Closing the 18-Inch Gap Podcast-EP052: Boost Your Day: Q&A Inside!
Closing The 18 Inch Gap Podcast
Release Date: 02/11/2025
Closing The 18 Inch Gap Podcast
This is the question that echoes in the quiet moments when your heart aches for something more.... How? It’s the whisper that asks why your dreams have stayed locked away, waiting, while life moved on. How did you get here—staring at the gap between who you are and who you know you could be? How wide is that gap? 18-inches wide. It’s those 18 inches that you need to travel to break free from the lies, the fears, and the beliefs that have kept your dreams buried. How do you take what feels impossible... and make it real? I’m Edwin Soler, your Dream Realization Partner....
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Have you ever wondered what a dead dream looks like? What causes it? This isn't just a conversation… it’s an examination. Somewhere, deep within you—or someone you love—there was a dream. A dream once alive, vibrant, breathing with purpose. But today… it’s gone. Was it killed by fear? Starved by delay? Drowned in someone else’s opinion? Or did it simply go unloved and unnoticed for too long? I’m your Dream Realization Partner, and in this episode, we perform the autopsy. Together we’ll examine the wounds and ask the hard questions. Not to linger in loss—but to...
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There’s a question that comes before all the others. A question that opens the door… or locks it shut. It’s not “Why me?” It’s not “How do I do it?” It’s not even “When will it happen?” It’s “What?” What is stopping you? What dream are you denying? What lie have you accepted as truth? What would happen if you finally said yes to the life that’s been waiting on you? In this episode, we go deeper than surface questions. We go into the raw, uncharted terrain of your locked away dreams— The “What” that most people are too afraid to ask, and too exhausted...
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Last week I was so into the episode that I lost track of time. So today I’m bringing you the last 14 points. I mistakenly thought I had brought 12 points but actually only brought 11. The word I am exploring is such a simple but powerful one: Why? Like I said last week. It’s such a simple word. One syllable. Three letters. But inside that word now that we’re all grown up… lives a storm. Today, I’m not here to give you steps, or tips, or strategies. I’m here to ask you questions. Because that’s what good coaches do. They ask real questions. The kind that...
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Do you remember being a kid and always asking the same question? Remember how we drive our parents and teachers crazy? It’s such a simple word. One syllable. Three letters. But inside that word now that we’re all grown up… lives a storm. Today, I’m not here to give you steps, or tips, or strategies. I’m here to ask you questions. Because that’s what good coaches do. They ask real questions. The kind that don’t just live in your head—they echo in your soul. I’m your Dream Realization Partner. And if you’ve ever felt like your dream is locked in a box… hidden behind...
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Everyone loves an underdog story, but living one? That is a whole different challenge. The struggle, the doubt, and those nights when giving up feels like the easiest choice. It’s tough, but that’s exactly why it feels so good when you finally prove them wrong. Being the underdog is not a weakness. It is a secret weapon. No one sees you coming. No one expects you to win. And when you do? That victory hits different! Every champion, record-breaker, and history-maker started at the bottom. If you are pushing through setbacks, proving doubters...
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Welcome to today’s powerful episode of the podcast—a moment you’ll remember because today, we’re going to crack open the barriers that have kept you from fully chasing your dreams. “DREAM BIG – The Breakthrough Blueprint to Unleashing the Life You’re Meant to Live” Too often, people believe dreaming big is for someone else—for the lucky, the talented, the privileged. Let me ask you this, are you living someone else’s dream? If the answer is yes then I’m here to tell you: dreaming big is not a luxury—it’s your birthright. That’s right, I’ll say it again- it’s...
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Powerful coaching questions are the cornerstone of effective coaching, unlocking the wisdom within you rather than simply providing you the answers. The ‘most powerful’ questions always vary depending on your context. Every question has the capability of taking you in a different direction.
Questions invite the client to find the answers themselves, my job is to help you, rather than think for you.
A powerful coaching question will ignite your imagination. When you
come up with the solution, the likelihood of implementing that solution or achieving that goal is far greater than if I just give you a solution. Even if your answers seem less powerful than mine, if you have come up with the solution, then you will likely achieve it.
Quote of the week: Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers: Voltaire
Good coaching questions can do the following:
• Stimulate reflective conversation and thought
• Invite creativity and new possibilities
• Generate energy and forward movement
• Channel attention and focus inquiry
• Evoke more questions
Points covered:
Now let’s dive into some examples of types of questions. By the way, example coaching questions are included in each sample below in the recording of the podcast:
Scaling Questions: “On a scale of 1 to 10” questions
Scaling questions in coaching are a good tool to find out things that are subjective or difficult to measure. They help quantify intangible things.
STRATEGIC QUESTIONS
Circular Questioning: What would your (insert relationship) say?
Circular questioning helps to change perspective and gain a new point of view. It helps break free from old thought patterns and creates new ideas and solutions.
Hypothetical Coaching Questions: “What if” questions
Hypothetical questions are usually future-oriented and give you the client the option to think about a different point of view and new solutions. They stimulate creativity in you when you search for ideas and possible solutions.
The miracle question is a great thought experiment in coaching. The focus is on the future, on the goal the client wants to achieve. Instead of thinking how bad the situation is right now, we switch the attention to how life would be after the problem is solved.
Paradox Coaching Questions: What could you do not to…?
Paradox means contradictory. Paradox questions in coaching aim to surprise you by aggravating the problem. The question exaggerates the situation and gets you thinking about new ideas and possible solutions. Paradox questions are a powerful tool whenever you are stuck.
Solution-Focused Coaching Questions: Focus on strengths
The focus question in coaching puts the focus on your strengths, instead of weaknesses. The focus is on competencies, not inadequacies; on “what can” rather than “what can’t” be done. The focus is on the solution, not the problem.
Some other brief examples as well:
THE BEGINNING: Build Understanding / Uncover what is important
Establish Intent: Understand what you hope to achieve from your session
Set Direction: Shift focus from what’s wrong to what’s possible
This is only half of the total outline and a small fraction of 100 questions I have saved that I could ask. This is meant as an idea of what’s possible when the right questions are asked.
Did anything resonate with you? Do you want to explore deeper how I can help you with this topic? If so, reach out to me and let me know. Simply send me an email to [email protected] and let me know what your question is and how we can connect. I always offer a free, complementary, coaching session where we can explore how I can help you and you can see coaching action for yourself.
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