Episode 417 - Better Foreplay: What Actually Works (And What Doesn't)
Sex for Saints
In this episode, I talk about how most of us have misunderstood foreplay and why it’s not just something that happens right before sex. I share how true connection and desire are built throughout the entire day, not just in a rushed few minutes, and walk through five different types of foreplay that most couples are completely overlooking. We’ll also get into why slowing down actually creates more passion, how to read your partner instead of following a script, and what it really means to pursue each other. I dive into the importance of balancing giving and receiving, and how small shifts...
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Episode 416 - Did You Marry the Right Person? The Only Two Things That Matter
Sex for Saints
Have you ever caught yourself wondering, “Did I marry the right person?” I want to show you why that question is actually leading you in the wrong direction and what matters so much more. In this episode, I break down the two things that truly determine whether a relationship will work, and what to do when you feel like you’re the only one trying. We’ll talk about how to shift the dynamic in your marriage, how to evaluate whether it’s sustainable, and how to stay grounded in your own integrity no matter what your spouse chooses. If you’ve been feeling stuck, discouraged, or unsure...
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Episode 415 - The ABC Loop: How to Stop Pressuring Your Spouse About Sex
Sex for Saints
If you’ve been trying everything to fix your sex life and nothing seems to be working, this episode might feel a little uncomfortable, but also like a breath of fresh air. I’m sharing why the harder you push for connection, the more distance you might actually be creating, and what’s really going on underneath that dynamic. We’ll talk about the subtle pressure that shows up in relationships (even with the best intentions) and why it can shut desire down completely. I’ll walk you through a simple but powerful framework called the ABC Loop that helps you create change without...
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Episode 414 - Mutual Masturbation
Sex for Saints
In this episode, I talk about a sexual experience that doesn’t get discussed nearly enough, mutual masturbation, and why it can be so powerful for connection, communication, and intimacy in marriage. I walk you through how learning your own body is essential before you can share that knowledge with your spouse, and how this experience becomes one of the clearest ways to show each other what actually feels good. We will dive into the vulnerability that comes with being seen in your own pleasure, and why that vulnerability is often what creates deeper emotional and sexual connection. I will...
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Episode 413 - One-Sided Intimacy
Sex for Saints
What if intimacy in your marriage didn’t actually depend on your spouse showing up first? In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful shift that changes how we think about emotional connection and why so many relationships feel one-sided. We will talk about what intimacy really means and how you can choose to be knowable and curious about your partner, even when they’re not meeting you there. I will introduce the concept of self-validated intimacy and how it frees you from waiting on your spouse’s response to feel connected. We will also explore the role of reciprocity and why mutual...
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Episode 412 - From Passive to Active: Owning Your Sexual Desire
Sex for Saints
Many women assume their lack of desire means something is wrong with them, but in this episode, I am going to explain that the real issue is often passive sexuality. We’ll explore the difference between waiting for a spouse to create desire and actively engaging with your own sexuality. Through stories from real clients, I’ll show how small shifts, like noticing attraction, savoring memories of intimacy, or anticipating connection, can gradually change how you experience your sexual relationship. I will also connect this idea to the principle of agency, reminding us that sexuality in...
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Episode 411 - Is Your Sex Life Nourishing or Depleting?
Sex for Saints
I want to talk about why sex can feel draining instead of connecting, even when it’s happening regularly, and how that disconnect quietly impacts a marriage. What does nourishing sex actually look like and why does obligation, performance, and one-sided dynamics make intimacy feel heavy instead of life-giving? Through real client stories, I will break down how emotional safety, presence, and mutual desire change both the individual and the relationship experience of sex. With my normal directness, I will share practical ways couples can begin shifting from sex that depletes to sex that...
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Episode 410 - When Obligation Kills Desire
Sex for Saints
When a woman says she’d be completely fine never having sex again, I know something important has already broken. In this episode, I unpack why so many women in faith-based marriages end up here, even when they once loved sex, and how obligation, pressure, and shame quietly kill desire over time. I walk through both sides of this dynamic, explaining why men often respond with more pursuit and why that panic makes things worse instead of better. I also share what actually helps desire return, including understanding responsive desire, removing pressure, rebuilding trust through touch without...
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Episode 409 - Wanting to Be Desired and Chosen
Sex for Saints
Have you ever had the experience where your spouse walks past you in the kitchen and doesn’t even acknowledge you? Or when it seems like they’d rather scroll on their phone than talk to you? In this episode, I break down what it really means to feel desired in marriage and why being wanted is different from being needed. I explain how desire shows up through thoughts, words, actions, and emotional presence, and how many couples misinterpret or block desire without realizing it. I also walk through common reasons desire fades, including exhaustion, resentment, fear of rejection, and...
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Episode 408 - The Six Stages of Marriage (And Why Many Quit at Stage 3)
Sex for Saints
In this episode of Sex for Saints, I walk through the six stages of marriage and explain why so many couples feel stuck, disconnected, or ready to give up around stage three. I break down what each stage looks like in real life, from the honeymoon phase to frustration, growth, true love, and legacy, using real client stories to show what’s actually happening beneath the conflict. We talk about why stage three feels like failure, how emotional triggers and unmet needs collide there, and why this stage is not a sign you married the wrong person but an invitation to learn new relationship...
info_outlineIs the marriage advice you’ve heard actually helping or quietly hurting your relationship? In this episode, Amanda interviews marriage coach and author Monica Tanner about her new book Bad Marriage Advice. They dive into common myths like “never go to bed angry” and “happy wife, happy life,” and explain why these well-meaning tips can lead to disconnection over time. You’ll hear real stories, modern insight, and practical ways to build a relationship rooted in choice, not obligation. Whether you're newlywed or decades in, this conversation is full of wisdom you won't want to miss.
You can find Monica at:
Her website: https://www.monicatanner.com/
Get on the waitlist for her book: https://www.badmarriageadvice.com/join-the-waitlist