Our Marriage is Struggling, But My Spouse Thinks Everything’s Fine Ep. 694
Release Date: 09/09/2025
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Nancy and I are back together to discuss a topic that frequently shows up in our inbox: one-sided marriages. These are spouses who reach out because, even in the midst of disconnect and hurt, they still desire a healthy, God-honoring marriage, but feel like they’re the only one who cares or the only one willing to put in the work. How do you reconcile and reconnect? That’s the focus of our conversation today. I’m praying this episode encourages those who feel alone and offers hope and next steps for fighting for your marriage. Episode Highlights: Love like Christ without enabling....
info_outlineAwesome Marriage Podcast
Nancy and I are back together to discuss a topic that frequently shows up in our inbox: one-sided marriages. These are spouses who reach out because, even in the midst of disconnect and hurt, they still desire a healthy, God-honoring marriage, but feel like they’re the only one who cares or the only one willing to put in the work. How do you reconcile and reconnect? That’s the focus of our conversation today. I’m praying this episode encourages those who feel alone and offers hope and next steps for fighting for your marriage. Episode Highlights: Love like Christ without enabling....
info_outlineAwesome Marriage Podcast
Nancy and I are back together to discuss a topic that frequently shows up in our inbox: one-sided marriages. These are spouses who reach out because, even in the midst of disconnect and hurt, they still desire a healthy, God-honoring marriage, but feel like they’re the only one who cares or the only one willing to put in the work. How do you reconcile and reconnect? That’s the focus of our conversation today. I’m praying this episode encourages those who feel alone and offers hope and next steps for fighting for your marriage. Episode Highlights: Love like Christ without enabling....
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info_outlineEvery marriage goes through seasons where spouses see the health of their relationship differently. Our unique physical needs, emotional capacities, and family backgrounds shape the expectations we bring into marriage and the ways we handle conflict. If you’re in a season where you feel unheard or disconnected, this episode offers practical ways to pursue your spouse, tools for having the hard conversations, and encouragement to take ownership of your part in the struggle. Most importantly, it will remind you that God cares deeply about you and your marriage, and you can trust Him to guide and protect it.
Episode Highlights:
- Each spouse has different emotional needs and brings different emotional baggage into a marriage.
- It’s important to approach the content spouse with grace.
- Men and women have different relational needs.
- Just because you don’t talk about, or acknowledge issues, doesn’t mean they will just go away.
- Even if you feel lonely and isolated and unheard in your marriage, you can trust the Lord with your heart.
Quotes from Today’s Episode:
Some people have a higher tolerance for dysfunction or distance in relationships.
Couples may be sharing responsibilities without sharing their hearts.
Sometimes the content spouse is suppressing their emotions.
Acknowledging your part opens up the door for real conversation.
It’s ok to feel angry or frustrated, but don’t let that cause you to sin.
You're responsible for learning to manage your emotions.
A healthy marriage requires two people who are both willing to grow.
Timing and approach are everything.
Scripture should be a guide not a weapon.
Couples’ Conversation Guide:
- How do you rate the health of your marriage right now? What do you think your spouse would rate your marriage? (If you don’t know, ask them!)
- How safe do you feel to be vulnerable in your marriage? What do you think your spouse would rate how safe they feel in your marriage? (If you don’t know, ask them!)
- How can you show your spouse that their feelings matter to you, even when you don’t understand them?
- Can you identify an unhealthy pattern or rhythm in your marriage? What one positive step can you take toward changing that pattern or rhythm together?
This week’s challenge: Write your spouse a letter and share something you’ve had a hard time communicating in the past.
Mentioned in this Episode:
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A unified family mission can help the work/ family balance. Check out our 10 Christian Family Mission Statements.
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Help your children write God’s Word on their hearts with our FREE 11 Bible Verses For Kids to Memorize
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Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. If work seems to take priority over your marriage, you’ll love this FREE YouVersion plan: Boundaries in Marriage
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