6 steps to boost your Confidence & Self Worth for a better life

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6 steps to boost your Confidence & Self Worth for a better life

1. Stop comparing yourself to others. Whether checking out the "perfect" bodies on Instagram or comparing salaries with friends, we all compare ourselves to others at one time or another.

But measuring yourself against other people erodes self-confidence fast. Research shows that the more envy people experience when they make comparisons, the worse they feel about themselves.

Pay attention to when you start thinking other people are either above you or below you in some way.

Instead of viewing them as your competitors, consider them opinion-holders. Someone who looks like they are doing well might have information, skills, or resources you could learn from. Make it your goal to become better than you were yesterday, not better than someone else.

 Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Start with this famous quote from Theodore Roosevelt. Comparing yourself to others often leads to unnecessary self-doubt. Instead of celebrating your progress, you diminish it by measuring it against someone else’s highlight reel.

 Everyone's Journey is Unique

No two people have the same background, talents, challenges, or timing. Remind your listeners that their timeline is not supposed to look like anyone else’s. Success is not linear, and growth happens at different paces.

 Social Media Isn’t Real Life

People usually post their best moments online. What you’re comparing your life to is a curated, filtered version of someone else’s. Behind every smiling selfie could be struggles you’ll never see. Encourage listeners to limit screen time if they notice it's harming their self-esteem.

 Turn Comparison into Inspiration

Rather than envying someone, ask: What can I learn from them? Use their success as a source of motivation, not discouragement. Shift the focus from envy to education.

 Focus on Your Progress

Have listeners look at where they were 6 months ago, 1 year ago, 5 years ago. Are they moving forward? If yes, celebrate that. Confidence grows when you acknowledge your own progress, no matter how small.

 Gratitude Kills Comparison

Encourage gratitude journaling. When people take time daily to list what they’re thankful for, they naturally begin to shift focus inward, recognizing the value in their own life rather than someone else’s.

 You Don’t Know the Full Story

You might be comparing your struggle to someone’s moment of success — not realizing they went through years of failure first. Or that they’re struggling in other ways. Appearances are deceiving.

The Scarcity Mindset vs. Abundance Mindset

Comparison often comes from thinking there’s not enough success, love, money, or happiness to go around. But confidence grows when you believe that there’s more than enough for everyone — that someone else’s success doesn’t take away from yours.

Celebrate Others Without Diminishing Yourself

lifting others up and recognizing their achievements can be empowering — not threatening. True confidence doesn’t fear someone else’s light; it shines alongside it.

 Daily Affirmation

Close this segment with an affirmation your audience can use:

“I am on my own path. My worth is not defined by others. I trust my journey.”

2. Create boundaries. It’s impossible to be confident when you feel like you have no control over how others treat you. When you establish healthy boundaries, however, you’ll see that you’re in charge of determining what behaviors you’ll tolerate and which you won’t.

Creating boundaries for ourselves can aid in feeling more in control and thus improve psychological safety. It's really part of feeling confident, knowing that you're in charge of your life.

Say no to things you don’t want to do. Speak up when someone crosses the line. And make your expectations clear.

Take care of your body. Feeling good about yourself is hard when you're not treating your body properly. When you prioritize self-care, you do something great for your body, mind, and spirit.

Eating healthy, exercising, meditating, and getting plenty of sleep are all keys to helping you feel your best. Just adding in a few extra walks every week and making some healthier food choices could bolster your confidence.

Eat foods that are closest to how they are naturally. Get away from processed foods. I mentioned fatty liver disease.

Fatty liver disease, also known as hepatic steatosis, is a condition where excess fat accumulates in the liver. It can be caused by various factors, including alcohol consumption, obesity, and certain medical conditions. While often asymptomatic in its early stages, fatty liver disease can progress to more serious conditions like liver inflammation (steatohepatitis) and even liver failure if left untreated. 

Types of Fatty Liver Disease: 

• Nonalcoholic Fatty Liver Disease (NAFLD): This is the most common type, occurring in people who drink little to no alcohol. It's often linked to obesity, diabetes, and metabolic syndrome. 

       Alcoholic Fatty Liver Disease (AFLD): This type is directly related to heavy alcohol consumption. 

 Metabolic Dysfunction-Associated Steatotic Liver Disease (MASLD): This is the new, more comprehensive term for NAFLD, emphasizing its link to metabolic dysfunction and related conditions. 

 

 Spend time with positive people. The people around you greatly impact how you feel about yourself. If judgmental or critical people surround you, it’ll take a toll on your mental strength. If, however, you’re interacting with people who can cheer others on and support one another, you’ll feel much better.

Unfortunately, researchers have found that people with low self-esteem tend to befriend people who put them down. If you feel bad about yourself, you might spend time with others who put you down because you’re used to hearing bad things about yourself.

If you feel awful about yourself, hearing others say nice things about you can be uncomfortable. So you might go with what feels familiar–put-downs and negativity.

So pay close attention to the people you choose to surround yourself with and don’t be afraid to reduce or eliminate your contact with some people. Focus on creating healthier relationships with the positive people in your life. Although it may feel uncomfortable at first, it gets easier over time, and hearing good things about yourself might shift how you talk to yourself too.

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."
This idea is widely attributed to motivational speaker and entrepreneur Jim Rohn, and it's rooted in both psychology and sociology.

Here’s a breakdown of the core idea:

🧠 Psychological Influence:

• Social Contagion Theory: Emotions, habits, and behaviors are contagious. If your close circle is driven, kind, and positive, you're likely to adopt those traits.
• Mirror Neurons: Your brain mirrors the behaviors and attitudes of those around you, often subconsciously.

🌐 Social and Environmental Influence:

• Norms and Expectations: If your peer group values fitness, reading, or financial discipline, those behaviors become normalized and expected.
• Accountability & Support: Being around goal-oriented people raises your own standards and builds a support network.

📊 Research Examples:

• A famous Framingham Heart Study (over 30 years) showed things like obesity and smoking were highly influenced by social circles.
• Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler demonstrated in research that even a friend's friend (3 degrees out) can influence your habits.

🔄 Real-Life Applications:

• Entrepreneurs join mastermind groups or incubators to stay sharp.
• Addiction recovery relies heavily on community (like AA or support groups).
• Personal growth seekers often seek mentors, coaches, or supportive communities.

Questions you might explore in a podcast or blog:

• Are your five closest people helping or hurting your goals?
• Can changing your environment actually change your identity?
• How do you consciously upgrade your circle?
• 1. Can changing your environment actually change your identity?
• Yes — your environment can absolutely shape and even transform your identity. Who and what you surround yourself with directly influences how you think, act, and see yourself.
• Your identity is not fixed; it's constantly shaped by:
• The conversations you have
• The standards you're held to
• The behaviors you normalize
• The goals that seem possible around you
• If you move into a space where success, growth, and discipline are the norm, you start to adapt. You begin to take on that mindset — not just to fit in, but because you're being shown a new version of what's possible for you. It's like planting a seed in fertile soil vs. dry sand. The right environment allows your potential to grow.
• 🔑 Change your environment, and you give your identity permission to evolve.

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• 2. How do you consciously upgrade your circle?
• Upgrading your circle doesn’t mean ditching your old friends — it means intentionally surrounding yourself with people who inspire and challenge you. Here’s how to do it:
• ✅ Steps to Upgrade Your Circle:
• Audit your current circle.
  Ask: Do they support my growth or hold me back? Do they complain or take action?
• Get clear on your goals.
  Know what kind of energy, mindset, and habits you want to be around.
• Seek aligned communities.
  Join groups, masterminds, clubs, or events that attract driven people.
  Online forums, coaching groups, and industry meetups are gold.
• Be the person you want to attract.
  Growth-minded people are drawn to others on the same path.
• Build intentional connections.
  Reach out, network, offer value — and be patient. Strong circles grow over time.

5. Reframe your negative self-talk. When you talk down to yourself, you hold yourself back and decrease your confidence. Your subconscious buys into the idea that certain things are “too hard” or “you can’t handle it.” Flip the script with a little kind self-talk to overcome self-doubt and take on new challenges. For instance:

    Instead of “I can’t handle this,” try “I can do this.”

    Rather than “I can’t do anything right,” go for “I can do better next time.”

    Replace “I hate public speaking” with something like “I don’t love public speaking, but everyone has strengths and weaknesses.”

 

6. Act as if you feel confident. No one gains confidence by sitting around the house doing nothing. Sometimes, the best way to change your feelings is to change your behavior first.

Ask yourself what you’d be doing if you felt confident. Would you enroll in classes? Move to a new city? Talk to more people? Do those things now.

When you walk into a room, act like you feel confident doing it. Even small changes, like a slight shift in your posture, can make a huge difference.

 

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