everyday life, pop culture, and personal experience, this reflection reminds us that true connection begins with radical self-honesty. When we shine light on our hidden parts—our shame, our imperfections—we create space for healing, deeper love, and real transformation in our marriages, families, and communities. We can’t fully love others until we learn to love all of ourselves. Ignoring our “dark sides” only...
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Episode 33: Vulnerability, The Catalyst of Change
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Today's show is a little messier than usual. A lot of tears, so let this be your warning, but we are talking about the catalyst of change in your marriage, using vulnerability to absolutely transform you and your marriage and your business. Learning how to lean into what you're currently feeling without trying to change circumstances, without trying to find solutions. Learning how to be okay, not being okay.
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Episode 32:The Best Interest of the Collective
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If you're in a marriage that feels like me versus him, most of the time this is gonna be a podcast episode that you are going to love. We're gonna break down why that is, where that came from, and how to get out of it. Learning how to keep the best interest of the collective mind and learning how to shift from friend to foe in your marriage. ✨ If you love what you hear on this show and are tired of being the partner that does everything in your marriage, then begin with taking my free and get the partnership marriage you've dreamed of so you can scale your business with the...
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Episode 31: Being His Biggest Fan — Marriage Allyship
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What would change in your marriage if you became your husband’s biggest fan? In this heartfelt episode, Brooke dives deep into what it means to truly be your partner’s ally — not out of obligation, but from a place of love, connection, and emotional strength. Through her personal story of those early cabin years in the Adirondacks, she explores how genuine support can transform not only your relationship but also your sense of self. You’ll walk away with: 💞 A new perspective on what marriage allyship really looks like in daily life 🧩 Tools to rebuild connection and emotional...
info_outlineEpisode 4- Reclaiming Your Power in Marriage: Why Trying to Fix Your Husband Isn't the Fix
In this episode I’m telling the story of a girlfriend whose marriage went from resentment and disconnect to passion and partnership—and what really changed everything. (Hint: it wasn’t her husband.)
We’re talking about what it means to stop waiting for your partner to change and instead, reclaim your power, your voice, and your vision for love.
In this episode, I dive into:
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The common pattern of resentment and control in marriage—and why it pushes us farther from connection
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The shift from “he needs to change” to “what kind of wife do I want to be?”
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How to stop micromanaging and start feeling empowered in your relationship
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The secret to experiencing deep intimacy without waiting for him to act first
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What it really means to call your power back and show up as your full, vibrant self
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Why building your own self-concept is the key to everything you want in your marriage
Whether you're feeling stuck, craving more connection, or just want to feel alive again in your marriage—this episode is for you.
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You will learn how to let go of resentment and instead learn to love your man fiercely or love yourself enough to leave. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.