Introducing The Shadow
Authentic Men's Group podcast
The Shadow is all those parts of ourselves we’ve shoved into the dark because we were told they’re unacceptable. This is what we call repression – unconsciously hiding these aspects to fit in and feel loved. And no shame. This helped us survive as kids. But as adults, we take it a step further with suppression – consciously choosing to hide these parts, leading to inauthenticity. Resources we mentioned to start engaging in your own shadow work: Book: Podcast:
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Authentic Grief - Finding Meaning in Your After (Part 4)
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Chapter #7 Suicide The word “”committed” is usually used in the context of crimes. 2016 suicide was ranked the 10thcause of death in the US. Pg 116 men die from suicide 4x more then women. Pain is a natural reaction to death but suffering is what our mind does to us. 118 Death by suicide is not a selfish act or even a choice. It’s a sign of a mind that needs help. 114 The path to freedom from the suffering caused by our minds is through finding meaning. Pg 118 There are many paths to meaning, and if you search for them, you will eventually find them. 119 Give the...
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Authentic Grief - Finding Meaning in Your After (Part 3)
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Authentic Grief: Finding Meaning In Your After In this series of podcasts we want to address the topic of grief. Grief is something we all experience so we want to take an authentic look at this shared experience. David Kessler wrote a book as a 6th stage of grieving titled Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. We will be recording this podcast series as an overview to this book and be inviting you to a conversation about grief and how we can approach it through meaning. What is Grief? Grief is the response to the loss of something deemed important or essential, particularly to the...
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Authentic Grief - Finding Meaning in Your After (Part 2)
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Authentic Grief: Finding Meaning In Your After In this series of podcasts we want to address the topic of grief. Grief is something we all experience so we want to take an authentic look at this shared experience. David Kessler wrote a book as a 6th stage of grieving titled Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. We will be recording this podcast series as an overview to this book and be inviting you to a conversation about grief and how we can approach it through meaning. What is Grief? Grief is the response to the loss of something deemed important or essential, particularly to the...
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Authentic Grief (Part 1)
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Authentic Grief: Finding Meaning In Your After In this series of podcasts we want to address the topic of grief. Grief is something we all experience so we want to take an authentic look at this shared experience. David Kessler wrote a book as a 6th stage of grieving titled Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. We will be recording this podcast series as an overview to this book and be inviting you to a conversation about grief and how we can approach it through meaning. What is Grief? Grief is the response to the loss of something deemed important or essential, particularly to the...
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The Solution to Resolutions (Re-Release)
Authentic Men's Group podcast
How effective are resolutions? Do they work?
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Authenticity In An Artificial World Part 2
Authentic Men's Group podcast
In a culture of “artificial intelligence” and “virtual reality” it can be a challenge to be authentic. In this podcast we continue this conversation and give 4 key factors of how to start unlocking our authentic self. Michael Kernis and Brian Goldman developed an They came up with a technical description of authenticity as "the unimpeded operation of one's true or core self in one's daily enterprise." People who score high in authenticity are also more likely to respond to difficulties with effective coping strategies, rather than resorting to drugs, , or...
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Authenticity in the Holidays
Authentic Men's Group podcast
In this podcast we talk about what it is like to live authentically during the holidays. We reference the 8 qualities and how we personally will look to incorporate these into our holidway experience with friends and family. 8 Qualities of Authenticity: Curiosity Calm Clarity Connectedness Confidence Courage Creativity Compassion
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Authenticity in an Artificial World
Authentic Men's Group podcast
In a culture of “artificial intelligence” and “virtual reality” it can be a challenge to be authentic. Authenticity means erasing the gap between what you firmly believe inside and what you reveal to the outside world. Adam Grant Living an authentic life with courage is meeting your fear, looking it in the eye, but diving in anyway because it is how you want to show up for yourself. Brene Brown The idea of authenticity is a powerful shaping force for individual identity, a functional state, a way of moving through the world. Authenticity is also a feeling, and research shows it feels...
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Regretfully Yours (Part 2)
Authentic Men's Group podcast
Regretfully Yours (Part 2) The Four Categories of Regret from part 1 are: 1. Foundational Regrets - “If only I had more…” 2. Boldness Regrets - “If only took a risk …” 3. Moral Regret - “If I had that decision back I would have…” 4. Connection Regrets - “If I would have stayed connected to…” How to Respond to Regret: 1. Be Aware of it (this is what the first podcast was dedicated to) Identify them in detail Explore why we have them. The keys to awareness 2. Express it - Do not deny regrets but express them with a select few trusted confidants....
info_outlineIn this podcast we talk about three components of living a could life.
1. Living
2. Loving
3. Leaving
Start by asking yourself these questions:
How could I live?
What is living? Really living? Not just existing but truly living.
What’s musing? What’s missing?
What does it look like to live out of our imagination, not our history?
What does it look like to live out of our inspiration, not our obligation?
The key is not prioritize our schedule, but to schedule our priorities
Ask yourself what really matters and priorities your life by this.
Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not on what is essential. We live with the emphasis on being efficient rather than understanding what efficiency can be good for and where it is limited.
“What you believe about your life is what you make true about your life.” -The mountain is You by Brianna Wiess-
Be Present!
Live in the present not in the regrets of the past
Live in the present not in the worries of the future.
When do you feel most alive?
How could I love?
The six Greek words of love:
1. Agape - The unconditional love, too will good for another. This love sees past behaviors and loves without expectations.
2. Eros - The love that desires and expresses deeper love through sensuality. Connection through vulnerability, naked and unashamed.
3. Philos - The love between equals or brothers. The love that creates and generates loyalty and dedication.
4. Storge - The love and affection in a family, especially between parents and children. It can be also used for connection of a clan, team or organization.
5. Xenia - The love associated with hospitality. It is rooted in generosity and reciprocity.
6. Philautia - The love of oneself or the regard for one's own happiness or advantage. When healthy it is associated with self-compassion, when unhealthy it is self obsession.
The greatest axiom of Christianity is “Love God, Love Self, Love Neighbor as self”
Loving self is the center point, the crux of the matter.
Exercise: Name all of the things you love... Did you name yourself?
Loving is messy. When we love we accept who we are. We are all messy, this is part of it. This is by design and meant to keep us alive and engaged.
Love at the source will pour into the relationships of life.
How could I leave?
Practice leaving by sabbath rest and vacation.
Put whole life into something and then leave it.
If we create paradise here we have to leave it, so we might as well practicing leaving it as we go.
This is leaving a legacy and creating a heritage. It is living a life that outlasts the years lived.
Tr”I”bes - In the middle of the word ‘tribe’ is the person “I”. Not that the tribe revolves around I, but that I make a contribution to the tribe. When we think in term of plural tribes we tip the balance to change the world
The Tamarisk (Tam-U-Risk) Tree in ancient eastern writings was often planted when a covenant agreement was being made. The Tamarisk tree didn’t really start to bloom and show maturity until 80 years after it was planted. It would be a reminder to grandchildren of a covenant agreement made three generations before.
Ask yourself, What trees have I planted?
How am I make things better for the people that follow me in the generations to come?
How am I setting the future generations to go further than I did?
Conclusion:
Living
How could I live?
What is living? Not just existing but truly living.
How do we live out of our imagination, not our history?
Am I living out of our inspiration or out obligations?
Loving
How could I love?
How could I love effectively when considering the six Greek words of love?
When I make a list of the things that I love do I consider myself and where am I on the list?
Leaving a Legacy
How could I leave?
How am I practicing leaving by sabbath rest and vacations.
How can I make a contribution to the tribe realizing I am in the middle of that?
How can I plant a tree that my grandkids can enjoy?