Episode 402 - Sexual Simmering
Sex for Saints
Have you ever noticed how sex can feel like something you “check off,” followed by days or weeks of not thinking about it at all? In this episode, I’m inviting you to consider a different way of relating to your sexuality that doesn’t require pressure, performance, or forcing yourself to feel desire. The idea is called “simmering” and I will explain how staying gently connected to your sexual self between encounters can make sex feel easier, more natural, and more mutual. We’ll talk about how anticipation and awareness create desire over time, especially if you’re the lower...
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Episode 401 - Lies Your Brain Tells You About Sex
Sex for Saints
In this episode, I’m talking about the lies your brain tells you about sex and how those thoughts quietly sabotage connection in your marriage. I explain why your brain is wired to see sexual vulnerability as a threat, how past experiences and conditioning shape the stories you believe, and why those stories feel so true even when they aren’t. We look at the specific lies that tend to show up for both higher-desire and lower-desire partners, and how those patterns keep couples stuck in fear, shame, and disconnection. I also share practical ways to recognize when your brain is lying, how to...
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Episode 400 - Why Flirting Can Backfire
Sex for Saints
This episode marks my 400th conversation about sex, marriage, and building a relationship that actually feels good to live inside, and I’m incredibly grateful you’re here for it. To celebrate, I dive into why flirting can either create connection and desire or quietly turn into pressure that pushes your spouse away. I explain how flirting is meant to be playful and connective, not a disguised request for sex, and why the underlying dynamic matters more than the behavior itself. We talk about different flirting styles, how mindset shapes how flirting lands, and what to do when affection has...
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Episode 399 - Infusing Sexual Energy Throughout Your Marriage
Sex for Saints
In this episode, I’m talking about what it really looks like to infuse sexual energy throughout your marriage, not just during planned intimacy, but in the everyday moments that make you feel desired, connected, and alive together. I share stories, examples, and real quotes from couples who’ve learned how to build a playful, pressure-free erotic undercurrent that carries through their whole day. You’ll hear how touch, texting, flirtation, emotional intimacy, and even mindset shifts can help you create that simmering connection you loved when you were first dating. I also walk through the...
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Episode 398 - Wait, Was That It? Understanding and Strengthening Weak Orgasms
Sex for Saints
In this episode, I will walk you through a question I’ve heard from so many women over the years: How do I know if I’m actually having an orgasm? I’ll explain what weak orgasms, subtle climaxes, and full-body releases really feel like and why it’s so common to be unsure. I’ll share the most frequent reasons orgasms feel muted and teach you practical techniques—like the plateau method, pelvic floor engagement, deeper breathing, and mindset shifts—to help you build stronger, more satisfying orgasms. I’ll also guide you through why solo and partnered orgasms can feel different and...
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Episode 397 - The Unsexy Truth About Sexual Hygiene
Sex for Saints
In this episode, I’m breaking down the practical side of sexual hygiene and why it matters so much for intimacy, confidence, and overall sexual health. I walk through the basics of caring for your body, hands, nails, toys, and the environment you’re having sex in, and I explain the common mistakes couples make that lead to infections and discomfort. I share real examples from clients to show how small hygiene habits can make a big difference in your relationship and your body. You’ll also hear simple, actionable intimacy tips to help you build safer, healthier, more comfortable sex...
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Episode 396 - From Lovers to Parents (and Back Again): Navigating Life After Baby
Sex for Saints
I get asked all the time how to keep sex and intimacy alive after having a baby, so in this episode I’m breaking down what really happens during this huge transition. Last week we talked about sex during pregnancy, and today we’re looking at what comes next, because bringing home a baby reshapes your relationship in ways you can’t always prepare for. Whether you’re expecting your first or remembering those early days, I want you to feel seen, supported, and reminded that nothing is “wrong” with you if things feel off. I’ll walk you through what the research shows about why so...
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Episode 395 - Sex During Pregnancy: A Trimester-by-Trimester Guide
Sex for Saints
Pregnancy brings so many changes, and your intimate life is one of them, but it doesn’t have to disappear for nine months. In this episode, I’m answering real listener questions about sex during pregnancy, including what’s safe, what feels comfortable, and how to stay emotionally and physically connected through every trimester. We’ll talk about shifting desire, body image, and practical ways to communicate and adapt as your body changes. My goal is to help you and your partner approach this season with curiosity, confidence, and closeness instead of fear or frustration. You’ll walk...
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Episode 394 - The Unexpected Intimacy of Creating Intimacy Products with Justin and Natalie Weeks
Sex for Saints
In this episode, I’m sitting down with Justin and Natalie Weeks, the founders of Evree Intimate Massage Oil and Lubricant, to talk about how one thoughtful idea completely transformed their intimacy and could change yours too. We dive into the surprising benefits of using a truly natural, skin-loving intimate product, why lube is essential (not optional!), and how communication and playfulness can take a good marriage and make it great. Justin and Natalie share their story of creating a product that’s 100% natural, edible, safe for sensitive skin, and doubles as both a massage oil and...
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Episode 393 - The Dangerous Equation: Why Sex ≠ Love
Sex for Saints
In this episode, I dive into one of the most damaging beliefs I see in relationships: the idea that sex equals love. I’ll share why this thinking creates unnecessary pain, pressure, and misunderstandings between partners, and how it often masks the many other ways love is expressed. You’ll learn how to recognize love outside of sexual intimacy, why separating sex from love can actually strengthen both, and practical shifts you can make to bring more connection, authenticity, and joy into your relationship. By the end, you’ll walk away with tools to reframe how you see love and intimacy...
info_outlineAt first thought, money and sex may not seem to have a lot in common. But if you think about it, when you improve something about your relationship, it often extends to all of your relationship. That’s why I asked Ruth Liebel to join me on the podcast to talk about money. Ruth is an amazing financial coach that will help you see that we often come into our marriages with different ideas of what it means to be “good” with money. Listen to get some clarity about how you manage your money in your marriage, and how improving that part of your relationship will improve your sexual relationship as well.
Ruth Liebel (Lee-bull) is a financial coach who teaches Christians how to make decisions with their resources that improve their quality of life and support their values. She specializes in helping couples get on the same page, and in creating healthy boundaries around money. Too many lives, marriages, and families are short-changed, even destroyed, by financial chaos. The solutions to so many financial problems are simple and can become commonplace in our homes.
Ruth got her bachelor’s degree in family finance (debt free) and did her practicum in financial counseling. She has worked with domestic violence shelters, HUD, Head Start, churches, and non-profit organizations. She is a certified YNAB Budget Coach, completed Ramsey Solutions Master.
Coach Training, and was a Ramsey Preferred Coach the first two years of her coaching business. Ruth is madly in love with her husband of 17 years, and the biggest fan of her four kids. Her husband came from a very different financial culture than her, and it has been a long, diligent process to create a financial theology and plan that satisfies them both. She knows "good debt" does NOT feel good; vulnerability is scary; healthy boundaries are the difference between joy and
hell; and having somewhere safe to process your thoughts and options is a total game-changer. She absolutely loves her life now, and loves helping people create a life they love as well.
You can find her:
At her website: www.ruthliebelcoaching.com
On Instagram: @ruthliebel
And by emailing her: ruth@ruthliebelcoaching.com