Silver Women, Bright Future

The Silver Women, Bright Future podcast provides support, encouragement, and tips for mature women who have been around the block a few times, have a wealth of experiences, and are facing their "2nd act" after a silver or grey divorce. We need and want to be equipped and empowered to deal with whatever life has in store! If you've ever asked any of these questions, this show is for YOU! * How do I move forward after a divorce after the age of 50? * What strategies can help me rebuild my social life? * How do I deal with loneliness and isolation? * How can I cope with the emotional aftermath of divorce? * What are some self-care strategies that can help during this transition? * How can I support my adult children through this change? * What are my housing options post-divorce? * How do I redefine my identity and find purpose after divorce?

3-19-From Denial to Disruption: How ACoD Can Create Healthier Relationships for Themselves 04/30/2025

3-19-From Denial to Disruption: How ACoD Can Create Healthier Relationships for Themselves Attention Adult CHildren of Divorce (ACoD): What if your parents’ divorce—whether it happened when you were a toddler or when you had toddlers of your own—is still shaping your relationships today? In this episode, Marriage Coach Meisha Marshall opens our eyes to the hidden impact of parental divorce on adult children, and introduces her empowering new course, Divorce Cycle Disruptor. If you’ve ever wondered why you sabotage good relationships or struggle with setting boundaries, this conversation might just be your turning point. “Even if your parents’ divorce seemed amicable or ‘a long time ago,’ it still shaped how you love, argue, and connect.” — Meisha Marshall Listen in for answers to these questions, and more: How does my parents’ divorce still affect me now, even as an adult? What is the “divorce cycle,” and how can I break it in my own relationships? Why do I keep repeating the same relationship patterns, even when I try not to? How can I help my adult children process my gray divorce? What does healthy communication look like in a marriage? Meisha shares the heart behind her new course, Divorce Cycle Disruptor, and walks us through how unresolved family dynamics can echo into our marriages, parenting, and personal growth. With humor, clarity, and heartfelt wisdom, they unpack what it means to stop repeating unhealthy relationship cycles—and how to finally chart your own path forward. Whether you're single, married, or divorced, this episode is an invitation to rewrite the story you've inherited. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Learn more about the Divorce Cycle Disrupter - with a free call to Meisha! - 💬 SpeakPipe – How has this series helped you begin to craft a brighter future for yourself? Leave me a message and tell me about it!→ /episode/index/show/c9cadb01-4b74-41bb-83fb-ce54e6159426/id/36370960

3-16-Gracefully Reclaiming Your Role: From Parent to Matriarch 04/09/2025

3-15-Cookies and Chaos: The Grandkid Side of Gray Divorce 04/02/2025

3-14-”Who’s Side Are You On?” And Other Questions We Don’t Want to Ask 03/26/2025

3-13-Overcoming Adversity With the “EMBRACE” Framework, with Yanira Puy 03/19/2025

3-13-Overcoming Adversity With the “EMBRACE” Framework, with Yanira Puy We all know life doesn’t always go as planned. And sometimes, it hits us with a plot twist so brutal, we wonder if we’ll ever recover. Today’s guest, Yanira Puy, has faced more than her fair share—bulimia, career heartbreak, an unexpected divorce, and even losing her beloved Harley Davidson! But through it all, she crafted something powerful: the E.M.B.R.A.C.E. framework, a method to reclaim your emotional, mental, and physical well-being after adversity. Yanira shares the lessons she learned from her own rollercoaster journey, from realizing that food wasn’t the real issue in her eating disorder to redefining success beyond a six-figure salary. She explains why emotions only last 90 seconds (seriously!), how gratitude and connection play a role in healing, and why your brain can be rewired for happiness—no matter how old you are. So if you’ve ever found yourself staring at life’s wreckage and wondering what’s next, this episode is for you. Because as Yanira Puy proves, the best chapters often start with the hardest endings. “You have to let go of who you were before. It’s like being born…there’s a tearing, a breaking, a cutting of the cord. It’s uncomfortable, maybe even painful, but it’s necessary. You can’t step into the next chapter of your life while clinging to the last one.” - Yanira Puy Questions discussed in this episode - How does emotional healing play a role in physical wellness? What is the E.M.B.R.A.C.E. framework, and how can it help people going through difficult life transitions? Why do we often define ourselves by our careers or relationships, and how can we shift that mindset? How can understanding “primary food” versus “secondary food” change the way we think about self-care? What practical steps can someone take when facing major adversity, such as a divorce or career setback? About My Guest: Yanira Puy has helped thousands of people with her coaching practice, online programs and classes, webinars, workshops, conferences, blogs, articles, and her podcast. After working for 20 years in major corporations in Latin America and the United States, Yanira pivoted her career path to help individuals become healthier and happier. She is a certified wellness coach and brain health trainer, with a master ́s degree in health coaching, and the founder of Yanira Puy Health & Wellness. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Yanira Puy’s FREE E.M.B.R.A.C.E. Transition Toolkit—a step-by-step guide to turning uncertainty into empowerment: Yanira’s website: 💬 SpeakPipe – How has this series helped you begin to craft a brighter future for yourself? Leave me a message and tell me about it!→ /episode/index/show/c9cadb01-4b74-41bb-83fb-ce54e6159426/id/35730935

3-12-Letting Go Without Losing Yourself: A Mindset Shift for a Bright Future 03/12/2025

3-12-Letting Go Without Losing Yourself: A Mindset Shift for a Bright Future Ever felt like your entire future just evaporated? That the life you planned was stolen from you? What if—stay with me here—you never really "lost" anything at all? What if the key to moving forward isn't clutching onto the past but realizing that releasing it puts YOU back in control? Get ready to rethink everything you thought you lost and step into the power of letting go. “Losing feels painful. Letting go feels empowering. You make the decision about what stays and what goes.” - Pat Key Takeaways For You- Learn the difference between losing something and letting it go, and why it matters Discover how changing your mindset after divorce can help you rebuild your future with confidence Understand the biggest signs that you’re still emotionally stuck and not truly moving forward Explore why gratitude is such a powerful tool in healing from past relationships How embracing the unknown after divorce can actually become an exciting, empowering experience Drawing from personal experience, I explore the difference between losing something and consciously letting it go; how releasing old dreams and expectations can create space for new opportunities, joy, and even financial independence. With a mix of wisdom, warmth, and humor, I explain how to know if you’re truly letting go or just stuck in the past, the surprising role of gratitude in healing, and why learning to love yourself is non-negotiable. Whether you’re freshly divorced or still carrying baggage from 15 years ago, this episode will challenge and encourage you to embrace the future waiting for you. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 📖 Book – Rebuilding Your Life After a Grey Divorce: A Path to Healing, Significance, and Joy → 💬 SpeakPipe – Have a story of overcoming struggle? Share it with me—I’d love to highlight your journey in a future episode! → /episode/index/show/c9cadb01-4b74-41bb-83fb-ce54e6159426/id/35660285

3-11-Your Story is Worth 2,700% More Than You Think 03/05/2025

3-11-Your Story is Worth 2,700% More Than You Think Imagine walking into a job interview, a first date, or even a casual networking event and being completely unforgettable—not because of your credentials, but because of the way you tell your story. What if the difference between being overlooked and standing out came down to a simple shift in how you communicate? In the final installment of this 3-part series, guest expert Adam Olenn reveals why storytelling isn’t just a marketing tool—it’s a life skill that can make you more persuasive, more memorable, and even more valuable. “Where your eyes go, your skis go. And that’s a rule for life.” - Adam Olenn Key Takeaways For You- How can storytelling make you more memorable in your business and personal life? Why does the way you tell your story impact your relationships? What’s the science behind why people remember stories better than facts? How can storytelling help divorced women reframe their narratives and move forward? What is the connection between branding, self-perception, and the stories we tell ourselves? Your story holds power. If a simple, made-up anecdote can increase an object’s value by thousands of percent, imagine what your real, authentic story can do for your life and career. What story are you telling the world? About My Guest: In over 25 years of creative leadership in branding and marketing, Adam Olenn has discovered that the oldest form of connection, communication, and persuasion is also the most powerful—great stories. With robust support from neuroscientists, psychologists, and behavioral economists, he shows audiences why that is—and how to use it to their advantage. Research by experts like Stanford neurosurgeon Dr. Jim Doty and MIT senior lecturer Dr. Tara Swart Bieber points to a powerful way to harness storytelling for personal transformation that lasts. Adam has garnered rave reviews from audiences from Boston to Borneo and is on a mission to empower as many people as possible to become compelling, connection-building storytellers. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Rustle & Spark – Adam Olenn’s branding and storytelling agency: 📌 💬 SpeakPipe – How has this series helped you begin to craft a brighter future for yourself? Leave me a message and tell me about it!→ /episode/index/show/c9cadb01-4b74-41bb-83fb-ce54e6159426/id/35548650

3-10-Rewriting Your Story: The Science of Change and Connection 02/26/2025

3-10-Rewriting Your Story: The Science of Change and Connection Have you ever walked into a new situation—whether a business meeting, a social event, or even a date—and felt a knot of uncertainty? What if you could mentally rehearse your success before it even happens, setting yourself up for a confident, empowered outcome? In this episode, storytelling expert Adam Olenn reveals the profound impact that stories have on our minds—not just as entertainment, but as powerful tools for transformation. From brain science to behavioral economics, Adam breaks down how storytelling can shape our decisions, deepen our connections, and even trick our brains into success. If you’ve ever wanted to control the narrative of your own life, this is the episode that will show you how. Because the truth is—you're not just living a story. You’re writing it. “You're the author of your own reality. If you don’t like the story, start writing a new one.” - Adam Olenn Key Takeaways For You- How does storytelling literally synchronize our brains and build stronger connections? What is the ‘availability heuristic,’ and how can it help you shape your personal brand? How can story journaling help you overcome fear, make better decisions, and feel more confident? What are the best ways to turn boring small talk into meaningful conversations? How can mental rehearsal help you navigate life’s big changes, from divorce to business networking? This episode is the second of a three-part series, so be sure to listen in for even deeper insights into how storytelling can transform your life. And don’t forget—the stories you tell yourself shape the future you create! About My Guest: In over 25 years of creative leadership in branding and marketing, Adam Olenn has discovered that the oldest form of connection, communication, and persuasion is also the most powerful—great stories. With robust support from neuroscientists, psychologists, and behavioral economists, he shows audiences why that is—and how to use it to their advantage. Research by experts like Stanford neurosurgeon Dr. Jim Doty and MIT senior lecturer Dr. Tara Swart Bieber points to a powerful way to harness storytelling for personal transformation that lasts. Adam has garnered rave reviews from audiences from Boston to Borneo and is on a mission to empower as many people as possible to become compelling, connection-building storytellers. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Rustle & Spark – Adam Olenn’s branding and storytelling agency: 📖 Book – by Jim Doty – Neuroscience-backed insights on mental rehearsal and visualization. 📖 Book – Atomic Habits by James Clear – A guide to creating lasting habits through small, intentional changes. 💬 SpeakPipe – Are you trying any of these strategies? Adam and I would love to hear about your experiences!! → https://www.speakpipe.com/PatFenner /episode/index/show/c9cadb01-4b74-41bb-83fb-ce54e6159426/id/35442215

3-9-The Brain Science of Storytelling: How Narratives Shape Our Lives - with Adam Olenn 02/19/2025

3-9-The Brain Science of Storytelling: How Narratives Shape Our Lives - with Adam Olenn Stories aren’t just entertainment; they’re the reason humans run the planet. In this thought-provoking episode, branding expert and storytelling enthusiast Adam Olenn reveals how our brains process stories as if they were real experiences—triggering emotions, reinforcing beliefs, and even helping us survive. From childhood memories of anti-smoking campaigns to lessons learned from a legendary courtroom storyteller (his dad), Adam unpacks why stories stick, how they shape our identity, and why they’re crucial when navigating major life transitions—like a grey divorce. Host Pat Fenner brings warmth, humor, and her own reflections on the power of personal narratives, making this an episode full of insight, laughter, and some serious "aha" moments. If you've ever felt trapped by your past or struggled to embrace change, this conversation will inspire you to rewrite your own story with purpose and confidence. “Sharing stories is one of the fastest, most efficient ways to rebuild connection and belonging after a major life change.” - Adam Olenn Key Takeaways For You- Why is storytelling a fundamental human survival skill? How do our brains process stories, and why do they feel so real? What role do stories play in personal reinvention, especially after a grey divorce? How can we change the stories we tell ourselves to create a brighter future? Why does sharing stories help us build new relationships and overcome loneliness? This episode is the first of a three-part series, so be sure to listen in for even deeper insights into how storytelling can transform your life. And don’t forget—the stories you tell yourself shape the future you create! Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Rustle & Spark – Adam Olenn’s branding and storytelling agency: Research on Storytelling & Neuroscience – Studies from Stanford, Harvard, and Brookings Institution (links forthcoming) /episode/index/show/c9cadb01-4b74-41bb-83fb-ce54e6159426/id/35318220

3-8-From Terrified to Triumphant: Facing Life’s Firsts After Divorce 02/13/2025

3-7-From Fuzzy Vision to Fresh Perspective: The Power of Focus 02/05/2025

3-6 Winds of Change: Navigating the Divorce Season, Part Two 01/29/2025

3-6 Winds of Change: Navigating the Divorce Season, Part Two What if the season of divorce—something you never anticipated—could be the starting point for a stronger, more vibrant version of yourself? In this episode, we wrap up our two-part discussion on navigating divorce season, focusing on actionable strategies that will help you move forward with clarity, resilience, and hope. From prioritizing rest and mental clarity to making crucial legal decisions and stepping into new communities, this conversation is a lifeline for anyone caught in the storm of an unexpected separation. Pat Fenner shares hard-earned wisdom, practical tools, and a powerful perspective shift that will leave you feeling empowered rather than defeated. If your world feels like it’s crumbling, know this—there’s a way through, and on the other side, a life filled with possibility awaits. “You’re not just surviving this season—you have the power to rebuild a life that excites you.” - Pat Key Takeaways For You- Prioritize Your Well-Being – Divorce is emotionally and physically draining. Protect your mental health by getting enough rest, limiting social media exposure, and using simple techniques like deep breathing and word-focus exercises to calm anxiety. Seek the Right Support – Professional guidance, from both a therapist and a lawyer, is essential. Friends and family can offer comfort, but objective experts will help you make sound decisions and avoid costly mistakes. Step Into Your Next Chapter with Confidence – Isolation may feel easier, but connection is key to healing. Engage in social activities, try new experiences, and embrace this season as an opportunity to rediscover your strengths and passions. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 📖 Book – Rebuilding Your Life After a Grey Divorce: A Path to Healing, Significance, and Joy → https://amzn.to/4jO9Mm4 💬 SpeakPipe – Leave a message sharing which strategy resonated with you → https://www.speakpipe.com/PatFenner 📧 Sign Up for Updates – Get a free chapter of the book → https://www.patfenner.me/rebuild-your-life-waitlist /episode/index/show/c9cadb01-4b74-41bb-83fb-ce54e6159426/id/35174895

3-5 Winds of Change: Navigating the Divorce Season, Part One 01/22/2025

3-5 Winds of Change: Navigating the Divorce Season, Part One Have you ever felt trapped between the hope of a fresh start and the fear of an uncertain future? January isn’t just the start of a new year—it’s also the peak of what legal experts call "divorce season." The aftermath of the holidays often brings clarity, pushing many to make life-altering decisions about their marriages. But is leaving really the answer, or is there still a path to healing? In this episode, we break down the emotional, financial, and psychological realities of divorce—before, during, and after the process. Whether you're contemplating a split, struggling with the fallout, or desperately seeking clarity, this conversation will challenge your perspective and give you the tools to navigate the hardest choice of your life. Because the truth is, divorce isn’t just an ending—it’s a beginning, and how you approach it will define what comes next. “While the holidays might bring temporary peace, the stark reality of unresolved issues often leads to decisions that can reshape lives in the new year.” - Pat Key Takeaways For You- Understanding Divorce Season Dynamics: Gain an in-depth understanding of why the first quarter of the year, known as the 'divorce season,' sees a spike in divorce filings. From the financial reset offered by a new year to the emotional aftermath of the holidays, discover the complex factors that lead many to reevaluate their relationships. Analytical vs. Emotional Decision-Making: Explore the importance of balancing emotional responses with analytical thinking when considering significant life changes. I discuss how making a list of pros and cons can provide clarity and help you approach such a major decision with a clear mind, avoiding impulse actions based on temporary emotions. Navigating Post-Divorce Challenges: Discover some often-overlooked consequences of divorce. This insight helps set realistic expectations for what life post-divorce can look like, emphasizing the need for a support system and professional guidance. Would you like more information about the exercises or strategies mentioned in the episode? and be the first to get the deets about my new book: “Rebuilding Your Life After A Gray Divorce: A Path to Healing, Joy, and Significance” available soon. Leave a message for me here: Podcast Production by /episode/index/show/c9cadb01-4b74-41bb-83fb-ce54e6159426/id/35100935

3-4 Moving Forward THIS Year! 01/16/2025

3-3 Divorce and Adult Children: Navigating the Holidays 12/04/2024

3-2 Gratitude as a Tool for Transformation 11/27/2024

3-1 Be Gentle with Yourself: Overcoming Self-Criticism 11/20/2024

7 - Why You Shouldn't Employ a Business Coach 02/21/2024

6 - Courage Requires Love - 5 Steps to Moving Forward in Business, Relationships, and Life 02/14/2024

5 - When You’re Stuck in Bed: 5 Effective Ways to Prevent Your Attitude From A Downward Spiral 02/07/2024

5 - When You’re Stuck in Bed: 5 Effective Ways to Prevent Your Attitude From A Downward Spiral When you're feeling sick and stuck in bed, maintaining a positive attitude can be particularly challenging, but it's crucial for both your mental and physical recovery. Here are several effective ways to prevent your attitude from spiraling negatively under these circumstances: Focus on What You Can Control: Concentrate on small, manageable tasks you can accomplish, like setting daily goals for hydration, completing a puzzle, or even organizing your bedside space. This helps shift your focus from frustration over your illness to achievements you can control. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation: Engaging in mindfulness practices or meditation can help calm your mind, reduce stress, and promote a more positive outlook. Even simple deep-breathing exercises can be powerful tools to help manage anxiety and frustration associated with being bedridden. Stay Connected with Loved Ones: Social connections are vital for mental health, especially when you're isolated. Use technology to stay in touch with friends and family through calls, video chats, or social media. Sharing your feelings and experiences can provide emotional support and reduce feelings of loneliness. Engage in Positive Distraction: Find activities that you enjoy and can do from bed, such as reading, listening to music, podcasting, or watching uplifting movies or series. These positive distractions can help keep your mind off your illness and contribute to a more optimistic outlook. Set a Routine: Establishing a daily routine can provide a sense of normalcy and purpose. Even simple structure like regular meal times, setting aside specific times for reading or other activities, and a bedtime routine can make a big difference in how you feel both mentally and physically. Practice Gratitude: Keep a gratitude journal or simply reflect on things you're grateful for each day. Focusing on positive aspects of your life can shift your mindset from negativity and help you recognize the good, even in challenging times. Please hit that subscribe button and leave a review - thanks so much! Keep in touch: On my website - Instagram - Facebook - /episode/index/show/c9cadb01-4b74-41bb-83fb-ce54e6159426/id/30068788