When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Release Date: 07/10/2025
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Sometimes sex feels like love or chemistry but that is not the only kind of intimacy there is. But you might get caught in a cycle where you are leading with sex to get a connection and in the end not finding the right partner for you. And then, you might shut down and be nervous about showing your flirty, sexy side after being hurt. In Episode 402 of The Charisma Quotient, “When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy” Kimmy does a live coaching session with Nicolle, a vibrant and self-assured woman who has embraced her sexuality for years,...
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info_outlineSometimes sex feels like love or chemistry but that is not the only kind of intimacy there is. But you might get caught in a cycle where you are leading with sex to get a connection and in the end not finding the right partner for you. And then, you might shut down and be nervous about showing your flirty, sexy side after being hurt. In Episode 402 of The Charisma Quotient, “When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy” Kimmy does a live coaching session with Nicolle, a vibrant and self-assured woman who has embraced her sexuality for years, brings a unique perspective to the conversation.
After years of leading with sex and enjoying pleasure for her own sake—not for love—Nicolle finds herself in a new chapter. She’s now seeking a meaningful relationship but feels unprepared when it comes to the art of dating and emotional pacing. Nicolle candidly shares her experiences: from disappointing app dates and challenges around being truly seen as a plus-size woman, to her struggles with playfulness and letting her sensual, flirty nature shine without fear of being objectified.
Kimmy and Nicolle dive deep into the balance of maintaining a sexy, playful energy while also requiring potential partners to earn intimacy and trust. Kimmy offers practical strategies—like finding your conscious tribe, practicing self-focused dating, and building authentic emotional intimacy—as she reflects on reclaiming her sense of self.
You’ll hear:
- Why so many women confuse sex with love—and how childhood experiences shape this belief
- Body image realities: what it’s really like dating as a plus-size woman who feels sexy, but battles internalized doubts
- Real-world app dating struggles—and the differences between authentic connection and transactional “hookup culture”
- The importance of expressing your emotions instead of always describing or interviewing, and how this shift makes you magnetic
If you relate to some of Nicolle’s story and feel confused about how to safely show your sexy side, come to Kimmy’s next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process. You’ll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet. Go to www.stophatingdating.com to register now.
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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life.
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