Navigating Relationship Challenges
Recovering Us
The conversation explores the challenges faced in relationships, particularly during times of stress and uncertainty. It highlights the importance of communication and support systems, such as marriage encounter programs, in navigating these difficulties. The speaker shares personal experiences of addressing fears related to economic security and parenting while in professional training, emphasizing the role of emotional expression in strengthening relationships. Takeaways Bickering can escalate during challenging times. Economic security fears can impact relationships. Marriage encounter...
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Navigating Coupleship Dysfunction
Recovering Us
In this episode of the Recovering Us podcast, hosts Sandra and Dan explore the complexities of coupleship dysfunction and the journey towards recovery. They discuss various characteristics of dysfunctional couples, emphasizing the importance of communication, interdependence, and emotional safety. The conversation highlights the significance of asking for needs, exploring intimacy beyond sex, and facing problems together as a couple. They also touch on the importance of playfulness, expressing true feelings, and accepting individual responsibilities in a relationship. The episode concludes...
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The Power of Full Commitment
Recovering Us
The conversation explores the importance of bringing one's full self to relationships, emphasizing personal responsibility and self-regulation. It discusses how shifting from a mindset of shared percentages to full commitment can enhance relationship dynamics. Takeaways We each bring our full 100% to relationships. The notion of bringing 50% can lead to blame. Taking responsibility for our contributions is crucial. Self-regulation is key to healthy interactions. Compassionate treatment of partners enhances relationships. Shifting perspectives can lead to valuable changes. Constructive...
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Building Bridges: The Power of Safe Communication
Recovering Us
In this episode of the Recovering Us Podcast, hosts Sandra and Dan discuss the importance of safe communication in relationships, particularly for couples affected by addiction, dysfunction, and trauma. They share their experiences and tools for creating a safe space for dialogue, emphasizing the need for agreements that outline respectful communication practices. The episode covers identifying dysfunctional communication patterns, developing a communication agreement, and the importance of implementing and using these agreements effectively. The hosts also address challenges that may arise...
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The Need for Safety in Couples Recovery
Recovering Us
In this episode of Recovering Us, hosts Sandra and Dan discuss the foundational safety guidelines that have significantly impacted their relationship. They explore the importance of creating a safe environment for vulnerability and intimacy, the inevitability of mistakes in relationships, and the necessity of respectful conflict resolution. The conversation emphasizes the significance of recognizing and expressing needs, maintaining self-respect, and the role of anonymity in fostering a healthy coupleship. Through their personal experiences, they illustrate how these guidelines can transform...
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The Power of Quick Repairs in Relationships
Recovering Us
In this episode of the Recovering Us podcast, hosts Sandra and Dan discuss the concept of quick repairs in relationships, particularly for couples affected by addiction, dysfunction, and trauma. They explore how small, unskillful moments can accumulate and impact relationships, and introduce a tool for making quick repairs to restore connection and understanding. Through personal examples, they illustrate the importance of recognizing mistakes, taking accountability, and appreciating each other to strengthen their emotional bond. The episode emphasizes the significance of communication and the...
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Navigating Conflict with the Mirroring Dialogue
Recovering Us
In this episode of 'Recovering Us', hosts Sandra and Dan discuss the mirroring dialogue tool, a technique they use to improve communication and resolve conflicts in their relationship. They share personal anecdotes, particularly around driving, to illustrate how misunderstandings can arise and how the mirroring dialogue helps them navigate these challenges. The conversation emphasizes the importance of listening, understanding each other's perspectives, and maintaining emotional safety in relationships. Takeaways The mirroring dialogue is a tool for improving communication. Conflict often...
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Our Story: How we went from struggling to strong!
Recovering Us
The conversation emphasizes the significance of mutual support in relationships, highlighting that issues faced by one partner should be recognized as collective problems that need to be addressed together. This approach fosters emotional safety and strengthens the bond between partners. Takeaways A problem for one partner is a problem for the relationship. Mutual support is essential for a healthy relationship. Both partners should take each other's concerns seriously. Emotional safety is crucial in addressing relationship issues. Communication is key to resolving conflicts together....
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Welcome to Recovering Us
Recovering Us
Welcome to Recovering Us
info_outlineIn this episode of the Recovering Us podcast, hosts Sandra and Dan explore the complexities of coupleship dysfunction and the journey towards recovery. They discuss various characteristics of dysfunctional couples, emphasizing the importance of communication, interdependence, and emotional safety. The conversation highlights the significance of asking for needs, exploring intimacy beyond sex, and facing problems together as a couple. They also touch on the importance of playfulness, expressing true feelings, and accepting individual responsibilities in a relationship. The episode concludes with reflections on breaking family patterns of dysfunction and the positive changes that can arise from understanding and addressing these issues.
Takeaways
- The podcast aims to help couples affected by addiction and trauma.
- Dysfunction is common in coupleships, leading to the need for recovery.
- Open communication fosters intimacy and empathy in relationships.
- Interdependence strengthens coupleships, while enmeshment can be harmful.
- It's important to ask for needs to be met in a relationship.
- Intimacy can be expressed in many ways beyond sexual connection.
- Facing problems together is crucial for relationship health.
- Rediscovering playfulness can enhance joy in relationships.
- Accepting individual responsibilities reduces blame and conflict.
- Effective conflict resolution is key to a healthy coupleship.
Sound bites
- "We are a recovering couple."
- "It's acceptable to ask what we need."
- "We've forgotten how to play together."
Chapters
- 00:00 Introduction to Recovering Us Podcast
- 01:58 Understanding Dysfunction in Coupleships
- 03:58 Characteristics of Dysfunctional vs. Functional Couples
- 09:55 Self-Medication and Emotional Expression
- 12:57 Interdependence vs. Codependence in Relationships
- 15:52 The Importance of Asking for Needs
- 22:51 Intimacy Beyond Sexuality
- 27:56 Facing Problems Together as a Team
- 32:53 Rediscovering Playfulness in Relationships
- 36:04 Expressing True Feelings
- 37:44 Taking Responsibility in Conflict
- 40:57 Healthy Conflict Resolution
- 42:03 Breaking Family Patterns of Dysfunction