Reclaimed: The Story of Healing with Stephanie Boersma Ep. 697

I’m so thankful for this conversation with Stephanie Broersma about her brand-new resource: Reclaimed: A Course to Guide You Through Betrayal and Infidelity Trauma.

This powerful resource is designed for those walking through the trauma of betrayal, offering hope, healing, and a path forward. In our conversation, Stephanie shares how the course helps you stay connected to the Lord in the midst of grief, while also providing practical next steps and long-term rhythms to move toward restoration. She reminds us that your spouse’s decisions do not define your worth and that there is a real enemy fighting against both your marriage and your identity in Christ. If you’ve been hurting, this conversation will point you back to truth, hope, and healing.

 

Episode Highlights:

What fires together, wires together.

You have options when triggers begin to surface.

Triggers don’t equate to a lack of forgiveness.

There’s no need to rush. Give yourself time to get your emotions regulated before making a major decision.

Allow the Lord the space to work in the midst of the grief and in the midst of the stillness and heaviness.

 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

Give yourself time to grieve and heal the right way. -Dr. Kim

God designed emotions to inform us about our world. They are not bad. They give us language to express what we are feeling.- Stephanie

Triggers point you to an experienced trauma in your life and then you have an option. You have a choice. What am I going to do with this trigger?-Stephanie

As you heal, the triggers become less damaging. -Dr. Kim

Sexual addiction, at its deepest level, is a spiritual issue. A disorder of worship, not to God but to self.- Stephanie

Healing does not happen in isolation. You are not meant to be alone in this journey.-Stephanie

Forgiveness is a posture of surrender that says, 'I can't fix him. I don't want to fix him.'- Stephanie

Your spouse does not define you or your future. As long as God leaves, as long as you get that breath, God's got a plan for you.- Dr. Kim

If you’re going to get healthy, there has to be boundaries in place. And they have to be consistent.- Dr. Kim

Hope chooses faith even in the mess.

Questions for Reflection:

1. In what ways have you been tempted to let someone else’s choices define your worth, and how can you replace those lies with God’s truth about your identity?
   
   
2. What is one practical rhythm you can begin this week to stay connected to the Lord as you process pain or grief?
   
   
3. How can you recognize the enemy’s attempts to attack your marriage or identity, and what steps can you take to guard against them?

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Check out Reclaimed Ministry

• Stephanie is on Instagram!

• Reclaimed: A Course to Guide You Betrayal and Infidelity Trauma

• This month’s resource targets all the major pain points of communication: Fix Communication Breakdowns Bundle

• Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Fight the chaos of culture and keep your marriage grounded in Biblical truth. Check out 5 Marriage Lies to Defeat with Biblical Truth.

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