779: How to Stop Fear From Controlling You
Release Date: 09/25/2026
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info_outlineFear has a way of making future events feel like they’re happening right now. What if I fail? What if I embarrass myself? What if people judge me?
In this episode, Dr. Cindra Kamphoff shares a simple reminder: future events aren’t reality. She explains how fear can influence our decisions, why confidence doesn’t require being fearless, and three ways to keep fear from controlling your next move.
You’ll learn how to catch the “what ifs,” return your attention to the present, and “do it afraid” by taking courageous action even when fear is still there.
Power phrase: “I can feel fear and still move forward.”
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