Episode 368: Two Tabs, One Artist- Keeping Your Spicy Work Separate (and Safe)
Release Date: 12/17/2025
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Episode 368: Two Tabs, One Artist- Keeping Your Spicy Work Separate (and Safe)
Acting Business Boot Camp
The Art of Keeping Things Separate This topic comes up more than people admit. Usually in a whisper. Or an email that starts with, “This might be a weird question…” It’s not weird. It’s just complicated. A lot of actors are working in NSFW or spicy spaces. Erotica audiobooks. Adult games. ASMR. OnlyFans. Patreon. Sensual storytelling. And at the same time, they’re booking e-learning, commercials, family-friendly narration, children’s content. The work itself isn’t the problem. The overlap is. So I want to talk about how to keep those worlds separate in a way that’s...
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info_outlineThe Art of Keeping Things Separate
This topic comes up more than people admit.
Usually in a whisper. Or an email that starts with, “This might be a weird question…”
It’s not weird. It’s just complicated.
A lot of actors are working in NSFW or spicy spaces. Erotica audiobooks. Adult games. ASMR. OnlyFans. Patreon. Sensual storytelling. And at the same time, they’re booking e-learning, commercials, family-friendly narration, children’s content.
The work itself isn’t the problem.
The overlap is.
So I want to talk about how to keep those worlds separate in a way that’s professional, grounded, and sane.
Not from a morality angle. From a business one.
Why This Feels So Loaded
Most of the discomfort doesn’t come from the work.
It comes from fear.
Fear of being judged.
Fear of being misunderstood.
Fear that one client will see something they weren’t meant to see and make a snap decision about you.
And honestly? That fear isn’t irrational. Algorithms don’t understand nuance. Brand managers don’t scroll thoughtfully. Google definitely doesn’t care about context.
So when people ask, “Should I be hiding this?” what they’re really asking is, “How do I protect my career without betraying myself?”
That’s the real question.
What Separation Actually Is
Separating your spicy work is not about shame.
It’s about clarity.
You’re not hiding your art. You’re organizing it.
Just like authors use different names for different genres, actors can use separate identities for separate audiences. A pseudonym. A distinct brand. A different website, email, and social presence.
Both are real. Both are you. They just serve different people.
When everything lives in one place, clients get confused. And confused clients don’t book.
Clear clients do.
The Practical Line in the Sand
A few things matter more than people realize.
Separate branding.
Different headshots, colors, fonts, tone. If one side of your work says PBS and the other says sultry midnight headphones, they should not look related.
Separate metadata.
File names, tags, credits. This is where people accidentally connect dots they never meant to connect.
Separate systems.
Emails. Phone numbers. Invoicing if you can. Boundaries get easier when logistics support them.
None of this makes you secretive. It makes you intentional.
When the Worlds Almost Touch
This is the moment that spikes everyone’s nervous system.
Someone recognizes your voice.
A link gets shared accidentally.
A client stumbles across something unexpected.
Here’s the rule. Don’t panic.
If you’re comfortable acknowledging it, a simple line works:
“I work in multiple genres under different names to keep my projects organized.”
That’s it. No explanation tour. No justification.
You’re allowed to run your business like a business.
And if you’re not comfortable bridging those worlds, quiet consistency does the work for you. No cross-linking. No wink-wink posts. No mixing lanes just this once.
Something We Don’t Talk About Enough
Adult performance work can take real emotional energy.
Just like screaming in video games.
Just like intense drama.
Just like anything that asks your nervous system to open.
So recovery matters. Boundaries matter. Choice matters.
Doing one kind of spicy work does not obligate you to do all of it.
Your comfort line is allowed to move, but it’s also allowed to exist.
Take care of the system holding all of this. One artist. One body. One brain.
A Thought I’m Sitting With
People assume separation means being two different people.
I don’t see it that way.
I see one whole artist with range and boundaries.
Different lighting. Different outfits. Same integrity.
The goal isn’t secrecy.
It’s sovereignty.
You decide who sees what, where, and when. That’s not avoidance. That’s professionalism.
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