3679 What If You're Not Number One?
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Being married is a challenge in itself. You must wake up every morning ready to say "I do" today. Love is a verb and requires you to choose daily. But what if you're not number one to your spouse? Life has cycles and seasons. Some are good and some are bad. But most are lived without intention unless it's required of you. We put out the fires of others, and the seasons prompt us to shift accordingly. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Life isn't supposed to be fair, but when it comes to your marriage, most hope they are number one and a...
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3678 There Are No Shortcuts
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In life, we think that if we cut through the grass, we'll get to the other side faster. But when it comes to raising kids, there are no shortcuts. You have to be in the long game to get to the other side. Each step, each stumble, each small victory, all contribute to the complex tapestry of nurturing and guiding young minds towards adulthood. You want them to be productive adults ready to impact the world they touch. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . In the face of societal pressures and the looming presence of technology, the challenges...
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3677 Stillness Is Strength
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Everyone needs a moment where they have permission to slow down in order to speed up. Our lives are consumed by busyness, and much is missed every day because of our lack of presence. Stillness is strength. We live in a world that glorifies busyness and constant movement; the concept of stillness is often overlooked. Living in a society where being busy is worn as a badge of honor and taking a moment to pause and breathe is seen as a luxury, it's vital to pay attention to what is really missing. We fail to realize that in the midst of our chaos, it is in stillness that true strength is found....
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3676 Keep It Sweet
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Living a healthy lifestyle is often associated with restrictions, rules, and sacrifices, but it doesn't have to be that way. When your days are full of stress, self-doubt, and overwhelm, keep it sweet. It's essential to shift the focus from what you can't have to what you can do. Healthy living can be simple and sweet if approached with the right mindset. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Unfortunately, we don't always have the luxury of simple and sweet. We complicate everything. In my opinion, we are so busy that we can't see what's...
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3675 Rock Your Block
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In a world where comparison is at the tip of our fingers, it's easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing. The endless scroll of social media feeds and the pressure to keep up with the Joneses can make it challenging to focus on our own desires for change. Time to rock your block! The key question we should be asking ourselves is: What can I control? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Your block, your home, your backyard - these are the spaces where you have the ultimate power to make changes that align with your goals and...
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3674 When the Lie is No Longer the Truth
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Do you find yourself stuck in a rut, going through the motions day in and day out, all the while believing in a reality you've created for yourself? It's a common trap to fall into, but what happens when the lie is no longer the truth? This is the moment where the transformation meets opportunity. You get a chance to change your life with the choice you make. And that makes room for you to create your now. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Living life on autopilot can lead to a sense of stagnation and dissatisfaction. If you wake up every day...
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3673 This. Changes. Everything.
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In the midst of life's trials and tribulations, Easter offers a welcome respite from our everyday routines, reminding us that Jesus has risen. He is risen, He is risen indeed. This. Changes. Everything. This brings hope and renewal to all who believe and to those who question. When Jesus was on the cross, He was not alone. He bore the weight of the world's sins, offering redemption and salvation to all who seek Him. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Scripture tells us in Matthew 28:6, "He is not here; he has risen, just as he said. Come and...
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3672 The Fresh and New Has Come
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With Easter and Spring, what a great time to be reminded that marriages don't have to feel old and worn out. You can have a vibrant marriage because the fresh and new has come. It is super easy to be lazy in our marriages. We cling to old habits and pastimes, attempting to maintain the peace because it's too much work otherwise. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The kids have us running all over the place, regardless of whether they are living with us or not. I have a good friend who schedules her time with her only daughter once...
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3671 From Confession to Connection
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Parents don't like being mean, but it is our responsibility to train up our children where they are to go. Therefore, as a parent, how do you walk the fine line from confession to connection? Because one of the toughest things we must do is bridge that gap. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . We need to find the happy medium that allows our children to face the truth in their lives so they can grow and be transformed into who they are becoming. And that takes work! It's not something you just wake up to with all the tools in...
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3670 Walk in the Light
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In the midst of life's storms and challenges, it can be all too easy to feel overwhelmed, unseen, and unheard. The weight of turmoil and uncertainty can cast shadows. But there is hope when you walk in the light. Because in the darkness, a guiding light is always waiting to lead us back to safety and solace, the comfort that can only be given by our heavenly Father. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . As we navigate the trials and tribulations of our daily lives, it's essential to remember that we are never truly alone. There is a presence that...
info_outlineBeing married is a challenge in itself. You must wake up every morning ready to say "I do" today. Love is a verb and requires you to choose daily. But what if you're not number one to your spouse?
Life has cycles and seasons. Some are good and some are bad. But most are lived without intention unless it's required of you.
We put out the fires of others, and the seasons prompt us to shift accordingly.
Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com
Life isn't supposed to be fair, but when it comes to your marriage, most hope they are number one and a priority.
However, let's be real. There are those times when you can't be number one. And you've gotta remember that it goes both ways.
When life presents challenges and responsibilities, it's easy to lose sight of each other's needs and priorities. Plus,it may not be so much that your spouse doesn't care, but more so the responsibilities in the season.
Consider the birth of a new child, building or changing your career, medical diagnoses, extended family situations, and the child's various stages of life. There are many variations of what can become a priority or a necessity to "make it through" difficult circumstances, but that doesn't mean your spouse, or even you, doesn't love you.
But in reality, that's just what you feel. And it's important to honor and recognize those feelings; however, don't hang out with them in a manner that can foster bitterness and begin the downward spiral in your marriage.
If you find yourself experiencing a lack of priority from your spouse, or maybe you are not prioritizing your spouse, then take a moment to intentionally turn things around.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Turn things around!
That's what you have to remember: you have a choice to make a decision about how you show up every day in your marriage.
If you want to navigate these treacherous waters in your marriage, hang on, because you can turn things around.
Here are three actionable steps to help turn things around when you're not feeling like you're number one in your spouse's life:
1. Love Language Exploration: Discover each other's love languages and actively incorporate them into your daily interactions. Whether it's acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, or receiving gifts, understanding and catering to each other's love language can deepen emotional connections and reignite intimacy. The book by Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages, is a great resource.
2. Adventure Together: Step out of your comfort zone and try new experiences together. Whether it's exploring a new hobby, embarking on a spontaneous road trip, or taking a cooking class, shared adventures can create lasting memories and strengthen the bond between partners.
3. Gratitude Practice: Cultivate a habit of gratitude within your relationship. Take time each day to express appreciation for each other's efforts, qualities, and presence in your life. A gratitude journal, daily affirmations, or simply verbal expressions of thankfulness can foster a sense of mutual respect and admiration.
4. Couples Counseling: Consider seeking the guidance of a professional couples therapist to navigate through challenges and improve communication. Therapy sessions can provide a safe space for both partners to express their feelings, work through conflicts, and gain valuable insights into improving the relationship dynamics.
5. Physical Touch Rituals: Create rituals of physical touch that foster intimacy and connection. Whether it's holding hands during evening walks, cuddling before bed, or sharing regular hugs throughout the day, physical touch can communicate love and support non-verbally, strengthening the emotional bond between partners.
6. Surprise Gestures: Surprise your partner with thoughtful gestures that show your love and appreciation. It could be leaving a heartfelt note in their bag, preparing their favorite meal, or organizing a surprise date night. Small acts of kindness and thoughtfulness can make your partner feel valued and cherished.
7. Shared Goals and Dreams: Align your visions for the future and set shared goals as a couple. Whether it's planning a travel adventure, saving for a common financial goal, or pursuing a joint passion project, working together towards a shared vision can foster a sense of unity and purpose in your relationship.
8. Mindfulness Practice: Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine as a couple. Whether it's meditating together, practicing deep breathing exercises, or simply being present in the moment during shared activities like eating dinner together, mindfulness can enhance emotional awareness, reduce stress, and improve communication within the relationship.
Be creative in your marriage by approaching life's challenges in innovative ways. Think outside the box and do what works for you all as a couple and as a family. You can make it through these, what feels like, obtrusive seasons in your marriage, so long as you are intentional, kind, and serve with forgiveness.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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