Dom & sub Dynamics Free Kink & BDSM Education Summit - Bonus
American Sex
Amazing news! Registration is now open for the FREE Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit! Reserve your free spot here: The Rundown 4-day online BDSM conference, free! 5 sessions per day + supplemental class tools & materials April 8-11th 2024 Watch live (no student cameras so you can attend anonymously) -OR- stream recordings of the classes you want to take within 24 hours Some of the educators: Midori, Luna Matatas, Evie Lupine, TheDutchy, Miriam Green from Wicked Grounds, Princess Rara from Pink Kink Podcast, Marla Rene-Stewart, Justine Cross, Loving BDSM, D/s...
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What's a Kinky Switch? w/ Queen Ana Blue - 213
American Sex
Curious about the role of a switch in kink & BDSM? Some say switches are really just confused doms or subs that haven’t figured out their true identity yet. Others believe they’re less skilled and aren’t as dedicated to exclusively topping or bottoming. In this episode, Queen Anas Blue busts these myths and gets deep into the switchy nitty-gritty. Some of the topics we cover: Switching styles & traits Switch erasure Switch drop Challenges cis men face embracing their switchy side Overcoming switch imposter syndrome & more Guest Bio – Queen Ana...
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Introducing Holly Randall Unfiltered – Adriana Chechik on Her Wild Career
American Sex
Are you a fan of adult entertainment? Then, you've got to listen to one of our favorite podcasts: Holly Randall Unfiltered. In this sample from Holly's show, the iconic performer Adriana Chechick joins Holly for an interview that shows Adriana's MANY sides! You’ll hear about her upbringing in foster care, her honest reflections on career regrets, and why she finds gangbangs empowering. Adriana will surprise you with her brutally honest insight on a storied career that brought her so much fame, and why she has decided to leave it all behind. Holly Randall Unfiltered is available anywhere you...
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Fluid Relationships vs. Polyamory with Kate Loree - 212
American Sex
Ever felt confined by the choice of monogamy or polyamory? What options lie between those two ends of the spectrum? And what happens if what’s right for you changes over time? Sex- positive psychotherapist Kate Loree joins Sunny to talk about navigating and customizing fluid relationship dynamics. Some of what’s covered: The significance of intention in customizable relationships Anxiety & Jealousy in non-monogamy Parenthood & fluid relationships Honesty in relationship dynamics Mindfulness & communication Couple’s privilege Fluid relationships vs...
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Kink Education Freestyle Reddit Edition - Sunny Megatron 211
American Sex
Host, Clinical Sexologist & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron Is back for a third installment of free-style BDSM education. This time she weighs in on BDSM reddit. Topics discussed: Am I a bad sub for not liking pain or degradation? What’s a praise kink? When Is humiliation play healthy and when is it detrimental? Where & how to find 1-on-1 BDSM instruction and “exploratory sessions” for kink newbies? How can I safely do breath play to the point of passing out? New partner advice: Is this how TPE and CNC works? Or is this a red flag? ...
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Emotional Dysregulation in Relationships with Megan Bhatia - Ep 210
American Sex
Relationships, at their core, are about relating – with other people, our surroundings, our past, our future. But the truth is, most of us kinda suck at it! Enter the spiral of emotional dysregulation… In this episode, Megan Bhatia gets right to the juicy center of relating and its role in safety, power dynamics, and agreements in our relationships. Some of what we cover: Recognizing & managing emotional dysregulation Head knowledge vs. embodied knowledge Jealousy in non-monogamy Creating safety in our relationships for "No" Navigating feelings of rejection ...
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Body Fluid Fetish & Fantasy with Luna Matatas - 209
American Sex
Have you ever wondered why we eroticize certain bodily fluids but consider others disgusting? Luna Matatas dives into the why and how behind body fluid fetish & fantasy Find out if squirt is really pee plus learn creative ideas for squirt play. Discover why people are into golden showers– is it humiliation? Dominance? Something else? Learn how to explore piss play safely and some surprising things about diaper play (nope, they aren’t only for adult babies). We also talk spit, tears, sweat, lactation, snot jobs, tips for negotiating fluid play with a partner, and more. Guest Bio –...
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BONUS Introducing: Erotic Short Stories "The High-Class Escort"
American Sex
We’re excited to introduce you to another show on the Pleasure Podcasts network called, . (Yes, the audio is NSFW so choose your listening time & place accordingly!) If you’re a fan of erotica and looking for a place to indulge in your wildest fantasies, then you need to listen to Erotic Short Stories. Each week, Mia will tell you a sensual story in a silky-smooth voice that will surely get you in the mood. Check out more wherever you get your podcasts.
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Mental Health & Polyamory with Kate Loree - 208
American Sex
Sex-positive psychotherapist, Kate Loree joins us to talk about managing mental health within polyamory and consensual non-monogamy -- specifically how mood and personality disorders like anxiety, depression, BPD, NPD, etc., can impact these relationships. According to NAMI one in five American adults experienced mental illness in 2020. When we combine this with consensual non-monogamy (CNM), things can become even more complex. As Kate points out, CNM tends to poke at unresolved attachment injuries more than is typical in monogamous relationships plus polyamory involves more people...
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Ask Yourself About Consent with Kitty Stryker - 207
American Sex
As a culture, we’ve come a long way in our understanding of consent. It’s discussed in schools, on TV shows, and in popular media. But through this mainstreaming of consent, we’ve also lost some important nuance along the way. This conversation with Kitty Stryker is all about that nuance. From the complexities of consent within various power dynamics to the ways it shows up in every relationship, consent situations seem to be everywhere. Kitty lays down frameworks to help us reevaluate our personal relationships with consent and use what we learn to strengthen our bonds with...
info_outline“The BDSM Test” is infamous in the kink community and beyond. Since 2014, thousands have proudly posted results like a badge of honor on FetLife profiles. We use it as a roadmap, educational tool, and kink negotiation starter. It’s even gone vanilla as the focus of social media challenges and pop magazine writeups.
But is this kink subculture phenomenon all it's cracked up to be? While some find it helpful & validating, many say it’s othering, stigmatizing, and normalizes red-flag behavior disguised as “kink.”
Midori & kinky therapist Joe Zarate-Sanderlin join us on ep 192 to deconstruct the BDSM test question by question + explore its wider impact. Why don't we scrutinize it the same way vet other educational sources? Who wrote this kink test, why, and what are they using the massive amount of data they’re collecting about our deviant desires for? Turns out, it’s a bit of a mystery…
Midori Bio
“Your Fairy God-Auntie of Kink. Exploding Expectations. Challenging Conventions.”
Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” in 2001, paving the way for the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the “Super Nova of Kink,” while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. She is also the author of “Wild Side Sex,” “Master Han’s Daughter,” and “Silk Threads.”
Education, Coaching, Private Learning & Art: https://planetmidori.com. Special membership perks! Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori where she is working on her next shibari book!
Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Bio
"Joe Zarate-Sanderlin, an Assigned Male at Birth non-binary person (pronouns: they/them/theirs), came of age in the New York City kink scene in the late 1990s and early 2000s and they have connections in the Boston and San Francisco kink communities. They are a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in San Francisco where they specialize in working with gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity. They teach several courses at Golden Gate University and were recognized as an Outstanding Adjunct Professor for 2022. They provide training and consultation regarding Talking to Clients about Sex, Gender in Psychotherapy, Open Relationships, BDSM Relationships, and other topics. In addition to private practice, their clinical experience includes being supervised by Dossie Easton for two and half years plus volunteering at a Catholic school for three years, a continuation high school for one year, and at a low-fee clinic for four years. They worked for the Burning Man Emergency Services Department for ten years, both in the Nevada desert and in the streets of San Francisco. In their spare time, they ski, coach and referee soccer, brew kombucha, dance to 80s music, and parent elementary-aged old twins."
Episode 192 Links
- Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori
- Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/
- Midori Newsletter https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter
- Midori class/event calendar http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes
- Midori’s Patreon https://www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori/
- Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Twitter https://twitter.com/jzsmft
- Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Website http://www.jzsmft.com/
- Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Email: [email protected]
- Joe Zarate-Sanderlin GGU Presents: Empathic Communication https://tinyurl.com/GGU-Empathy
- Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Gender Inclusive Language https://tinyurl.com/GGU-Gender
- Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Rebel Therapist: Express Yourself https://rebeltherapist.me/podcast/93
- The BDSM Test http://BDSMTest.org
- @FocusedOnInfinity “Welcome to America” https://www.tiktok.com/@focusedoninfinity/video/7113012283181190442?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=6901962179530294789
- @MargaretCho “Don’t Be Scared” https://www.tiktok.com/@themargaretcho/video/7112909096608730410?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=6901962179530294789
- TASHRA -THE ALTERNATIVE SEXUALITIES HEALTH RESEARCH ALLIANCE https://www.tashra.org/
- CARAS - The Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities https://www.carasresearch.org/
- Sexual Health Alliance Kink Informed Certification Program for Therapists & Care Professionals https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program
- Romancing the Shadow: Challenging Limiting Beliefs Through Kink- Midori https://zippermagazine.com/challenginglimiting-beliefs-through-kink/
Additional Links
- ZipperMagazine.com https://zippermagazine.com/
- Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
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- Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
- Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
- Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
- Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
- Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
- American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
- American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
- Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
- Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
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