A, B, C, D, E, F, G(RACIE)
A Thousand Tiny Steps
Gracie and I got together to talk about New Year’s resolutions, Wicked, our favorite swear words, and how we’ve grown. From lessons on not comparing yourself to others to realizing setbacks can actually be an opportunity for growth, listen to us as we come up with the most creative curse words we can think of. G is for the grumbling that I do. R is for the resolutions, toodle-oo. A is very, very asshole-a-ary. C is cunnnnn-tinuing another year to go. I is insomnia that gives no rest. E is existential dread all year… Key...
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Strategies for Grief During the Holidays
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Grieving during the holidays sucks. I’ll never “be over it” as some people like to say. I will grieve again and again for Molly. My grief has changed how we celebrate holidays, but at the same time having Jack is also changing how we celebrate. I don’t know what’s ahead, but no matter what my message is the same - celebrate the holidays how you want. Key Takeaways: [4:40] Not feeling excited about anything anymore [6:13] The non-profit Compassionate Friends [11:15] Going through the stages of grief over and over again [16:45] I’m never letting...
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You Can't Sit With Us
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The current school board is beginning to feel like… Regina Georgia’s lunch table. It reminds me of previous years on the board, my relationship with Chris Rath, all the emails on my school account, and so many other mistakes I made. One thing's for sure: I need to learn to notice the change in the weather unless I want to sit with more regrets soon. Key Takeaways: [1:34] Wanting to keep things the same and not noticing a change in the weather [3:07] Not becoming president of the school board [5:54] The board is twisting my realities into something it’s...
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If I Interviewed Myself...
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If a clone of me was suddenly created and I interviewed myself here’s what I’d say. Because trust me, I did not want to do another episode where I talk about the sadness of grieving during the holidays. So instead, enjoy as I talk about everything from what I’d tell myself at 18 to the name of my book - if my enemy wrote it. Key Takeaways: [4:23] What people misunderstand about me most [5:30] My biggest failure and what I learned [7:17] What I want to be remembered for [7:53] My favorite holiday movie [9:29] The advice I’d give to my 18 year old self...
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My Anger Consumes Me
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After my job loss, I was invited to do an interview which became the most popular one on our local radio show. A few days ago was the 40th year anniversary of a school shooting in Concord and I talked to one of the students who went through it. In this episode, I go on a trip down memory lane. Key Takeaways: [1:25] I don’t feel like I’ve made a lot of progress [2:12] 40 years ago there was a school shooting in Concord [5:40] The overwhelming grief of the mother [6:34] I talked to one of the students that went through it [8:02] Why is my...
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Would You Rather...
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This week, I’m throwing away toxic gratitude and playing Would You Rather because we all need some fun in our lives. I contemplate knowing when vs knowing how I would die, someone seeing all of my photos or all of my texts, and so many other ponderings. Key Takeaways: [0:28] Throwing away toxic gratitude and playing would you rather [3:17] See a little into the future or a lot? [3:53] The ability to read minds or move things? [4:25] Sing or dance to every song you hear? [4:45] Jail or coma for 5 years? [5:15] Chronically under or...
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What is Emergence?
A Thousand Tiny Steps
Emerging and changing my ways one tiny step at a time is not easy. Between school board, my living situation, my neighbor dying and my desire to keep things the same, but also change can feel like climbing an uphill battle. Key Takeaways: [0:28] We’re supposed to be grateful in November, but I don’t want to be [2:35] What emergence means in my life [7:37] Feeling ignored and not liked on school board [11:24] My desire to change, but keep things the same [18:15] Having no time alone at home, but having to share [21:42] Thinking about...
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My Nightmare Coaching Job
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I was fired from my coaching job, dealt with an inappropriate dad, an emotionally unstable teenager, and people that shot me nasty looks. All while having an unsupportive administrative staff that didn’t have my back. This is the story of the ups and downs of my coaching job at Bow. Key Takeaways: [3:21] Being hired at Bow High School as a coach [5:55] The new athletic director hated me [9:42] Our first meeting he chastised me for talking about Molly too much [10:53] Transportation and me having the kids in my personal car became a problem [12:19] Where the...
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Re-Air: Ep. 113 - The Power of Friendship
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I looked back on the two friends I’ve lost since I recorded this episode and the ones I’ve kept. In this episode, I thought about the people I surrounded myself with, what that meant, and the wonderful support I receive. It’s interesting to look back and see the toxic people I spent time with and how much my life has changed since then. Key Takeaways: [0:00] Getting sucked into a cycle of mistreatment [4:15] Fight, flight, fawn, and freeze [7:02] Susan is someone who brings me so much joy [9:40] Roberta learns so much about me through my...
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Lions, Tigers, and Another Restraining Order… Oh My!
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I’ve lost count of how many restraining orders have been in my life from either me having to file them, helping others file them, or having them filed against me. At some point it just feels like a circus and an abuse of the system. In this episode, I break down the history of them in my life and question if they really help people. Key Takeaways: [0:00] Does a restraining order actually do anything? [1:57] My restraining order against Science Guy [4:16] Helping Amy get a restraining order and then filing for one against her [12:32] Losing my job and...
info_outlineThe food industry is full of lies because of greedy people that set out to make a lot of money and it’s costing Americans something even greater - their health. From lies about how great low fat is, to how fulfilling a bowl of Fruit Loops are, to how milk will make you healthy, the list of lies never stops growing.
Key Takeaways:
[0:43] Eating whole foods makes my body feel better
[2:54] Breastmilk, different diets, and religion
[5:47] I was made to clean my plate, my diet was not good in college
[7:41] Humans once lived off the land and their diets are different
[13:23] Many people of color are lactose intolerant and the school lunch program
[17:54] The food industry lies about what’s healthy like Froot Loops and milk
[20:14] The safest food is around the perimeter of the store? C. diff and E. coli
[24:59] Low fat foods are good for you, but really they just put a lot of sugar in
[26:27] Your arteries clog because of sugar not fat
[27:53] The food pyramid was influenced by lobbyists
[37:38] Different diets work for different people
[33:22] What’s happening in my life
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