S18 E20 - Friendship in the Lord: Friendship is Two People Growing (Chapters 3 & 4)
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In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on the ways God invites us to grow through the relationships He has entrusted to us. We talk about the importance of rightly ordered love, why true friendship always draws our gaze toward Christ, and the beauty of virtuous friendships between men and women. We also talk honestly about the fears, wounds, and misunderstandings that can arise in friendship, and the importance of repair in deepening a friendship. Friendship is not about finding someone to complete us, but about walking together toward holiness while...
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S18 E19 - Friendship in the Lord: What Friendship Means (Chapters 1 & 2)
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In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on what it means to be truly known, deeply loved, and fully at home with another. We talk about why we must first learn to abide in the love of God, how appreciation helps others become who they were created to be, and what it looks like to grow in friendship over time. Whether friendship feels life-giving or challenging in this season of your life, we invite you to bring every desire, wound, and longing before the Lord, who first calls you His friend. Announcement: You can buy your copy of...
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S18 E18 - Friendship in the Lord: Foreword and Prologue
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In this episode, we begin our summer book study on Friendship in the Lord by Fr. Paul Hinnebusch, OP. We focus on the foreword and prologue and reflect on the difference between prudence and fear, the ways we self-protect in relationships, and our longing for authentic communion. We also talk about what it means to love without possessing, how to receive others as a gift, and why friendship is a foretaste of heaven. Other Resources Mentioned: Announcement: If you’d like a copy of Friendship in the Lord, you can buy your copy from (or ). Journal Questions: How...
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S18 E17 - The End of A Season
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In this episode, we conclude season 18 by reflecting on the grace-filled moments this past season and the quiet ways the Lord continues to invite us into deeper communion with Him. We share who our favorite guests were, which episodes deeply ministered to us, and what we are hoping for in this next season. Thank you for spending this season with us, friends. It has been such a gift to walk alongside you in every conversation, prayer, and story shared. We’ll be holding you close in prayer over the summer and look forward to gathering with you again on July 6th, 2026 for our summer book...
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S18 E16 - Preparing for Pentecost
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In this episode, we reflect on how Pentecost is more than just an event of the past, but can be an ongoing outpouring of God’s love and grace in our lives today. We discuss how the Holy Spirit helps heal our wounds, restores communion with God, and teaches us how to live with power and boldness, even in the places where we feel unable to love the Lord. As we prepare our hearts for Pentecost, we talk practically about cultivating a posture of receptivity, learning to invite the Holy Spirit more deeply into our hearts, and how to allow His fire to illuminate our identity and transform us from...
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S18 E15 - Sacred Wounds
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In this episode, we reflect on the sacred wounds of Jesus, the reality of our own woundedness, and Jesus’ invitation to make us well. We talk about how our wounds, so often hidden in shame or self-protection, when transformed, can actually become places of communion and grace. We also share about our personal experiences of facing fear or disappointment and how the slow, often painful, process of healing reminds us that God’s ways are not our own. Jesus tenderly meets us in every broken place within our hearts and ardently desires to make all things new. Heather’s One Thing - ...
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S18 E14 - Prophetic Motherhood
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In this episode, we reflect on the beautiful call of women to prophetic motherhood. We talk about how Our Lady models for us a motherhood that speaks life and calls forth goodness to all those she encounters. We also ponder what it means to be a spiritual mother, how Mary can help heal our wounded experiences of motherhood, and the difference between affirmations and prophetic words. As Pentecost draws near, we invite you to ask for Our Lady’s intercession to prepare your heart for a fresh outpouring of grace and to help you become a woman who brings life wherever she goes. ...
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S18 E13 - Marriage and Meaning with Special Guests Arthur and Ester Brooks
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In this episode, we welcome Arthur and Ester Brooks to talk about marriage, suffering, and the path to lasting love. Arthur and Ester share what it’s like to minister together, revealing both the grace needed and the hard work it takes to love each other faithfully over decades. We also reflect on suffering as an invitation for growth, why pain is fruitful, and how the hardest places in life are where love is purified. Whether you are married, single, or in religious life, intimacy with God is our source of strength for every situation we encounter in life. Heather’s One Thing...
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S18 E12 - The Way of Trust and Love: Enduring Trials
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Happy Easter! In this episode, we conclude our Lenten book study on “” and focus on Chapter 6: Enduring Trials. We talk about how even in the light of Easter, we may still experience suffering and how we can choose to rejoice in God’s goodness when His ways remain hidden. We also reflect on why trials are not signs of God’s absence, how we learn to recognize God at work in the present moment, and how to embrace suffering as a necessary path to share in the fullness of Easter. Friends, in this Easter octave, we invite you to reflect on how God has transformed your heart this past Lent....
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S18 E11 - The Way of Trust and Love: God’s Infinite Mercy
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In this episode, we continue our Lenten book study on “” and focus on Chapter 5: God’s Infinite Mercy. We reflect on the paradox of true strength—how becoming little, dependent, and surrendered before the Lord is the very place where His strength takes root in us. We also talk about what it means to live with a pure heart, not by striving harder, but by bringing every part of ourselves into honest communion with Christ and allowing His kindness to call us higher. This week, as we wrestle with fear, worry, and the temptation to rely on ourselves, we encourage you to be reminded that it...
info_outlineIn this episode, we conclude our series on the garden of our hearts and explore what it means to cultivate unity—which is especially important as we enter the busy and often stressful holiday season. We talk about the difference between anger and contempt and how contempt can not only fracture relationships but also plant seeds of division in our hearts. We also reflect on how we can respond to discord with humility, a holy curiosity, and a genuine desire to understand. Ultimately, unity begins with love, bears good fruit, and reflects the presence of Christ within us.
Heather’s One Thing - The Cheesecloth Turkey Basting Method (Example Here)
Sister Miriam’s One Thing - College Volleyball Playoffs (especially Nebraska)
Michelle’s One Thing - Twinkling Trees from Walmart
Announcement:
Our Advent Study begins December 1st, 2025!
Journal Questions:
- Where in my heart am I harboring contempt?
- What groups of people or individuals do I see as worthless?
- When was the last time that someone treated you with contempt? How did that impact you?
- How am I seeking to understand people with different opinions?
- How is the Lord inviting me to refine and cultivate my tone to speak love to others?
- When faced with division and disunity, are the movements of my heart and my external actions congruent?
Discussion Questions:
- What differences have you observed between conformity and unity?
- What differences have you observed between anger and contempt?
- When are you tempted to roll my eyes, sneer, act with hostility, speak with sarcasm?
- When is it hardest for you to cultivate unity?
Quote to Ponder:
“To understand one another and to grow in charity and truth, we need to pause, to accept and listen to one another. In this way, we already begin to experience unity. Unity grows along the way; it never stands still. Unity happens when we walk together.” (Pope Francis, Homily at second Vespers on the solemnity of the conversion of St. Paul, Jan. 25, 2015)
Scripture for Lectio:
“I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all lowliness and meekness, with patience, forbearing one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit… one Lord, one faith, one baptism.” (Ephesians 4:1-6)
Sponsor - Glory: Women’s Gathering:
If you’re feeling like your spiritual life could use a little more support than podcasts and online formation can offer, you need to check out this week’s sponsor, the Glory: Women’s Conference hosted by Steubenville Conferences in partnership with Heather Khym.
We want to invite you to join Heather, Michelle, and our dear friends Debbie Herbeck, Sarah Kaczmarek, Monica Richards, and Fr. Dave Pivonka TOR this coming June 5-7 in Steubenville, Ohio, as we gather with women across generations and seek God’s restoration and healing. This gathering will include talks, worship, prayer experiences, and the opportunity to interact with fellow Abiding Together listeners and new friends from all over who will be flying in.
Heather and Michelle would absolutely love to meet you. Whether you come with your Abiding Together small group, with a close friend, or on your own, we can’t wait to gather in fellowship with you.
Registration is now open for the Glory: Women’s Conference. For early bird pricing of only $259, register by December 31st. The price will go up in the new year.
Visit steubenvilleconferences.com/events/glory for more information or to register!
Chapters:
00:00 Glory: Women’s Gathering
01:31 Intro
02:22 Advent Announcement
03:14 Welcome
05:19 Guiding Quote and Scripture Verse
06:19 Distinguishing Anger vs Contempt
11:28 Living Like We are One Body in Christ
13:48 Seeking to Understand Rather than be Understood
18:22 The Power of Our Tone of Voice
20:35 Examining the Fruit in Our Lives
22:49 Maturing Spiritually
27:06 Repairing Strained Relationships
29:08 One Things