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What Actually Makes a Great Friend

The Chase Jarvis LIVE Show

Release Date: 12/31/2025

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Hey friends, Chase here

This episode is short and direct — and it’s built around a question I think most of us care about more than we admit: what actually makes a great friend?
Friendship is often treated as something casual. Easy. Automatic. But as life gets fuller — work, family, responsibility, distraction — the quality of our friendships can quietly slip into something surface-level. Not because we don’t care, but because we stop being intentional about how we show up.
What I’ve learned is that great friendships aren’t defined by history or proximity. They’re defined by behavior.
Being a great friend isn’t about always having the right words or fixing someone’s problems. It’s about presence. Courage. And a willingness to show up in ways that actually matter — even when it’s uncomfortable.
Here’s the core idea:
Great friendships aren’t built on convenience — they’re built on intention.
That intention shows up in a few specific ways. In the courage to be vulnerable instead of polished. In choosing shared growth over staying comfortable. And in offering real, actionable support instead of vague good intentions.
One of the biggest differences between casual friends and lifelong ones is the kinds of conversations you’re willing to have — and the kinds of moments you’re willing to share. Depth doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when someone goes first.
This episode is about closing that gap. About turning “let me know if you need anything” into actually showing up. About asking better questions. About becoming the kind of friend you’d want to have in your own corner.
In today’s episode I cover:

  • Why vulnerability is the foundation of real friendship
  • How shared growth experiences deepen connection
  • What it looks like to offer meaningful, specific support

If you’ve been thinking about the people who matter most in your life, this episode is an invitation — not to do more, but to show up differently. And to remember that the strongest friendships are built through small, intentional acts done consistently over time.

Until next time, show up with intention — and be the kind of friend you’d want in your own corner.