ask a sub
Ask a Sub is an advice podcast for the kink-curious to take themselves from dreaming to doing. Our host Lina Dune is bringing wellness kink to the masses, and equipping every would-be kinkster with the tools to become their own BDSM BFF.
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81. Subby Future Tripping
07/26/2024
81. Subby Future Tripping
Why are subs and kinky people so prone to tripping out on what the future could be? Well, as the saying goes, subs plan and Doms laugh at our anticipatory anxiety. Lina also discusses how marriage and society are a weird mindf*%k combo to navigate (and not always in the nice way), and how we all need more space to increase our capacity for change and ability to accept more things into our orifices. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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80. Getting The Switch Itch
07/19/2024
80. Getting The Switch Itch
Dogs and cats, living together, mass hysteria! When can a sub be a Dom? A caller wants to know when their Dommy tendencies qualify them to start switchin’, and how their neurodivergent brain can deal with the ambiguity. Answer? BDSM loves getting all up in your cracks to make you stretch all the parts of yourself. Just don't forget the lube. The lube is you loving yourself. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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79. Making it Weird While Keeping it Secure with Casey Tanner aka @queersextherapy
07/13/2024
79. Making it Weird While Keeping it Secure with Casey Tanner aka @queersextherapy
In this preview of Deep Dive, Lina chats with Casey Tanner, @queersextherapy, about their new book Feel It All. Topics covered include defining secure sexuality and the origins of insecure sexuality (aka why are we so messed up about sex?!). In the full Deep Dive, available to paid members, hear them discuss how to support queer people in straight passing relationships, whether sexual preferences or attraction can be problematic, how to negotiate accommodation for neurodivergent and disabled people, and other ways of being sexual secure, filthy (if that’s what you want!), and thoughtful freaks. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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78. Outgrowing Your Fish Tank
07/05/2024
78. Outgrowing Your Fish Tank
What happens when you’re criss crossing all your red string a la Charlie Day while researching D/s to broaden the scope of your dynamic, but your Dom just won’t click the links you send? Lina talks the three-legged race of a longterm relationship, how the patriarchy doesn’t support men in self improvement, and what to do when you suspect you’re a koi fish in a goldfish bowl. Get in on the new offering! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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77. An AMA with Lina
06/28/2024
77. An AMA with Lina
This month for pride, join your very own fave bisexual goblin for a wide ranging AMA! That’s right, I answered your q’s in real time just like the old days. Get info about Ask A Sub Office Hours on or . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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76. D/s Is A Love Language
06/21/2024
76. D/s Is A Love Language
This week, a married couple struggles with the ways D/s sometimes outwardly looks like the oppressive gender roles they were raised with, and have been fighting their whole relationship. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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75. Your Brain Is A Soft-Boiled Egg
06/14/2024
75. Your Brain Is A Soft-Boiled Egg
Lina gives some tender yet protective advice to a 20-year-old sub looking to start their kink journey. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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74. Eating Olives Off the Floor with Novelist R.O. Kwon
06/07/2024
74. Eating Olives Off the Floor with Novelist R.O. Kwon
stopped by the pod this week to talk about her new book , a tale about kink, queerness, and what happens when people pursue that which they truly desire. Catch R.O.’s Thirst Inventory . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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73. Zero Sum Cats with Dollie the Discord Mod
05/31/2024
73. Zero Sum Cats with Dollie the Discord Mod
Our Deep Dive guest this month is many things — a kink/rope organizer, an amazing friend, a top-tier emoji-reactor, and a Ask A Sub discord moderator that has been with us since the beginning of the server. Dollie and Lina talk community building and maintenance, and how they curate the best (dare we say??) kink space on the internet. Listen on or upgrade in the player. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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72. The Subby Art of Letting Go
05/24/2024
72. The Subby Art of Letting Go
A sub calls in wondering how to “do” submission right, and Lina shares some wisdom about how to avoid submissive doing and embrace submissive being. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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71. Age Play with Baby Linh
05/17/2024
71. Age Play with Baby Linh
Age Play is considered by some to be one of the most taboo kinks out there, but what if it was just cute inner child work? Age play creator Baby Linh joins me to unpack misconceptions about the kink and offer solace to those who feel called toward it. Get the full interview on for $11/month. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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70. Spit It Out with Alison Stevenson
05/10/2024
70. Spit It Out with Alison Stevenson
Today’s episode is brought to you by our friends at Feeld, the dating app for the curious! The theme of the day is spitting it out - from feelings to actual fluids, comedian Alison Stevenson and Lina have you completely covered. With information. Just information and humor. Unless…? Follow Feeld on Instagram , or download it . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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69. Cucking Aftercare
05/03/2024
69. Cucking Aftercare
That’s me in the corner… that’s me in the… somewhat challenging aftercare predicament? A listener calls in about how to engineer proper aftercare in a cucking scene, and Lina reassures them that sometimes it’s ok to experiment with big feelings and occasionally get it wrong. Substack: To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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68. Everybody Needs To Chill with Bae Leche
04/26/2024
68. Everybody Needs To Chill with Bae Leche
Bae Leche dropped by the pod to talk about being a non-monogamous mom, dating while pregnant, and new corners of her sexuality she’s discovering in the midst of parenting. Come for the fire pregnancy nudes, stay for the warm-hearted acceptance for wherever you are in your journey. Get the full interview on for $11/month. To sign up to be notified about the release of the new course - To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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67. The Submissive Awakening
04/19/2024
67. The Submissive Awakening
Kink arrives in your life looking like a problem, but it’s really a solution. In this episode, Lina leads a listener through the daunting moment of taking stock of your submissive fantasies with the empathy of somebody a little further down the road. Get your Sub Survival Guide for 20% off at with code AWAKENING To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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66. Public Humiliation - Where’s The Line?
04/12/2024
66. Public Humiliation - Where’s The Line?
A listener asks the age-old question of where the line is with public humiliation kinks and involving bystanders, and Lina dives in with things to consider before you go to the grocery store with the f-word written across your forehead. Listen to Lina address the Erewhon incident on Dan Savage’s podcast . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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65. Dating Your Intuition
04/05/2024
65. Dating Your Intuition
How can you date again after a D/s relationship turns abusive? You start by dating your intuition. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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64. Committed And Kinky
03/29/2024
64. Committed And Kinky
A listener calls in after someone told them saying they are kinky means they are probably not looking for anything serious. Obviously this is not true, but Lina also had some thoughts on the relationship escalator, community care, and how to see people as individuals in a sex positive context. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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63. Everyone Is Grieving
03/22/2024
63. Everyone Is Grieving
I’ve been through some shit lately and wanted to share the ways people have supported me so you can support those in your life who are also going through shit. We will be back to our regular format next week. Love you all. Get my essay about the miscarriage on or . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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62. Accessible Glory Holes with Andrew Gurza
03/15/2024
62. Accessible Glory Holes with Andrew Gurza
Disability advocate, sex toy creator, and host of Disability After Dark Andrew Gurza joins us to talk all about non-binary identity, dating while disabled, and how we can improve accessibility in kinky and queer spaces. To get this full episode, go to or . For that piece of writing I was talking about get it on or . To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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61. The Veto Blues
03/01/2024
61. The Veto Blues
A sub is concerned that her Dom’s wife is going to veto their dynamic and wonders how she can modify her behavior to make the wife more comfortable. Lina talks about which feelings we have control over (only our own) and how to give yourself grace during liminal times. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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60. The 24/7 D/s Buffet
02/23/2024
60. The 24/7 D/s Buffet
So you've got somebody to do 24/7 with - great! Now how the hell do you narrow down all the options and create a bespoke practice just for you? Lina walks a listener through the buffet of options, and helps guide the process of assembling a satisfying D/s plate covered in consent gravy. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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59. Neurospicy & Ready To Party
02/16/2024
59. Neurospicy & Ready To Party
This week a caller on the autism spectrum and his partner with ADD wonder if there is a link between kink and neurodivergence. Let's talk about it! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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58. Kinky Divorced Moms Deserve A Win
02/09/2024
58. Kinky Divorced Moms Deserve A Win
Due to unforeseen circumstances (we got COVID), in lieu of this week’s scheduled episode please enjoy this rerun of a season 2 favorite. Lina interviews a listener who got in touch to share the story of her custody battle with her sex-negative ex-husband, and the unexpected win that arrived at the end of her story. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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57. What Is Humiliation Anyway?
02/02/2024
57. What Is Humiliation Anyway?
First Lina delivers a hot take about how women who sleep with men can become marginalized within kink, then teases out the difference between humiliation and degradation kinks while making fun of dating app bing bongs (as usual). To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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56. Dovetailing Purity Culture Into Kink
01/26/2024
56. Dovetailing Purity Culture Into Kink
We’re back! And we’re kicking purity culture in the pants!! Get info about the Friday 1/26 Deep Dive ! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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55. You Do Not Have To Be Good
12/22/2023
55. You Do Not Have To Be Good
A sub calls in asking how to make amends for past mistakes. Spoiler alert: you do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. Unless you're into that. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Get a year of Patreon for $50 (that's two months free!) before the rate goes up to $6 on 1/1/24. Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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54. Bloodlust & SW Labor Rights with Empress Wu
12/15/2023
54. Bloodlust & SW Labor Rights with Empress Wu
The words filth and perversion barely begin to scratch the surface of what's on offer in this interview with and her singular penchant for scenes that expand into systems that fuck gender, the body, notions of inside and outside, as well as existence itself. Here in the free preview, we discuss Wu’s journey into pro-Domme work as well as her thoughts on sex work decriminalization. Paid listeners will receive the full hour and fifteen minute interview featuring specifics of her wild Dominance practice. Get the complete interview on Patreon for $11/month or Substack for $8/month. Patreon: Substack: To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack . | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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53. What If I Don't Have Hard Limits?
12/08/2023
53. What If I Don't Have Hard Limits?
A sub is concerned about sending the wrong message when telling Doms she doesn't have hard limits. What to do? To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected] Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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52. Hot Bisexual Takes with Gab Alexa
12/01/2023
52. Hot Bisexual Takes with Gab Alexa
Bisexual polyamorous writer joins me to discuss bi-erasure, queer baiting, and her spicy time at the infamous swinger’s retreat Hedonism. at $11/month or at $8/month to get the complete interview, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my with Mr. Dune. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, starting at $5/month! Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to Go for information on how to record a voice memo | | CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Music by
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