[cw: suicidal ideation] Transformational Life Coach Shannon Parsons on learning from trauma and raising kids in a supportive environment

[content warning: suicidal ideation] Transformational Life Coach Shannon Parsons shares her recovery from childhood pain and loneliness, how observing another family gave her valuable perspective, and how she raised her children according to her values.

 

Email Shannon

 

Mentioned in this episode:

• Improv for Entrepreneurs class, through O.Improv 
• Wonder Women Networking events by Liz Myers
• Humboldt State University 
• On the Spot Improv at the Arcata Theater Lounge
• Humboldt Orientation Program - teaches people to say “I don’t know, but I’ll get back to you”
• Confidence Cat Zine: coloring worksheets for confidence, problem-solving, and career decision-making 
• Idea: Draw your Inner Belief Child
• Tip - to minimize criticizing your ideas, think of them as Throwaway Ideas and let as many out as you can 
• • Try the Hatch notebook for tracking ideas and moving forward with some of them
  • Feeling perfectionist even when you’re brainstorming? Try the word “Brainsprinkles,” to further take the pressure off. 
• Do It Scared (take action even when it’s scary, if that action is important and thoughtful) 
• Growth mindset: don’t feel limited by the skills you currently have
• • Confidence Cat demonstration of Growth Mindset 
• Drafty draft: an even lower stakes version of a rough draft 
• • NEVER judge your drafty draft
  • A drafty draft can be scribbles on a paper, a super rough outline, just starting a blank document and naming it, a mind map, or a brainstorming session
• Tip for authentic networking: Instead of handing out dozens of business cards at a networking event, try: 
• • 1) ask questions about the other person instead of trying to show why you’re impressive 
  • 2) create a podcast or YouTube channel to have great conversations without small talk 
  • 3) try to find what you have in common with different people you meet throughout your week 
• Tip: Instead of assuming you suck, see if there are resources that can address your current roadblocks
• Tip - When you’re faced with something difficult or embarrassing, think “Whatever I go through, I can destigmatize.” 
• • Note: This tip doesn’t fit everyone, but is a helpful mindset for people who like to share about their experiences. Even if that’s not you, this may help when you find yourself in a situation where someone opens up to you   
• I forgot to mention when we were talking about my experience getting cold sores (which is caused by HSV or herpes simplex virus): The Life With Herpes podcast
• Disability After Dark - NSFW (not safe for work)

 

Possibly useful resources:

• Inside the US: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline,  1-800-273-8255
• International: List of suicide hotlines around the world

Growth mindset drawing:

 

————————————————————————

Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram.

Email: [email protected]

Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

 

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Evpak

Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Evpak