Episode 6- Marriage Ecosystem: Cultivating a Thriving Partnership
Release Date: 05/04/2025
Episode 20: What Men Want
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This episode is a raw, unfiltered reflection on what men truly want—and how understanding their core desires can shift the dynamic in your relationship and home. In this episode: The primal roles men are wired to fulfill Why men need to feel needed (and what happens when they don’t) How women unknowingly carry too much masculine energy The difference between the hero’s journey and the heroine’s journey How to begin healing your feminine energy What balance really looks like in a modern partnership This is for every woman who’s ever wondered, “Why do I feel like I’m...
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Episode 19: Why Your Boundaries Aren't Working (And What Will)
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Can you believe I’ve gone this long without doing a whole episode on boundaries? Today we’re diving all the way in — not just what boundaries are, but how so many of us are using them in ways that actually push love away instead of letting it grow. You’ll hear me talk about three types of boundaries: No boundaries (where resentment builds and we feel powerless), Boundaries of isolation (where we shut people out to feel safe), and Healthy bubble boundaries — my favorite — where we create just enough space to feel safe and deeply connected. I’ll also share my favorite...
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Episode 18-The Emotional Baggage We Bring Into Marriage-And How to Heal It
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In today’s episode, we dive into the emotional baggage we all carry — childhood wounds, unhealed trauma, unresolved feelings — and how they impact our relationships, especially our marriage. I open up about a moment this past weekend where I felt overwhelmed and triggered, and how I chose to pause, go inward, and process what I was feeling in my body rather than react. We’ll explore how emotional reactivity stems from unhealed wounds, why grounding ourselves is essential before vulnerability, and how to create an “emotional pause ritual” that brings us back to ourselves. You’ll...
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Episode 17- Soulmates or Roommates?
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Maybe your marriage feels like it's stuck on the surface. Like you're just business partners—doing your roles, getting through the week—but missing that deep, soulful connection you truly crave. You might even wish your husband would show up differently… help more, say more, do more. But no matter what changes, the connection still feels flat. Will it always feel like this? Or is there a way to reignite that passion and purpose without needing him to change? In this episode, we’re diving into exactly how to create a deep, soulful connection in your marriage—even if he stays exactly...
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Episode 16: Acceptance: The Secret to a Thriving Marriage
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Maybe it’s true he’s not supporting you the way you want. Maybe it’s true your marriage isn’t what you pictured. But every time you try to change reality, you create your own suffering. In this episode, I unpack why acceptance is not giving up, but the gateway to peace, clarity, and genuine love in your marriage. You’ll learn how leaning into what is can transform the way you show up as a wife—without needing your partner to change first. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my...
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Episode 15: When You Don't Feel Loved Back
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In today’s episode, I unpack why not feeling loved back can feel like agony in your marriage—and how to shift into a place of abundance without needing your husband to change. Learn why letting him love you his way can transform your connection, how to stop waiting for love, and how to become deeply grounded and secure in your marriage again. ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine energy is—and how to use it to reignite connection in your relationship? Take my free and uncover your personal path to intimacy, joy, and flow. 💫 It’s fun. It’s free. It’s...
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Episode 14- From Control to Connection: Reclaiming Your Feminine Energy
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Feeling overwhelmed, overfunctioning, or like you’re constantly in “fix-it” mode in your marriage and everywhere else for that matter? In this episode, we explore 3 powerful ways to shift from control to connection—realigning with your feminine energy, softening your nervous system, and learning to create without pressure to produce. This is your invitation to slow down, tune in, and return to who you really are. Doing so will create WILD RADICAL connection in your marriage. (without needing your husband to change) ✨ Want to discover what your unique flavor of feminine...
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Episode 13- Emotional Whiplash in Your Marriage: How to Get Out
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Do you bounce between feeling totally in love and totally over it? One moment you're connected and laughing, the next you're wondering if your marriage will make it? That exhausting back-and-forth is what I call emotional whiplash — and it's more common than you think. In this episode, I unpack why so many of us get stuck in the extremes of marriage, how black-and-white thinking keeps us suffering, and what it really takes to break free. We’ll talk about nervous system regulation, reclaiming your emotional power, and how to stop reacting and start consciously creating the relationship you...
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Episode 12- Useful Fighting: Turning Conflict into Connection
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In this episode of The Spice of Wife Podcast, we dive into the truth about fighting in marriage — not all conflict is bad, but how we fight matters. I share a real, raw story of a couple on the brink and breaks down what made their fights destructive vs. what ultimately helped them reconnect. Learn why avoiding fights can be more dangerous than having them, how to tell when you're in a "high emotion, low logic" state, and what it means to fight fair with love, regulation, and self-awareness. You’ll Walk Away With: How to recognize useful vs. unhelpful fighting The 4 Spice of Wife...
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Episode 11- Go Dark to Grow Light: How to Heal the Hard Parts of Your Marriage
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In today’s episode, we explore one of the most powerful — and uncomfortable — truths in marriage: What we avoid doesn’t go away. It grows. Whether it’s mismatched sex drives, money conflicts, broken trust, or parenting tension, there’s often a part of your marriage you’ve quietly decided to tiptoe around. It seems safer. Less disruptive. But over time, that “unspoken space” starts to take up more emotional real estate — leaving you tired, resentful, and disconnected. Join me as I share: A personal story about public speaking and “dark corners” in the crowd What bees...
info_outlineDo you ever feel like your marriage is two people trying to share a canoe with no paddles in opposite directions? Yeah, same. Today I'm sharing one shift in perspective that completely changed the way I show up in my marriage. And honestly, it's not what you think. It's simple, it's powerful, and no, it doesn't involve better communication skills or planning more date nights.
Although plus those two, if you've ever wondered, is it supposed to feel this hard, or why does it seem like we're working against each other instead of together? This episode is for you. Get ready for a fresh take that might change everything.
In this episode you Brooke dives into:
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🌼 Marriage as a Garden: Why seeing your relationship as a shared, living entity can change everything.
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🌿 The Gardener Analogy: You and your partner are co-gardeners — tending to your shared space with intention and care.
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🛠️ Traditional vs Entity Mindset: Move from “his way vs. my way” to “what’s best for the marriage?”
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🍅 Fruitful Conflict: How disagreements and “decay” in the relationship can feed new growth.
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💧 Daily Check-ins: Ask, “Is this strengthening or straining our garden?”
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💡 Shared Vision: Define what you truly want your marriage to look and feel like — together.
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🤝 Responsibility Without Scorekeeping: Embrace natural collaboration without resentment.
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🌞 Self-Care = Garden Care: Healthy gardeners make for a thriving garden — take care of yourself, too.
Whether you’re feeling distant from your spouse or just craving deeper connection, this episode will leave you inspired to see your relationship through a whole new lens — one filled with color, compassion, and connection.
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You will learn how to let go of resentment and instead learn to love your man fiercely or love yourself enough to leave. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.
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