The Price of Settling
A Thousand Tiny Steps
I’ve been thinking about justice - and how Molly will never get it. I settled the lawsuit and took money and I wonder if that’s a mistake. If I hadn’t taken it I could tell so many stories about people’s characters and that’s its own kind of justice. It’s a balancing act: I now have money to help others, but I can never reveal the full truth. Key Takeaways: [0:00] What is justice and does it exist? [4:09] Reading my book about the justice we had for Molly [13:06] What wasn’t in the book: my drug use and how aggressive the lawsuit was [15:00] I...
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Generation Jones: Caught in the Middle
A Thousand Tiny Steps
As I contemplate my life, I realize some aspects haven’t really changed at all. That as much as I embrace things like using my phone to schedule things or text, I still cling on to the nostalgia from my childhood. Writing letters, having homemade food, and bopping along to the Styx and ABBA. In this episode, I look at how my childhood changed rapidly as I’m sandwiched between Boomers and Gen X-ers. Key Takeaways: [0:00] Music from the 70s is still popular today [1:54] The jokes surrounding “okay, boomer” [3:58] Good habits from baby boomers: keeping...
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You Have A Reason to Celebrate
A Thousand Tiny Steps
My friend is having to relearn how to walk and it’s frustrating to him, but he’s making little bits of progress every day and he should celebrate that. You should too. So often we only celebrate the big wins, the things that we deem worthy of celebrating. But in reality, everything is worth celebrating because you are inherently worthy as a human being that exists. Key Takeaways: [0:51] June is a month of new beginnings [2:13] Children’s awareness month and pride month [3:05] African American Music, the zoo, and why do people think eggs are dairy? [4:09]...
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I Broke 5 Minutes in the Mile. Then I Watched the Tape.
A Thousand Tiny Steps
I broke 5 minutes in the mile - and it’s not how I remember it. Memory is such a crazy thing that changes over time. We amplify some parts of our memory and dull others to fit the image we want to see. That’s what I did, but I have it on video to compare to my memory and it’s wild to see. Video is linked here and it’s helpful to watch to follow along with this episode! Key Takeaways: [0:00] Your memories change over time [2:11] Watching the video of me breaking 5 minutes in the mile [3:40] Going from asthmatic to realizing my potential [4:34] Finding...
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My Interview on The Human Experience
A Thousand Tiny Steps
I feel like everywhere I look now I see instances of secret keeping, of being told to be quiet, of lying for others. So when I listened to a podcast episode where a woman’s entire life she was told to keep a secret inside of her? That hit my soul. Which is also why I was so delighted when Jennifer chatted with me and got into how it impacts a person when they’re constantly told to be quiet. Key Takeaways: [0:00] The podcast that is all about keeping secrets [6:33] My interview on The Human Experience Resources: Connect with Barb: ...
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Running Taught Me to Love My Body
A Thousand Tiny Steps
Running was a part of my life for years and then… it was gone. I’ve had to rebuild my life piece by piece and in the process I’ve realized I need to get back into running. It’s the sport that taught me to love my body and more importantly gave me a community that understood the struggles and triumphs of running. Key Takeaways: [3:11] Running allowed me to love my body [5:11] The sexual abuse that’s prevelant to elite athletes [7:42] Being isolated from the running community [10:57] Thinking back to why I didn’t fight for myself [12:55] Running...
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What Does Consent Mean to You?
A Thousand Tiny Steps
I’m quiet. I freeze. I don’t say no. My consent is violated again and again by numerous people in different situations that still follow me today. I did a deep dive on the types of consent, what it actually means, and why the meaning of it gets tricky for people. In this episode, I explore the different types of consent and how those have gone wrong in my life. Key Takeaways: [0:00] Saying the quiet part out loud and sexual assault [4:11] I don’t defend myself or set boundaries [5:47] Consent: voluntary, informed, mutual, respect personal...
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Learning to Break the Silence
A Thousand Tiny Steps
The shouting starts, voices overlapping, and I freeze. I stay quiet hoping not to be noticed. Now, I’m having to unlearn that… A thousand tiny steps, right? It’s easier to not say anything, to justify the abuse, to defend those that have hurt me, but repeating traumatic situations because it’s familiar in my life can’t continue forever. This is how I’m taking small steps towards healing. Key Takeaways: [0:00] Giving $13,000 in scholarships [2:25] Cleaning out dance clothes [3:41] People want to be seen and heard [5:33] In conflict, I freeze up...
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The Number 13 is Sacred
A Thousand Tiny Steps
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Treat Yourself Like your Best Friend
A Thousand Tiny Steps
I went to Molly’s grave, but it’s not the same anymore. I know that as time passes, others forget, but I never will. So, as I grapple with that, I reflect on the amazing people I got to see, what I’m planning to do next with the podcast, and just sitting in my grief. Key Takeaways: [0:00] I don’t celebrate Mother’s Days anymore [2:50] The first Molly WOD not to be during death week [4:54] Visiting Molly’s gravestone and seeing Tim and Ricky [7:53] Kenny didn’t come visit Molly’s grave [9:46] Surround yourself with community in grief ...
info_outlineOne Boomer. One Gen Z. Who will prevail? In this battle of wits both generations hash out what Riz means, how to use a landline, and if crop tops were truly a move forward in fashion. It’s going to get groovy - with a little turbulence! So hold on to your seats, sit back, put your oxygen mask on first, and enjoy the episode.
Key Takeaways:
[2:02] How did you find info without the internet?
[3:28] Slang: cap, riz, stand on business
[6:32] Did you have to rewind a VHS or use a payphone?
[7:39] What’s a Tamagotchi?
[8:04] How did you entertain yourself on a Saturday morning?
[9:50] Were you a latchkey kid?
[11:53] How much time do you spend socializing online vs in person socializing?
[15:01] Did you have to use a landline?
[15:52] How do you feel about being constantly connected with social media?
[22:10] What’s the most memorable 80s/90s fashion trend you wore?
[24:05] What’s a fashion trend that’s been brought back in popularity?
[26:31] What is a walkman and did you have one?
[28:02] Who are the biggest influencers in your life?
[31:58] What was your first job and how did you apply for it?
[35:03] What’s most important in your future career: money, purpose, or balance?
[39:05] What is a Rolodex and what is it used for?
[40:21] How do you approach talking about mental health in the workplace?
[41:36] Generation Gap Trivia: name 3 members of the Spice Girls
[42:27] Can you identify a popular TikTok or 80s movie star?
[44:45] What was the most significant invention in your lifetime?
[46:24] How did you keep in touch with friends without a phone?
[46:53] What was your favorite childhood movie, book, or show?
[49:33] What age did you think was old when you were a teenager?
[50:45] What is the most pointless app on your phone and why?
[51:26] What is a fashion trend you think is ridiculous?
[53:32] If you had to live without a piece of technology for a week, what would it be?
[54:11] What is the biggest misconception about your generation?
[56:04] What do you think is uncool about your parents' generation?
[58:33] What is the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?
[59:28] If you could go back to any era, which one would it be?
[1:02:39] What’s a family tradition you hope to pass on?
[1:03:14] What’s something we could teach each other?
[1:05:08] What’s a movie you wish you could watch for the first time again?
[1:06:57] What’s a floppy disk?
[1:07:15] What’s a pager?
[1:07:45] What did one use 6*7 when making a phone call?
[1:07:57] What’s a BOPIT? AOL? WWW?
[1:08:58] What’s My Little Pony? American Girl Dolls? Easy Bake Oven? Napster?
[1:10:36] Who are the characters of Friends? Gwen Stefani? Fanny packs?
[1:11:42] What’s an overhead projector? Mimeograph machine?
[1:13:36] The biggest difference between our generations
[1:15:30] If you had to describe your generation, how would you?
[1:20:47] What generational divide did we forget?
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