Answering Porn Recovery FAQ: Betrayed Spouse | Ep. 652
Release Date: 11/19/2024
Answering Porn Recovery FAQ: Betrayed Spouse | Ep. 652
Awesome Marriage Podcast
Today we’re answering listener questions about how to handle the pain of a spouse’s porn use. Unfortunately, this is a pretty common issue we hear about from couples, but the good news is that you CAN heal and move forward. So today we’re answering listener questions about healing and recovery from pornography in marriage. We’ll talk about the process for forgiveness, what to do if you just cannot forgive and move on, how to rebuild trust, and practical strategies to combat intrusive thoughts. Listen for practical ways to heal and recover your heart and your marriage. We...
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Equip Your Kids to Fight Porn with Kristen Jenson | Ep. 651
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Are your kids protected from p*rn? Do they know how to fight back? What if they’ve already been exposed to it? So many parents do not know how to protect their kids from porn, or how to equip them with what to do if they are exposed to it. We are so pleased to hear from Kristen Jenson today on the podcast with the answers to your questions. Equip yourself so that you can equip kids well. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: The hidden mental health dangers of p*rn The scripts parents need to discuss...
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Answering Porn Recovery FAQ: Recovering Spouse | Ep. 650
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If porn has damaged your marriage, healing is possible. And you are not alone…This is unfortunately a common issue we hear from couples about. So today on the podcast, we’re answering listener questions about healing and recovery from pornography in marriage. We’ll talk about the need for forgiveness, what to do when a spouse cannot forgive and move on, how to rebuild trust, and practical strategies to combat temptation. Listen for practical ways to engage in healing and recovery for you and your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. ...
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Emotional Intimacy Do's and Don'ts | Ep. 649
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How is the emotional intimacy in your marriage? Do you feel safe telling your spouse anything? Do you feel loved, heard, and understood? Marriage is meant to be a refuge…a place where you each feel safe sharing deep personal feelings and confident you will be graciously received by your spouse. The problem is that many of us don’t talk about or even understand our own emotions. And if we can’t properly process our emotions, it will be very hard to build true emotional closeness in marriage. Tune in today to learn the Do’s and Don’t of emotional intimacy. We pray this...
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Building a Foundation of Spiritual Intimacy for a Marriage That Lasts with David & Meg Robbins | Ep. 648
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We’re so happy to have David and Meg Robbins from FamilyLife joining us on the podcast today. The Robbins have been in ministry for many years and have learned so many important truths about what it takes to create a marriage strong enough to stand strong through the years. Today they share their wisdom and experience. You don’t want to miss this conversation, full of wisdom and practical application that will benefit you and your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: The unique strengths of Gen Z...
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Using the 5 Levels of Communication & Avoiding Communication Breakdowns | Ep. 647
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Are you familiar with the 5 levels of communication and where they fit in your marriage? Do you use all 5 levels in your marriage? The basics of communication sound simple on paper, yet most couples are struggling to communicate effectively. And when communication falls short, your connection suffers, conflict ramps up, and marriage isn’t the partnership you hoped for. Today Dr. Kim shares these levels and how to use them, so you can access all 5 types of communication your marriage needs and avoid common communication breakdowns with your spouse. Tune in to learn more! ...
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Don’t Fight About the Wrong Things, Find Your Real Marriage Issue | Ep. 646
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Are you truly resolving your marriage issues? Most couples experience recurring arguments that never truly resolve. This cycle leaves you with two problems: 1, You never solved the issue, and 2, now one or both are hurt and angry. Plus you’ve got some baggage around the issue, too. Today we’re going to help you learn how to resolve the actual issues. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: What NOT to do in a recurring argument Communication tips to help you prevent conflict Conversation hacks to...
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How to Choose Your Battles Well | Ep. 645
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How well do you choose your battles? If you struggle with recurring conflict in marriage, you might need to work on choosing your battles. On the other hand, if you’re feeling resentment but you’re not sure how to address it… you might need to work on choosing your battles. Today Dr. Kim is going to help you learn how to choose your battles well. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Knowing when to stand your ground vs. when to let go The underlying message in your recurring marriage issues How to balance love and...
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How to Have Hope in the Darkest Times with Ken Guidroz | Ep. 644
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After a few “golden years” of ministry for Ken Guidroz and his family, things imploded. When Ken had to face the unimaginable as a dad, faith was hard to find. Hope seemed distant as he, his wife, and their marriage both struggled to recover. Today Ken shares the story of how they clung to each other and found hope to move forward together, through their darkest season. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: How to hold onto faith when you feel hopeless Maintaining marriage unity while holding different...
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How to Build a Biblical Perspective in Marriage | Ep. 643
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Your mindset greatly impacts your day to day life. If you’re stuck in unhealthy or unhelpful thought patterns, both you and your marriage will suffer. But there are simple ways to unpack your thought patterns and replace the unhelpful with a biblical perspective. In today’s episode we’re looking at practical ways to adopt a gracious, life-giving perspective in marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Common perspective mistakes in marriage and what causes them Practical tips to resolve perspective issues...
info_outlineToday we’re answering listener questions about how to handle the pain of a spouse’s porn use.
Unfortunately, this is a pretty common issue we hear about from couples, but the good news is that you CAN heal and move forward. So today we’re answering listener questions about healing and recovery from pornography in marriage. We’ll talk about the process for forgiveness, what to do if you just cannot forgive and move on, how to rebuild trust, and practical strategies to combat intrusive thoughts.
Listen for practical ways to heal and recover your heart and your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
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How to forgive and move forward when it feels impossible
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Changing your view if you can’t separate your spouse from the hurtful behavior
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The balance of feeling safe and willingness to be vulnerable
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Boundary setting to allow for healing
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Getting out of the comparison trap and starting to feel beautiful and desirable again
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
Couples Conversation Guide:
Main takeaway: When your marriage is recovering from porn use, repentance is the first step. Forgiveness allows you to heal, and boundaries help facilitate marriage healing. You can rebuild your marriage even better than before.
Questions to Discuss:
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What does your spouse do that helps you trust them?
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Are there any areas where you need to build or repair trust with your spouse?
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What can you do together to help that process?
QUOTES
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“Until you forgive, you’re still giving a lot of power to what happened.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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“One of the best prayers is asking God to help you see your spouse through His eyes.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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“We want assurance that nothing will ever hurt us again, but that’s not possible.” Lindsay Few
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“Look for Jesus in your spouse. When you see that, things are probably going to be pretty good.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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This is not a hurdle to get through: this is a lifestyle change. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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There’s nothing wrong with being accountable, not because you ‘have to,’ but because you love your spouse. - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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“You’ve got to be completely open and transparent with each other. You can’t have trust without that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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