Ep 172: When Doing Your Job Hurts: Understanding Moral Injury in First Responders
Release Date: 11/13/2025
Ep 172: When Doing Your Job Hurts: Understanding Moral Injury in First Responders
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You can do everything right, follow the rules, and still carry a call that won’t leave you alone. That’s moral injury. For first responders, trauma isn’t always about what you witness. Sometimes it’s about what you couldn’t do. Ashley Brockman, former paramedic and now counselor, shared her story of being stuck on a 9-1-1 call she couldn’t leave even as another call came over the radio for a child in cardiac arrest just two blocks away. Due to laws in Texas, leaving her first call would have been classified as patient abandonment. She followed the rules, did her job...
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Ep 171: When Trauma Doesn't Stay Boxed Up
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Police officers are trained to put their emotions in a box. Compartmentalization in policing is often what gets them through one more shift, one more crime scene, one more tragedy, and what keeps them safe. What happens when that box tips over? For many law enforcement officers and their families, it takes one personal crisis for every hidden nightmare to come rushing back. In this conversation with Detective Jody Thompson, his wife’s near-death experience during childbirth was the breaking point that brought years of law enforcement trauma crashing to the surface. His story is a...
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Ep 170: Alcohol and First Responder Culture
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Alcohol has long been embedded in first responder culture. From “choir practice” after shifts to bonding at happy hour, drinking can feel like part of the job. But for many officers, firefighters, and their spouses, what starts as social connection can quietly become a coping mechanism for trauma, stress, and the constant adrenaline rush of the job. When alcohol moves from the sidelines to center stage, the impact ripples far beyond the individual. It affects families, marriages, and entire departments. Joe Rizzuti, retired police officer and founder of First Responder Wellness of...
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Ep 169: Raising Strong Kids: Resilience Strategies for Law Enforcement Families
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When an officer serves, the entire family serves. In police families, stress doesn’t stop at the end of a shift; it echoes through the home, shaping the way spouses and children experience daily life. While much attention is given to officer wellness, the resilience of the whole family, especially children, is equally important. For children growing up in police families, safety and unpredictability often live side by side. They notice details that many of their peers overlook, such as locked doors, tense body language, or whether mom or dad seems on edge after a shift. This...
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Ep 168: Heart Disease in Law Enforcement
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Most cops worry about the dangers they face on duty, but few realize the biggest threat might come long after the uniform is hung up. Heart disease is taking our officers too soon, and in many cases, they never saw it coming. Research has shown that law enforcement officers live, on average, 20 years less than civilians. The two leading causes of death are suicide and heart disease. What makes cardiac issues particularly alarming is the age at which they strike. In the civilian population, the average heart attack happens at 65. For officers, it’s closer to 46, and that number keeps...
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Ep 167: Parenting Through the Impact of Law Enforcement on Kids
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When a parent wears the badge, the job doesn’t stay at work; it shapes family life, especially for children. Law enforcement kids grow up with unique stressors: unpredictable schedules, stories about crime and tragedy that spill over into conversations at home, and the tension of knowing their parents face real risks on the job. Even if they aren’t directly in danger, children often feel the weight of it, whether it’s overhearing talk about a violent call, sensing worry when their parents don’t check in, seeing incidents on social media or watching the news cover an incident involving...
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Ep 166: 9 Ways First Responder Couples Can Apologize and Repair Conflict
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If you’ve ever heard or said “I’m sorry, but…” you know how empty that apology feels. “Sorry” often gets tossed out as a quick fix to end the argument, not to heal the hurt. The problem is that those shallow apologies don’t repair anything. They pile up, leaving cracks in trust that get harder to ignore. For many first responder couples, conflict starts to feel like a battle to win instead of a wound to heal. Law enforcement officers, in particular, are trained with a survival mindset: “you win, you go home.” But when that belief crosses into marriage, it turns your...
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Ep 165: Increasing Resilience in Police and Emergency Personnel: Strengthening Your Mental Armor
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If you’re in law enforcement, you already know the job changes you, mentally, physically, emotionally, and relationally. What most people don’t realize is that those changes often pile up slowly, until something breaks down, sleep, relationships, health, or your outlook on the job. That’s exactly why Dr. Stephanie Conn wrote Increasing Resilience in Police and Emergency Personnel: Strengthening Your Mental Armor and why the second edition is more than just a refresh. It’s a timely, research-driven update that meets today’s law enforcement culture head-on, with realistic...
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Ep 164: The Challenges Women Face Behind the Badge
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Women in law enforcement face a unique set of challenges that often go unspoken, misunderstood, or minimized, both inside the department and at home. Monica Crawford is a former police officer, a law enforcement spouse, the author of Thriving Inside the Thin Blue Line, and the powerhouse behind Five-O Fierce and Fit. Her mission is to assist women in law enforcement reclaim their strength, mentally, physically, and emotionally and thrive inside the very culture that too often asks them to shrink. Today, we discuss the differences in the female law...
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Ep 163: Finding Balance in Law Enforcement Relationships
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What Law Enforcement Families Need to Know About Real Work-Life Balance When we talk about balance in law enforcement life, it often sounds like a personal issue, something you're expected to figure out quietly, in between overtime shifts and missed family dinners. The reality is balance isn't just about time management or stress reduction. It's about alignment between your job and your values, your needs and your partner’s, your role as a first responder and your role at home. And according to Elizabeth Ecklund, firefighter, nurse, social worker-in-training, and Antarctica-deployed...
info_outlineYou can do everything right, follow the rules, and still carry a call that won’t leave you alone. That’s moral injury.
For first responders, trauma isn’t always about what you witness. Sometimes it’s about what you couldn’t do.
Ashley Brockman, former paramedic and now counselor, shared her story of being stuck on a 9-1-1 call she couldn’t leave even as another call came over the radio for a child in cardiac arrest just two blocks away. Due to laws in Texas, leaving her first call would have been classified as patient abandonment. She followed the rules, did her job by the book, and yet years later, that moment still haunted her.
That’s what moral injury looks like. It’s not a broken policy or a bad call; it’s the inner conflict when what you had to do doesn’t align with what you believe is right. And unlike physical wounds, moral injury doesn’t show up on an X-ray. It shows up as guilt, shame, cynicism, emotional exhaustion, or burnout.
Professional Counselor The Woodlands | Mental Health
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