Ep. #19: That Case is NOT Your "Baby"
Being Mindful with the Spiritual Litigator
Release Date: 04/18/2019
Ep. #21: What I'm Reading: 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
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In this week’s episode, I talk about “5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life” by Bill Eddy, a lawyer and a therapist.
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Ep. #20: Managing Morning Anxiety
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In this week's episode, I talk about how I use routines to manage my morning anxiety.
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Ep. #19: That Case is NOT Your "Baby"
Being Mindful with the Spiritual Litigator
In this week's episode, I discuss why identifying your case as your "baby" can trigger your primal fight or flight response any time that "baby" is threatened.
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Ep. #18: Criticism Will Not Kill You
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In this week's episode, I talk about three main reasons why criticism leads to beliefs that cause such intense negative emotion.
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Ep. #17: What I'm Reading: Grit
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am happy to report that my goal of reading one book per month has been successful so far.
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Ep. #16: Panic-Free Legal Writing
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In this week's podcast episode, I discuss how to use mindfulness to change the beliefs that cause lawyers to panic when working on a legal writing assignment or project such as a brief or memo.
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Ep #15: Sometimes You Are Wrong
Being Mindful with the Spiritual Litigator
My fellow litigators: sometimes you will be so sure that your case strategy will work and that someone else’s suggestion will not. And sometimes you will be completely and utterly wrong. If you do not accept that, you will experience the unnecessary emotional and physical consequences of failing to manage your mind.
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Ep #14: The ABCs of Being a Mindful Lawyer
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On today's episode, I talk about the intersection between mindfulness and psychology and how having an understanding of how your brain works and identifying the beliefs that cause negative emotions, actions or results within your legal practice can lead to serious and sustainable improvements.
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Learning to Be a Present Lawyer
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In this week’s podcast episode, I discuss being a present lawyer.
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Setting Realistic Boundaries in Your Law Practice
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In this week’s podcast episode, I discuss setting realistic boundaries in your law practice. If you do not set boundaries with your clients, adversaries, or partners, your productivity and motivation can suffer. Additionally, if you don’t set boundaries in your personal relationships, you may end up with less of them. This episode gives some examples of how to set realistic boundaries and what to do when your boundaries are breached.
info_outlineIn this week's episode, I discuss why identifying your case as your "baby" can trigger your primal fight or flight response any time that "baby" is threatened.
99% of the time, this new case is not a special snowflake, not going to change the world and is not your "baby" to save.
If the case is your baby, every threat to its success is a threat to you.
When you self-identify with your cases, you give your power away.
When you make your happiness and self-worth dependent on the outcome of your cases, you start triggering beliefs that equate the potential loss of your case to danger and death.
This causes irrational responses to predictable setbacks (losing a motion, a rogue witness at a deposition, discovery of bad facts, etc.), unnecessary stress and anxiety, and in some cases, can lead to behavior that can alienate you from your fellow attorneys.
Here, I talk about how to dispute the beliefs and replace them with effective new beliefs that remind you that the case is not your baby, that it is just another case, and that you can still advocate for your client and work the case to the best of your ability without telling your brain that you are going to die if things go wrong.