Episode 42- 10 Ways to Have Better Sex Part 4
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
On this episode we are wrapping up our conversation on the importance of sex in marriage. We have dove into this topic and have explored things you or your spouse could be doing to harm your sex life and ways you both can make it better. Let's look at two more tips before we go. Do Not Watch Porn Porn is extremely dangerous to a marriage. It will in no way unite you and your spouse. Porn will only cause division and other issues. For more information about the dangers of porn check out Mark Gungor. Create A Sex Bucket List Our last tip is to create a sex bucket list. Sit...
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Episode 41- 10 Ways to Have Better Sex Part 3
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
With this episode we are continuing the conversation on ways to improve your sex life. So far we have given you five ways to grow your intimacy. Spend Quality Time Together Talk About It Please and Be Pleased Don't Rely on Your Mood Don't Overlook the Quickie Let's dive into the next three. Get Creative Don’t just do the same old things in the same old places. Have sex in a different room, or a different place altogether. Roleplay and dress up. Remember we said you should talk about sex with your spouse? Ask them what one of their fantasies is, and make it a reality. There is no reason for...
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Episode 40- 10 Ways to Have Better Sex Part 2
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God’s plan for sex in marriage is one of enduring intimacy. He created sex as a good gift to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage. Biblically it should be the married couples having the wild and amazing sex, not the single people. In our last episode, we gave you two ways to start having better sex, let’s pick back up that discussion. Please And Be Pleased Once you know what your spouse likes, do it. Sex is not about being selfish. Make your spouse and their pleasure your focus. There is something very gratifying when we stop trying to be fulfilled and focus on...
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Episode 39- 10 Ways to Have Better Sex Part 1
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
10 Ways to Have Better Sex Teaser: On our last three podcasts, we discussed 10 things that could damage your intimacy with your spouse. We dealt with the problem first because if you try to fix something without dealing with the problem, you will only have a big problem in the end. In the next few episodes we will be discussing 10 things you can do to help improve your sex life. So let’s dive in. 10 Ways to Have Better Sex Spending Quality Time Together Sex should not be the only time you attempt to spend with your spouse. Find out what interests them and share that with them. Find...
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Episode 38- Sex Life Killers Part 3
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Last week we gave you more things that could be damaging or even killing your sex life. Your sex life is such an important part of your marriage and should be thriving not dying. On our last two episodes we talked about... Distractions Constantly shutting down your spouse Critical Words Body Image Comparison Being Too Busy Poor Routine Let's look at a few more things that could be hindering your sex life. Getting Too Comfortable I love the fact that I am comfortable being myself in my marriage. That is one of the many facets of marriage. It is a place to be loved unconditionally, even...
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Episode 37- Sex Life Killers Part 2
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
Sex Life Killers Part 2 Last week we gave you three things that could be damaging or even killing your sex life. Your sex life is such an important part of your marriage and should be thriving not dying. On our last episode we talked about... Distractions Constantly shutting down your spouse Critical Words Let's look at a few more things that could be hindering your sex life. Comparison Comparison is a relationship killer in general. It has the ability to take a person who has so much and make them believe they have nothing. Comparison always leaves you feeling...
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Episode 36- Sex Life Killers Part 1
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
Sex is a great thing! Most people spend the majority of their single lives trying to get as much of it as possible. But there is a problem that can happen in marriage… Once married, you can have sex all you want…but for many people and for many different reasons sex stops… join us as we talk about the things that can kill off a good sex life. What the Word Says about Sex in Marriage Your spring water is for you and you only, not to be passed around among strangers. Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a...
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Episode 35- Sex and Marriage
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Sex and Marriage Talking about sex can be tricky. It is easy for this topic to become awkward, silly, or even inappropriate. We don’t want that to happen here. We do however want to stress how important sex is in a marriage. Marriage is to be held in honor among all [that is, regarded as something of great value], and the marriage bed undefiled [by immorality or by any sexual sin]; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Hebrews 13:4 Amplified Version Sex is a good thing when it is kept in the marriage relationship. Sex has many purposes but one of those purposes...
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Episode 34- The 4 Step Marriage Plan
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John J. Beckley once said, “Most people don’t plan to fail, they fail to plan.” This can be applied to every area of life. No one wakes up in the morning and plans to fail. Every marriage has dreams and goals. The problems come when we fail to make a plan to make those dreams and goals a reality. Without a plan with intentional steps, most if not all, dreams and goals will go unaccomplished, and we don’t want that to happen in your marriage. Join us for this episode as we give you a 4 Step Marriage Plan to help accomplish your goals and dreams. 4 Steps to Create a Marriage Plan Dream...
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Episode 33- 10 Commandments for Blended Families with Joel Hawbaker
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The 10 Commandments for Blended Families In the same way Jesus summarized the law and the prophets in two great commandments, so the 10CBF can be summarized in what I call the 2 Pillars: 1. Be the adult you want your child(ren) to become. 2. Remember the Golden Rule and treat others the way you want to be treated. I. Communicate Well - Over communicate with all adults involved: choose a format/technology that works, and use it. When in doubt, communicate about it. II. Always Show Respect - Be respectful, calm, and patient with everyone involved, even if you’re the only one...
info_outlineThe Dangers of Comparison
Comparison is something we have all found ourselves doing from time to time, especially in a social media world. With just a few clicks you are bombarded with the absolute best of everyone’s seemingly perfect lives. We see “perfect” marriages, jobs, kids, spouses, and vacations, and it is easy to compare our lives to the lives of others and feel like we don’t add up in some way.
On this episode, we will break down the dangers of comparison and the problems it can bring to your marriage.
The Problems with Comparison
There are several problems with comparison let’s start with the fact that it is not an accurate measurement. I love what Dave Barringer has to say about it.
Comparison takes our deficiencies and measures them against someone else’s highlight reel.
~ Dave Barringer author of The Danger of Comparison in Marriage
There is no way you can accurately compare yourself to someone or someone’s marriage because you can not and will not ever see the whole picture of what is going on.
Another issue with comparison is it does not factor in our uniqueness. God created us and our spouses with special gifts and abilities… on purpose. He wants us to be original not a remix of someone else He made.
The Dangers of Comparison
God created each of us with a specific race to run. He gave us the gifts and abilities that we need to finish our race strong. The same is true with our spouses. When we come together as husband and wife we become one. We become the only couple just like us, and that is a beautiful thing.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us Hebrews 12:1
The danger comes because comparison does not travel alone. Comparison likes to bring his 3 friends to the party.
Discontentment
When we measure our “real” marriage against the picture-perfect marriage of others it is easy to believe that we fall short. We then start viewing everything about our marriage through the lens of discontentment.
Resentment
Once discontentment sets in resentment is soon to follow. We resent our spouses for not being like the perfect spouses we see all around us. We start making passive-aggressive comments, or straight-out blunt comments about how we wish they were like so and so.
Deception
Finally, if this discontentment and resentment are not taken care of people reach out to others. We start lying about who with are with or who we are talking to. Situations like this are how affairs and divorces happen.
In our next podcast, we are going to talk about ways to stop comparing ourselves and our marriages to others.
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