From Sexless Marriage to Orgasmic Life: Xanet Pailet on Healing Shame, Energy & Intimacy
Unlearn The Crap & Level Up Your Soul is Calling
Release Date: 10/21/2025
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Unlearn The Crap & Level Up Your Soul is Calling
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info_outlineWe were told not to talk about money, sex, or politics but that rule kept us small.
This episode cracks open sexual shame, emotional safety, and the truth about real intimacy.
Former healthcare lawyer Xanet Pailet left a 26-year sexless marriage at 50 and rebuilt her life as a sex and intimacy educator. In this raw, liberating conversation, we unpack how breath, sound, and movement move sexual energy from the root to the heart, why emotional safety is the doorway to desire, and how your core desires, to be adored, taken, or cherished, often echo childhood wounds and even ancestral patterns.
If you’re done performing and ready to feel, this is where empowerment starts.
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📚 Explore Kathy’s books: Unlearn the Crap & Level UP: Your Soul Is Calling and How I Unlearned My Crap — available on Amazon and in bookstores.
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Quotes
Xanet Pailet
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“Safety is the doorway to desire.”
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“Your core desire comes from your core wound—know it, honor it, communicate it.”
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“Sexless marriage is a symptom of injured emotional connection.”
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“Breath, sound, and movement turn performance into presence.”
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“When the second chakra is blocked, everything above it shuts down.”
Kathy Baldwin
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“Your body keeps the promises your mouth refuses to speak.”
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“Pleasure is a birthright, not a reward for perfection.”
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“If you’re done performing and ready to feel, this is where empowerment starts.”
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“Challenge everything so you can achieve anything including an orgasmic life.”