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Ask a Sub is an advice podcast for the kink-curious to take themselves from dreaming to doing. Our host Lina Dune is bringing wellness kink to the masses, and equipping every would-be kinkster with the tools to become their own BDSM BFF.

69. Cucking Aftercare 05/03/2024

69. Cucking Aftercare That’s me in the corner… that’s me in the… somewhat challenging aftercare predicament? A listener calls in about how to engineer proper aftercare in a cucking scene, and Lina reassures them that sometimes it’s ok to experiment with big feelings and occasionally get it wrong. Substack: To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/31099778

68. Everybody Needs To Chill with Bae Leche 04/26/2024

68. Everybody Needs To Chill with Bae Leche Bae Leche dropped by the pod to talk about being a non-monogamous mom, dating while pregnant, and new corners of her sexuality she’s discovering in the midst of parenting. Come for the fire pregnancy nudes, stay for the warm-hearted acceptance for wherever you are in your journey. Get the full interview on for $11/month. To sign up to be notified about the release of the new course - To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/30996928

67. The Submissive Awakening 04/19/2024

67. The Submissive Awakening Kink arrives in your life looking like a problem, but it’s really a solution. In this episode, Lina leads a listener through the daunting moment of taking stock of your submissive fantasies with the empathy of somebody a little further down the road. Get your Sub Survival Guide for 20% off at with code AWAKENING To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/30896788

66. Public Humiliation - Where’s The Line? 04/12/2024

66. Public Humiliation - Where’s The Line? A listener asks the age-old question of where the line is with public humiliation kinks and involving bystanders, and Lina dives in with things to consider before you go to the grocery store with the f-word written across your forehead. Listen to Lina address the Erewhon incident on Dan Savage’s podcast . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/30792133

65. Dating Your Intuition 04/05/2024

65. Dating Your Intuition How can you date again after a D/s relationship turns abusive? You start by dating your intuition. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/30690458

64. Committed And Kinky 03/29/2024

64. Committed And Kinky A listener calls in after someone told them saying they are kinky means they are probably not looking for anything serious. Obviously this is not true, but Lina also had some thoughts on the relationship escalator, community care, and how to see people as individuals in a sex positive context. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/30591508

63. Everyone Is Grieving 03/22/2024

63. Everyone Is Grieving I’ve been through some shit lately and wanted to share the ways people have supported me so you can support those in your life who are also going through shit. We will be back to our regular format next week. Love you all. Get my essay about the miscarriage on or . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/30501158

62. Accessible Glory Holes with Andrew Gurza 03/15/2024

62. Accessible Glory Holes with Andrew Gurza Disability advocate, sex toy creator, and host of Disability After Dark Andrew Gurza joins us to talk all about non-binary identity, dating while disabled, and how we can improve accessibility in kinky and queer spaces. To get this full episode, go to or . For that piece of writing I was talking about get it on or . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/30383693

61. The Veto Blues 03/01/2024

61. The Veto Blues A sub is concerned that her Dom’s wife is going to veto their dynamic and wonders how she can modify her behavior to make the wife more comfortable. Lina talks about which feelings we have control over (only our own) and how to give yourself grace during liminal times. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/30184143

60. The 24/7 D/s Buffet 02/23/2024

60. The 24/7 D/s Buffet So you've got somebody to do 24/7 with - great! Now how the hell do you narrow down all the options and create a bespoke practice just for you? Lina walks a listener through the buffet of options, and helps guide the process of assembling a satisfying D/s plate covered in consent gravy. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/30081953

59. Neurospicy & Ready To Party 02/16/2024

59. Neurospicy & Ready To Party This week a caller on the autism spectrum and his partner with ADD wonder if there is a link between kink and neurodivergence. Let's talk about it! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/29979533

58. Kinky Divorced Moms Deserve A Win 02/09/2024

58. Kinky Divorced Moms Deserve A Win Due to unforeseen circumstances (we got COVID), in lieu of this week’s scheduled episode please enjoy this rerun of a season 2 favorite. Lina interviews a listener who got in touch to share the story of her custody battle with her sex-negative ex-husband, and the unexpected win that arrived at the end of her story. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/29868658

57. What Is Humiliation Anyway? 02/02/2024

57. What Is Humiliation Anyway? First Lina delivers a hot take about how women who sleep with men can become marginalized within kink, then teases out the difference between humiliation and degradation kinks while making fun of dating app bing bongs (as usual). To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/29773163

56. Dovetailing Purity Culture Into Kink 01/26/2024

56. Dovetailing Purity Culture Into Kink We’re back! And we’re kicking purity culture in the pants!! Get info about the Friday 1/26 Deep Dive ! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/29657978

55. You Do Not Have To Be Good 12/22/2023

55. You Do Not Have To Be Good A sub calls in asking how to make amends for past mistakes. Spoiler alert: you do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. Unless you're into that. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Get a year of Patreon for $50 (that's two months free!) before the rate goes up to $6 on 1/1/24. Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/29195913

54. Bloodlust & SW Labor Rights with Empress Wu 12/15/2023

54. Bloodlust & SW Labor Rights with Empress Wu The words filth and perversion barely begin to scratch the surface of what's on offer in this interview with and her singular penchant for scenes that expand into systems that fuck gender, the body, notions of inside and outside, as well as existence itself. Here in the free preview, we discuss Wu’s journey into pro-Domme work as well as her thoughts on sex work decriminalization. Paid listeners will receive the full hour and fifteen minute interview featuring specifics of her wild Dominance practice. Get the complete interview on Patreon for $11/month or Substack for $8/month. Patreon: Substack: To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/29093068

53. What If I Don't Have Hard Limits? 12/08/2023

53. What If I Don't Have Hard Limits? A sub is concerned about sending the wrong message when telling Doms she doesn't have hard limits. What to do? To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28985193

52. Hot Bisexual Takes with Gab Alexa 12/01/2023

52. Hot Bisexual Takes with Gab Alexa Bisexual polyamorous writer joins me to discuss bi-erasure, queer baiting, and her spicy time at the infamous swinger’s retreat Hedonism. at $11/month or at $8/month to get the complete interview, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my with Mr. Dune. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28880128

51. A Thanksgiving Pep Talk 11/22/2023

51. A Thanksgiving Pep Talk Hey, it's your real life calling! The one where you're not sleeping on an air mattress in a musty basement bracing yourself to hear your Uncle Jim's conspiracy theories at the dinner table! You -- yes you! -- used to be kinky, and that kinkiness is a superpower! Get 25% off on both Ask A Sub courses with code BOUNDARIES25 at . Offer expires 11/29 at 11:59pm PST. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28761348

50. What Is A Play Party? 11/17/2023

50. What Is A Play Party? A listener wants to know the answer to a so-called googleable question - what the heck is a play party, exactly? Lina answers & gives tips on navigating these experiences once you find the right one. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28684768

49. Sub On The Street: Folsom 2023 11/10/2023

49. Sub On The Street: Folsom 2023 Get more Folsom info from Special thanks to Cactus Cult Leather, , Sylvan and Milton, SF K9 Unit, Bay Area Open Minds, The Satanic Temple and everyone who spoke to me at Folsom! Get my full discussion with Alex Kacha on or . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Theme Music by Disco Music via Descript /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28579438

48. Goodest Girl Syndrome 11/03/2023

48. Goodest Girl Syndrome Are you or a loved one affected by Goodest Girl Syndrome, aka the desire to be the absolute best in comparison to all your partner’s other partners past, present & future? Tune in for solace, solidarity, and strategies to tend your tender heart. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo. | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28504178

47. A Freak Behind The Lens: Photographer Alex Kacha 10/27/2023

47. A Freak Behind The Lens: Photographer Alex Kacha This month’s Deep Dive was with boudoir photographer and all around artiste . We discussed self care, the healing gaze of the camera, and of course the kinkiest shoots they’ve ever done! is a monthly series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff! at $11/month to get the complete interview , as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my with Mr. Dune. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28439579

46. Comparison Versus Compersion 10/20/2023

46. Comparison Versus Compersion A sub loves the play parties she attends with her Dom, but is struggling with watching him play with his primary partner. Can this cozy polycule find a way forward that honors her boundaries? To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo. | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28373288

45. Learning From Our Elders & The History of Bootblacking with KD Diamond 10/13/2023

45. Learning From Our Elders & The History of Bootblacking with KD Diamond Follow KD: | Follow Kink Out: | Get KD’s bootblacking starter kit recs . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo. | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28305551

44. Bratty & Broken Hearted 10/06/2023

44. Bratty & Broken Hearted What do you do when a very special dynamic leaves your life? This week a broken-hearted brat wants to know how to move on in the wake of a great love lost. Join us for our next Deep Dive with photographer Alex Kacha on Tuesday, 10/20 at 5 pacific. to attend live for just $5/month, or get the replay at the $11/month Patreon or $8/month . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28238774

43. The Origins Of The Folsom Street Fair 09/29/2023

43. The Origins Of The Folsom Street Fair Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, because we’re reviewing the history of The Folsom Street Fair, then we’re taking a walking tour of the heart of leather culture in the 1970’s - San Francisco’s South of Market neighborhood and the many bars, clubs, and bathhouses that made it famous. Check out my substack piece on the walking tour . Here’s the Folsom Street Fair’s . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28175102

42. Your Pelvic Floor Doesn't Wanna Hustle with Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya 09/22/2023

42. Your Pelvic Floor Doesn't Wanna Hustle with Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya If you’re reading this, you have a pelvic floor! And Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya is here to tell you all about it. Listen for her take on kegels (do less of them), your pelvic floor's relationship to capitalism (burn it down), and her lovely guided exercise for pelvic floor lengthening. Get the complete interview . Follow Dr. Rachel Recommended Reading: at $11/month to get the complete interview , as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my with Mr. Dune. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28109285

41. A Red Flag Refresher 09/15/2023

41. A Red Flag Refresher A refresher on red flags and the radical notion that you don’t have to put up with assholes to get your kink needs met. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/28039230

40. Keeping Your Polyam Foot On The Floor 09/08/2023

40. Keeping Your Polyam Foot On The Floor Thoughts on respecting all the connections in your polyamorous ecosystem when the sub swoons come calling. Our next Deep Dive is on 9/12 at 3pm with pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by /episode/index/show/askasub/id/27975453

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