162. Vanilla Dating Is Not A Pre-Requisite For Kink Dating
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Ahhh vanilla dating…. Well, it mainly sucks. Jk! Maybe not! Either way, it’s not something you have to do before you get to be kinky. It’s good to know what you want and go after it, and treat each experience as information to be collected along the way. Except for that time Lina went on a vanilla date with a guy who Venmo requested her $2 for a hot dog while she was in the uber home from his apartment. That was not an especially valuable learning experience. Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and...
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161. How To Be A 24/7 Sub When You’re Like… Really Pissed At Your Dom
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What happens in a long-term 24/7 dynamic when you, as a sub, get so fuckin pissed that you just need a MINUTE to collect yourself before resuming your tasks?!?! Lina gets into the communication tools that can hold us and our dynamic in moments of conflict so when you come back from your grumpy space walk the space ship is still in pretty good shape. Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this...
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160. When You Break Up With A Dom Who Looms Large
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A caller wants to know how to feel confident as a sub in your local scene after a friendship breakup with a Dom who seems to be the golden boy of said scene. We talk about how to claim space that’s rightly yours, not give Doms too much power after a dynamic has ended, and how to remember no one is thinking about anything but themselves! But in a freeing way! Read free on Substack Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr....
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159. Exploring Our Darker, Stranger Drives with Anastasiia Fedorova
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On this month’s Deep Dive, we’re joined by , author of . We talked about how capitalism and commodity culture influence fetishism, how to become archivists of our experience, and we took some time to compare and contrast the vibes of the Foot Guys at various kink parties across the globe. To get the full version of this episode at $11/month or at $8/month. Submit questions for this podcast by going to and recording a voice memo. Sign up for Lyft ! Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Get 20% off your order at with code LINADUNE | | CREDITS Created,...
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158. Let’s Talk About Latex!
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What if you wanted to wear a raincoat but like…. in a weird way?? In anticipation of our upcoming Deep Dive with Anastasiia Fedorova, author of , we’re revisiting an old episode all about rubber and latex! If you’re a fetishist of any kind, or just a little fetish curious, check out to join that discussion on Sunday, March 22. Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to and...
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157. Responsible Mess Management
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We’re all a mess rn. How do we share our messy selves with others messy selves without making too much of a mess?? It’s the question of the day and Lina uses her mess to make an attempt at an answer. Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack . See the paid post archive . Get 20% off your order at with code...
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156. My Dudes! My Guys! My Bros!
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What is a Nice Guy™ to do when the sub he’s playing with refuses to enumerate her wants/needs? Is it pressure-y to insist on a discussion? And, more broadly, how are nice and good men supposed to operate as Doms? Lina chimes in this week on one of her favorite subjects — Men! Not to bash them, but to encourage them along the road to constructive masculinity and their best selves. Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and...
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155. Quick Hits: British ≠ English, Grief = Horny
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On this month’s Quick Hits we’re talking about how Lina and Mr. Dune take their tea, and how to put yourself out there at kinky parties, when you’re a little tender, and most especially when you’re grieving. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved, but you MOST CERTAINLY may NOT put the milk in before the tea is steeped!! Twin Cities Rent Relief: | Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for...
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154. How To Tell If Someone Is Kinky (No Telepathy Needed)
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A listener wants to know how to tell if someone is kinky without having to ask. You guessed it, you do still have to ask, but there are subtle ways of sussing out the bedroom habits of your hot, competent coworker without immediately entering lawsuit territory. Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack . See...
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153. Does A ‘Pleasure Dom’ Imply The Existence Of A… Not-Pleasure Dom?
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Some thoughts on the implications of the words we use to signal safety, pontifications on whether ‘Pleasure Doms’ are inadvertent pick-mes, and another battle cry on how you deserve pleasure, respect, and softness even if your kink is hard and scary. We don’t all have to be sunny, happy carebears…. Some of us are evil carebears that wear black and get stepped on. (also available on ) Buy & tip Ask A Sub with your purchase! Become a member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as...
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