3-7-From Fuzzy Vision to Fresh Perspective: The Power of Focus
Release Date: 02/05/2025
3-19-From Denial to Disruption: How ACoD Can Create Healthier Relationships for Themselves
Silver Women, Bright Future
Attention Adult CHildren of Divorce (ACoD): What if your parents’ divorce—whether it happened when you were a toddler or when you had toddlers of your own—is still shaping your relationships today? In this episode, Marriage Coach Meisha Marshall opens our eyes to the hidden impact of parental divorce on adult children, and introduces her empowering new course, Divorce Cycle Disruptor. If you’ve ever wondered why you sabotage good relationships or struggle with setting boundaries, this conversation might just be your turning point. “Even if your parents’ divorce seemed...
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3-16-Gracefully Reclaiming Your Role: From Parent to Matriarch
Silver Women, Bright Future
Welcome to the final episode of my three-part mini-series, Unraveling the Silver Knot: Gray Divorce and the Family Web You’ve been the caregiver, the peacekeeper, the glue holding it all together. But now, after the divorce, everything feels… different. So where do you fit in the family now? In today’s episode, we’re talking about stepping into a new role—not as the one who holds the past, but as the woman who leads with wisdom into the future. It’s time to reclaim your voice, your influence, and your vision—as the matriarch of your own story. “A matriarch isn’t...
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3-15-Cookies and Chaos: The Grandkid Side of Gray Divorce
Silver Women, Bright Future
Welcome to episode two of my three-part mini-series, Unraveling the Silver Knot: Gray Divorce and the Family Web You didn’t plan to be single at this stage of life. You thought this season would be about downsizing, doting on the grandkids, and finally taking that trip to Tuscany—not Googling how to hang curtains solo or explaining your new mailing address to a 6-year-old. In this episode, I’m getting real about what it means to reclaim your life, rediscover your identity, and build a future that isn’t just “what’s left”—it’s what’s next. “Your grandkids...
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3-14-”Who’s Side Are You On?” And Other Questions We Don’t Want to Ask
Silver Women, Bright Future
Mini-series: Unraveling the Silver Knot: Gray Divorce and the Family Web 1/3 This episode kicks off a three-part mini-series, Unraveling the Silver Knot: Gray Divorce and the Family Web. Today, I open up about the emotional rollercoaster that can happen when your adult kids take sides after a gray divorce. Whether it’s guilt, childhood baggage, or “emotional loyalty,” their reactions can leave you wondering if you totally blew it as a parent (spoiler: you didn’t). I share relatable stories (ugly crying and all), raw emotions, and practical ways to handle the mess without making...
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3-13-Overcoming Adversity With the “EMBRACE” Framework, with Yanira Puy
Silver Women, Bright Future
We all know life doesn’t always go as planned. And sometimes, it hits us with a plot twist so brutal, we wonder if we’ll ever recover. Today’s guest, Yanira Puy, has faced more than her fair share—bulimia, career heartbreak, an unexpected divorce, and even losing her beloved Harley Davidson! But through it all, she crafted something powerful: the E.M.B.R.A.C.E. framework, a method to reclaim your emotional, mental, and physical well-being after adversity. Yanira shares the lessons she learned from her own rollercoaster journey, from realizing that food wasn’t the real...
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3-12-Letting Go Without Losing Yourself: A Mindset Shift for a Bright Future
Silver Women, Bright Future
Ever felt like your entire future just evaporated? That the life you planned was stolen from you? What if—stay with me here—you never really "lost" anything at all? What if the key to moving forward isn't clutching onto the past but realizing that releasing it puts YOU back in control? Get ready to rethink everything you thought you lost and step into the power of letting go. “Losing feels painful. Letting go feels empowering. You make the decision about what stays and what goes.” - Pat Key Takeaways For You- Learn the difference between losing something and...
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3-11-Your Story is Worth 2,700% More Than You Think
Silver Women, Bright Future
Imagine walking into a job interview, a first date, or even a casual networking event and being completely unforgettable—not because of your credentials, but because of the way you tell your story. What if the difference between being overlooked and standing out came down to a simple shift in how you communicate? In the final installment of this 3-part series, guest expert Adam Olenn reveals why storytelling isn’t just a marketing tool—it’s a life skill that can make you more persuasive, more memorable, and even more valuable. “Where your eyes go, your skis go. And...
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3-10-Rewriting Your Story: The Science of Change and Connection
Silver Women, Bright Future
Have you ever walked into a new situation—whether a business meeting, a social event, or even a date—and felt a knot of uncertainty? What if you could mentally rehearse your success before it even happens, setting yourself up for a confident, empowered outcome? In this episode, storytelling expert Adam Olenn reveals the profound impact that stories have on our minds—not just as entertainment, but as powerful tools for transformation. From brain science to behavioral economics, Adam breaks down how storytelling can shape our decisions, deepen our connections, and even trick our brains...
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3-9-The Brain Science of Storytelling: How Narratives Shape Our Lives - with Adam Olenn
Silver Women, Bright Future
Stories aren’t just entertainment; they’re the reason humans run the planet. In this thought-provoking episode, branding expert and storytelling enthusiast Adam Olenn reveals how our brains process stories as if they were real experiences—triggering emotions, reinforcing beliefs, and even helping us survive. From childhood memories of anti-smoking campaigns to lessons learned from a legendary courtroom storyteller (his dad), Adam unpacks why stories stick, how they shape our identity, and why they’re crucial when navigating major life transitions—like a grey divorce. Host Pat Fenner...
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3-8-From Terrified to Triumphant: Facing Life’s Firsts After Divorce
Silver Women, Bright Future
Fear isn’t just for skydivers and horror movie protagonists. It’s for newly single women figuring out finances, fixing cars, and—gasp—navigating Home Depot alone. But here’s the thing: every scary step you take adds another brick to the foundation of your confidence. And remember: you’re building something incredible. “Fear tells you something might be dangerous, but if you never challenge it, you’ll never know what’s on the other side.” - Pat Key Takeaways For You- How do I rebuild confidence after divorce, especially when I feel completely lost? ...
info_outlineEver bought something expensive only to realize—almost immediately—it was a huge mistake? Yeah, me too. One minute, I was upgrading my vision with fancy new glasses, the next, I was fighting off nausea like a first-time sailor. And don’t even get me started on my battle with a Bluetooth keyboard. But as ridiculous as those moments were, they taught me something big: Focus shapes everything. So let me ask you—where’s your focus right now? And is it helping or hurting you?
“Sometimes we get so focused that we don’t realize we’re the cause of our continued pain.”
- Pat
Key Takeaways For You-
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How does focus shape our emotional and mental well-being, especially after a major life change like divorce?
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What are the dangers of staying stuck in the past, and how can we shift toward a more empowering perspective?
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What’s the difference between healthy optimism and toxic positivity, and how can we find a balance?
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How can simple daily practices—like gratitude and intentional focus—help us move forward after difficult seasons?
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Why is it important to regularly assess where we’re directing our attention, and how can we do that effectively?
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
📖 Book – Rebuilding Your Life After a Grey Divorce: A Path to Healing, Significance, and Joy → https://amzn.to/4jO9Mm4
💬 SpeakPipe – Have a story of overcoming struggle? Share it with me—I’d love to highlight your journey in a future episode! → https://www.speakpipe.com/PatFenner
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