157. Responsible Mess Management
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We’re all a mess rn. How do we share our messy selves with others messy selves without making too much of a mess?? It’s the question of the day and Lina uses her mess to make an attempt at an answer. Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Get 20% off your order at with code...
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156. My Dudes! My Guys! My Bros!
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What is a Nice Guy™ to do when the sub he’s playing with refuses to enumerate her wants/needs? Is it pressure-y to insist on a discussion? And, more broadly, how are nice and good men supposed to operate as Doms? Lina chimes in this week on one of her favorite subjects — Men! Not to bash them, but to encourage them along the road to constructive masculinity and their best selves. Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and...
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155. Quick Hits: British ≠ English, Grief = Horny
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On this month’s Quick Hits we’re talking about how Lina and Mr. Dune take their tea, and how to put yourself out there at kinky parties, when you’re a little tender, and most especially when you’re grieving. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved, but you MOST CERTAINLY may NOT put the milk in before the tea is steeped!! Twin Cities Rent Relief: | Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for...
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154. How To Tell If Someone Is Kinky (No Telepathy Needed)
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A listener wants to know how to tell if someone is kinky without having to ask. You guessed it, you do still have to ask, but there are subtle ways of sussing out the bedroom habits of your hot, competent coworker without immediately entering lawsuit territory. Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack . See...
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153. Does A ‘Pleasure Dom’ Imply The Existence Of A… Not-Pleasure Dom?
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Some thoughts on the implications of the words we use to signal safety, pontifications on whether ‘Pleasure Doms’ are inadvertent pick-mes, and another battle cry on how you deserve pleasure, respect, and softness even if your kink is hard and scary. We don’t all have to be sunny, happy carebears…. Some of us are evil carebears that wear black and get stepped on. (also available on ) Buy & tip Ask A Sub with your purchase! Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as...
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152. Pro-Submission with Alexis O’Kneel
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Pro-sub Alexis O’Kneel joins us to discuss a little-known facet of the Oldest Profession, and how pro-subs can be a resource to all members of the kink community. Even people who have been slighted by waitresses and want to alchemize their experience into horny mutual fun. You know, #JustCanadianThings. To get the full version of this episode at $11/month or at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with...
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151. If You Want The Juice, You Gotta Show ‘Em The Whole Fruit
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We’re inventing idioms on the Ask A Sub podcast once again, and this time we’re talking about how to balance a desire for a long-term relationship with sorting out kink compatibility. We also talk about how easy ‘easy’ is supposed to be, prioritizing your priorities, and how to go to the tide pools and come out with the exact pufferfish you want. It makes sense if you listen, we swear!! Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina...
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150. Zen and the Art of Not Trauma Dumping
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What if our baggage from the vanilla world could be taken away as easily as selling something on Facebook Marketplace? Until that time, Lina provides a rubric and several measuring sticks (??) for evaluating methods of sharing your stuff with partners that feels interdependent rather than trauma dump-y. Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to and recording a voice memo....
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149. Quick Hits: Clubs, Cults, and Sexual Favors
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We’re back with another Quick Hits episode! This time we’re talking about how to get slammed in a hockey-coded way, how to tell if your kinky commune is a cult, and how to negotiate a relationship where your boundaries are no boundaries! Join us! Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post...
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148. New Year, Same Heated Rivalry with Danielle Belazel
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We’re back with a shared full episode (no snippet!) with the Sex Ed with DB podcast, talking all about everyone’s favorite smutty gay hockey show, HEATED RIVALRY! Danielle and I discuss the secret sauce that’s making the whole internet so feral for this show, and some practical tips for how to use lubricant when the show may have edited that kind of thing out. | Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune....
info_outlineIt’s summer. It’s hot. It’s sexy. And what’s more hot and sexy than… endless scheduling and calendars? A caller wants to know how to stay sane while single and it seems that everyone in the dating pool is already partnered. Answer? Maybe some people need to take a hard look at their poly saturation point!!
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Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune
With Additional Support from Mr. Dune
Artwork by Kayleigh Denner
Music by Dan Molad