Episode 405 - When Your Spouse Had Previous Sexual Partners
Sex for Saints
In this episode, I talk about what happens when a spouse’s sexual past becomes a source of anxiety, comparison, guilt, or secrecy inside a marriage. I unpack why obsessive thoughts about a partner’s past aren’t really about what happened then, but about fear and insecurity now, and why no amount of details ever brings peace. We also look at the other side of the equation: carrying a past you never disclosed, how secrets quietly create distance, and how to thoughtfully decide whether disclosure is actually the right step. Throughout the episode, I separate repentance before God from...
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Episode 404 - Why Sex Isn’t Pleasurable For Some Women
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In this episode, I want to talk about something a lot of women quietly wonder but rarely say out loud: what if sex isn’t bad, but it’s also not very good? In this episode, I unpack why so many women experience sex as “meh,” even in loving marriages where both partners are trying. We look at how expectations, anatomy, mental patterns, and our relationship with pleasure all shape how sex actually feels. I explain why nothing is broken about you if sex hasn’t lived up to the hype, and how pleasure is something that’s learned, not automatic. If you’ve ever wondered why sex feels...
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Episode 403 - Sex As A Pacifier
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In this episode, I’m inviting you to look at a pattern that might be quietly shaping your sex life without you realizing it. We’re talking about what happens when sex becomes a way to soothe anxiety, seek reassurance, or calm uncomfortable emotions instead of a place of desire and connection. I share real examples of how this shows up in marriages, why it feels helpful in the moment, and why it often leaves both partners feeling disconnected afterward. Most importantly, we explore what becomes possible when sex no longer has to carry the weight of proving everything is okay. If you want a...
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Episode 402 - Sexual Simmering
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Have you ever noticed how sex can feel like something you “check off,” followed by days or weeks of not thinking about it at all? In this episode, I’m inviting you to consider a different way of relating to your sexuality that doesn’t require pressure, performance, or forcing yourself to feel desire. The idea is called “simmering” and I will explain how staying gently connected to your sexual self between encounters can make sex feel easier, more natural, and more mutual. We’ll talk about how anticipation and awareness create desire over time, especially if you’re the lower...
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Episode 401 - Lies Your Brain Tells You About Sex
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In this episode, I’m talking about the lies your brain tells you about sex and how those thoughts quietly sabotage connection in your marriage. I explain why your brain is wired to see sexual vulnerability as a threat, how past experiences and conditioning shape the stories you believe, and why those stories feel so true even when they aren’t. We look at the specific lies that tend to show up for both higher-desire and lower-desire partners, and how those patterns keep couples stuck in fear, shame, and disconnection. I also share practical ways to recognize when your brain is lying, how to...
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Episode 400 - Why Flirting Can Backfire
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This episode marks my 400th conversation about sex, marriage, and building a relationship that actually feels good to live inside, and I’m incredibly grateful you’re here for it. To celebrate, I dive into why flirting can either create connection and desire or quietly turn into pressure that pushes your spouse away. I explain how flirting is meant to be playful and connective, not a disguised request for sex, and why the underlying dynamic matters more than the behavior itself. We talk about different flirting styles, how mindset shapes how flirting lands, and what to do when affection has...
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Episode 399 - Infusing Sexual Energy Throughout Your Marriage
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In this episode, I’m talking about what it really looks like to infuse sexual energy throughout your marriage, not just during planned intimacy, but in the everyday moments that make you feel desired, connected, and alive together. I share stories, examples, and real quotes from couples who’ve learned how to build a playful, pressure-free erotic undercurrent that carries through their whole day. You’ll hear how touch, texting, flirtation, emotional intimacy, and even mindset shifts can help you create that simmering connection you loved when you were first dating. I also walk through the...
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Episode 398 - Wait, Was That It? Understanding and Strengthening Weak Orgasms
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In this episode, I will walk you through a question I’ve heard from so many women over the years: How do I know if I’m actually having an orgasm? I’ll explain what weak orgasms, subtle climaxes, and full-body releases really feel like and why it’s so common to be unsure. I’ll share the most frequent reasons orgasms feel muted and teach you practical techniques—like the plateau method, pelvic floor engagement, deeper breathing, and mindset shifts—to help you build stronger, more satisfying orgasms. I’ll also guide you through why solo and partnered orgasms can feel different and...
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Episode 397 - The Unsexy Truth About Sexual Hygiene
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In this episode, I’m breaking down the practical side of sexual hygiene and why it matters so much for intimacy, confidence, and overall sexual health. I walk through the basics of caring for your body, hands, nails, toys, and the environment you’re having sex in, and I explain the common mistakes couples make that lead to infections and discomfort. I share real examples from clients to show how small hygiene habits can make a big difference in your relationship and your body. You’ll also hear simple, actionable intimacy tips to help you build safer, healthier, more comfortable sex...
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Episode 396 - From Lovers to Parents (and Back Again): Navigating Life After Baby
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I get asked all the time how to keep sex and intimacy alive after having a baby, so in this episode I’m breaking down what really happens during this huge transition. Last week we talked about sex during pregnancy, and today we’re looking at what comes next, because bringing home a baby reshapes your relationship in ways you can’t always prepare for. Whether you’re expecting your first or remembering those early days, I want you to feel seen, supported, and reminded that nothing is “wrong” with you if things feel off. I’ll walk you through what the research shows about why so...
info_outlineWe often check in with our finances, our physical health, or our mental health, so why not our relationship health? In this episode, we will talk about why we should measure the quality of our marriages, how to measure both your relationship AND your sexual relationship. And what to do if we find things that we need to address. I would love for each of us to come through this with stronger marriages. Let’s get started!