Ep 147: How to Advocate for Police Families After a Traumatic Brain Injury
Release Date: 09/27/2024
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Every holiday season, law enforcement families feel the pressure to give the perfect gift. But what if the gifts that matter most cannot be wrapped? In this episode of the Code4Couples Podcast, Cyndi Doyle shares five relationship gifts that truly support law enforcement couples, especially during stressful seasons and into the new year. These are not trendy ideas or quick fixes. They are foundational practices that strengthen connection, resilience, and emotional safety at home. Drawing from personal experience as a police spouse, clinical work with first responder couples, and years of...
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Ep 172: When Doing Your Job Hurts: Understanding Moral Injury in First Responders
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Ep 171: When Trauma Doesn't Stay Boxed Up
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info_outlineTrauma-informed relationships matter most when everything falls apart. In this episode, Joan shares how a traumatic brain injury reshaped her marriage, their finances, and the entire path to rebuilding stability.
In this powerful continuation of Joan VandeGreig’s story, you’ll learn:
• What really happens inside a police family when a head injury goes undiagnosed for months
• How chronic pain, confusion, and cumulative trauma strain a marriage
• The financial reality behind workers’ comp denials and stalled disability claims
• Why police disability retirement is rarely straightforward
• How Joan pieced together income, benefits, and resources to protect her family
• What every law enforcement spouse should understand before a crisis hits
I’m Cyndi Doyle, licensed professional counselor supervisor, founder of Code4Couples®, and author of Hold the Line. I help law enforcement couples stay connected and resilient through the unique stressors of the job.
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00:00 Why Joan’s story matters for police families
01:00 When the injury changed everything
03:00 The long road to seizure awareness and medical clarity
04:30 Early signs, confusion, and emotional strain
06:00 The hidden financial dangers no one prepares you for
08:00 Workers’ comp denials and delayed diagnoses
10:00 Mounting credit card debt and survival mode
12:00 Fit-for-duty complications
14:30 When the system doesn’t talk to itself
16:00 Marriage impact: chronic pain and daily episodes
18:00 The medical maze of treatments, meds, and specialists
21:00 Rebuilding income after forced early retirement
24:00 The turning point: new diagnoses, new barriers
28:00 “Your brain is worth $45,000?”
30:00 The fight for disability, retirement, and benefits
33:00 What finally worked — and why
36:00 Living benefits, policies, and long-term planning
39:00 The PSOB journey and what families must know
42:00 The TLC Method explained
45:00 How Fetch Your Wealth helps first responder families
48:00 Final thoughts and resources for police couples