Episode 33- 10 Commandments for Blended Families with Joel Hawbaker
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
Release Date: 06/11/2024
Episode 47- Proverbs: Creating a Home God can Bless
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
For show notes check out our website: https://abeautifuladventuremarriage.com/proverbs-creating-a-home-god-can-bless/
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Episode 46- Proverbs: The Importance of Scripture with Jeff and Sherri Friedlander
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
God's Word is powerful. It has the ability to transform us from the inside out. When we allow this tranformation to happen it not only changes our lives but it changes our marriage as well. Join us for this episode as we sit down with Rabbi Jeff and Sherri Friendlander. We dive into Proverbs 3 and talk about how the Bible is "One Book, One Story" and the implications it has on our lives and marriages when read it and apply it to our lives as a couple. One Book One Story: You can connect the first ten verses of Proverbs back to the Torah and forward to the New Testament. The Bible truly...
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Episode 45- Introduction to Proverbs
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
Being willing to learn and grow is the only way to guarantee your life and marriage will thrive. People are always changing as time goes by whether they realize it or not. No one stays the same. Since change is inevitable why not be intentional about changing in positive ways as a couple? We believe the whole Bible is our road map. God gave us His Word so we could learn, grow, and become more like His Son, Yeshua (Jesus in Hebrew). Through this transformation, we can live a life that honors Him and is a light to the world. Since becoming better is our goal, Proverbs is a...
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Episode 44- Resolving Circular Arguments
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
In every marriage you will experience disagreements and arguments. However, when you find yourself having the same arguments often that’s a sign that there is an underlying issue(s). A circular argument in marriage is a repetitive pattern of conflict. In most cases both husband and wife are very emotional about whatever the issue is, because of this it is hard to find closure so the argument comes up often. There are a lot of moving parts that go into why circular arguments occur. The good news is you and your spouse can bring resolution to your particular argument. Read More:
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Episode 43-Reintroductions, Recaps, and Vision for the Future
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
We took a pause at the end of 2024, so we felt like this would be a great time to reintroduce ourselves, talk about why we created A Beautiful Adventure Marriage in the first place, catch you up on what has been going on in our lives over the last few years, and cast some vision on where we are going with in the future. Read More At: Book Links: A Time to Advance by Chuck Pierce The Messianic Churching Arising by Robert Heidler
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Episode 42- 10 Ways to Have Better Sex Part 4
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
On this episode we are wrapping up our conversation on the importance of sex in marriage. We have dove into this topic and have explored things you or your spouse could be doing to harm your sex life and ways you both can make it better. Let's look at two more tips before we go. Do Not Watch Porn Porn is extremely dangerous to a marriage. It will in no way unite you and your spouse. Porn will only cause division and other issues. For more information about the dangers of porn check out Mark Gungor. Create A Sex Bucket List Our last tip is to create a sex bucket list. Sit...
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Episode 41- 10 Ways to Have Better Sex Part 3
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
With this episode we are continuing the conversation on ways to improve your sex life. So far we have given you five ways to grow your intimacy. Spend Quality Time Together Talk About It Please and Be Pleased Don't Rely on Your Mood Don't Overlook the Quickie Let's dive into the next three. Get Creative Don’t just do the same old things in the same old places. Have sex in a different room, or a different place altogether. Roleplay and dress up. Remember we said you should talk about sex with your spouse? Ask them what one of their fantasies is, and make it a reality. There is no reason for...
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Episode 40- 10 Ways to Have Better Sex Part 2
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
God’s plan for sex in marriage is one of enduring intimacy. He created sex as a good gift to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage. Biblically it should be the married couples having the wild and amazing sex, not the single people. In our last episode, we gave you two ways to start having better sex, let’s pick back up that discussion. Please And Be Pleased Once you know what your spouse likes, do it. Sex is not about being selfish. Make your spouse and their pleasure your focus. There is something very gratifying when we stop trying to be fulfilled and focus on...
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Episode 39- 10 Ways to Have Better Sex Part 1
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
10 Ways to Have Better Sex On our last three podcasts, we discussed 10 things that could damage your intimacy with your spouse. We dealt with the problem first because if you try to fix something without dealing with the problem, you will only have a big problem in the end. In the next few episodes we will be discussing 10 things you can do to help improve your sex life. So let’s dive in. 10 Ways to Have Better Sex Spending Quality Time Together Sex should not be the only time you attempt to spend with your spouse. Find out what interests them and share that with them. Find ways to connect...
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Episode 38- Sex Life Killers Part 3
A Beautiful Adventure Marriage
Last week we gave you more things that could be damaging or even killing your sex life. Your sex life is such an important part of your marriage and should be thriving not dying. On our last two episodes we talked about... Distractions Constantly shutting down your spouse Critical Words Body Image Comparison Being Too Busy Poor Routine Let's look at a few more things that could be hindering your sex life. Getting Too Comfortable I love the fact that I am comfortable being myself in my marriage. That is one of the many facets of marriage. It is a place to be loved unconditionally, even...
info_outlineThe 10 Commandments for Blended Families
In the same way Jesus summarized the law and the prophets in two great commandments, so the 10CBF can be summarized in what I call the 2 Pillars:
1. Be the adult you want your child(ren) to become.
2. Remember the Golden Rule and treat others the way you want to be treated.
I. Communicate Well - Over communicate with all adults involved: choose a format/technology that works, and use it. When in doubt, communicate about it.
II. Always Show Respect - Be respectful, calm, and patient with everyone involved, even if
you’re the only one doing it.
III. Use Discernment - Learn to choose your battles very carefully: differentiate between
personal dislikes and ‘red flag’ issues.
IV. Give Way Graciously - Be willing to graciously give way on minor issues. Yes, this comes
with risk, but it’s still the right thing to do sometimes.
V. Choose to Believe the Best - Choose to believe the best about the other household, and be sure to celebrate and acknowledge it when you see it
VI. Express Genuine Gratitude - Be sure to show gratitude as often as possible whenever a joint agreement is reached, even on minor matters.
VII. Model Maturity and Wisdom - Remember every day that you are the adult, and your task is to model maturity and wisdom for your children. Your task is NOT to ‘win’, get revenge, or even get your own way.
VIII. Ask for Help - Get help before a frustration becomes a full-blown crisis. Ask for 3rd-party help from a counselor, pastor, neutral friend, or someone else that all parties are comfortable with.
IX. Use Discretion - Be careful about what you say to or in front of your children or others
outside your family. Work through your personal issues on your time, NOT in front of or by
involving the children.
X. Be Consistent - Be as consistent as possible at both (or all) houses in all areas of life. Also
remember that total consistency is impossible, even in traditional families.
Joel was educated at Covenant College, Joel Hawbaker is a former teacher and soccer
coach, now working in telecom sales when he’s not speaking with or coaching
blended families. He has two daughters from his first marriage, and he and his wife
Maryellyn recently celebrated their tenth anniversary. They have a toddler
daughter, and they are expecting their first son this October. The family lives in
Alabama with their two rescue dogs, Butterscotch and Bruiser. You can find more resources about blended families at...
- social media (Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, and IG:) @joelwhawbaker
- website (www.stepdadding.com)
- email: [email protected]