3982 The Walls of Comparison
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
We build walls around ourselves, thinking they’re shields—to keep others out, to guard our weaknesses and doubts. But what happens when walls don't protect you, the walls of comparison that keep you locked in? When a dream or goal demands stepping outside your comfort zone, you face more than fear or uncertainty. You face the trap of comparison. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . We can peer at what everyone else is doing and forget what we alone bring to the table. Our gifts, talents, and unique value get left behind because we’re too...
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3981 Seek the Lord
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Too much of our lives are spent running our own race—scaling mountains, crossing rugged terrains we've never faced before—chasing after answers and strength as if we must do it all alone. We push ourselves to find solutions, to prove our worth, to reach the other side on our own terms. But what if you were to seek the Lord? What if the breakthrough isn’t found in our striving or in the distant horizon? What if the source of hope and peace is much closer than we realize? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Isaiah 55:6 reminds...
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3980 Love with Tethered Hearts
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Discomfort in a relationship is often seen as a warning sign or a problem to be avoided. But what if those uncomfortable moments, like disagreements, frustrations, and misunderstandings, are actually the very gateways to a deeper connection and more rewarding marriage? Strip away the noise and love with tethered hearts. When you strip away the noise of everyday life and the tiny irritations that pull you apart, what remains is an opportunity: a chance to grow side by side, tethered heart to heart. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Most...
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3979 How to Win Your Parenting Conversations
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Parenting isn’t about having the loudest voice in the room or the last word every time. It’s about precision, strategy, and understanding how every move impacts the next. You may be the expert, but be careful how you share the wisdom. Whether you want to admit it or not, you can learn how to win your parenting conversations better. In honor of the Olympics, I want you to think of your parenting conversations like the sport of Curling—where every stone you throw changes the "game," and success isn’t guaranteed just because you have the advantage. Desire to be supported and encouraged by...
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3978 Gain a Heart of Wisdom
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In the rush of modern life, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. So much of our energy flows toward chasing someone else’s dream, trying to fit into others’ expectations, or simply surviving the relentless pace of day-to-day routines. Consider the timeless words from Psalm 90:12 ~ “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” What does it mean to number our days? It’s not some grim countdown or morbid fixation. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s an invitation to live each day with...
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3977 Plant Your Patience
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In the relentless rush of daily life, it’s easy to feel like we’re sprinting on a treadmill set to max speed, chasing the next goal, the next move, the next achievement—only to end up overwhelmed, exhausted, and stuck in a loop of what we didn’t get done. That constant hurry doesn’t just steal time; it steals clarity, joy, and the chance to grow something meaningful. What if, instead of rushing, you plant your patience? What if you slowed down, dug deep, and gave yourself the permission to nurture progress with care—not speed? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other...
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3976 Come Back to Center
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
There’s no shortage of promises out there, like tools, trends, gurus, and hacks, where each one claims they can flip your life upside down or side-step you straight to success. But just because something is out there flashing like a neon sign does not mean you should use it, follow it, or whatever with it. It's not necessarily meant for you. However, the real power lies in peeling back all that noise and coming back to what is true; come back to center. This isn’t about swallowing the half-truths that momentarily trick you into thinking you know what’s next or forcing yourself into a...
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3975 The Power of Silence
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Our lives are flooded with noise—incessant messages screaming for attention, endless notifications begging for a glance, countless demands pulling us in every direction. It’s no wonder we feel confused and disoriented, overwhelmed by the mass of distractions that invade even a single hour. Take a moment and absorb the power of silence. Now it's hard to be still in silence. Think about how many alerts, emails, texts, and tasks are stacking up in that tiny slice of time? Usually, we bite off more than we can chew—and then get choked up by the pressure of what’s next. Desire to be...
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3974 Love On Purpose
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Valentine’s weekend invites us to think about love—the kind that fills our hearts and shapes our relationships. But far too often, we get stuck in the world’s limited view of love: conditional, transactional, and filtered through our own failures and insecurities. God’s love, however, breaks every mold. His love is unconditional, relentless, and sees beyond our flaws. And then, He calls us to love others the same way. Love on purpose. Yet as we know, it’s easy to judge others based on our own shortcomings. We carry unhealed wounds, past hurts, and false beliefs about how people...
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3973 The Sweetness that Melts the Heart
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When you hear “sweetness” in love, your mind probably jumps straight to chocolates, flowers, and sparkly gifts. That’s the story commercials love to tell us—the more you spend, the brighter your love shines. But the sweetness that melts the heart isn’t wrapped in paper or tagged with a price. It’s something far rarer, deeper, and more powerful. The real sweetness comes from that raw, vulnerable place inside—the one that says, “I see you. I choose you. I cherish what’s only ours.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s...
info_outlineWe build walls around ourselves, thinking they’re shields—to keep others out, to guard our weaknesses and doubts. But what happens when walls don't protect you, the walls of comparison that keep you locked in?
When a dream or goal demands stepping outside your comfort zone, you face more than fear or uncertainty. You face the trap of comparison.
Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com
We can peer at what everyone else is doing and forget what we alone bring to the table. Our gifts, talents, and unique value get left behind because we’re too busy measuring ourselves against shadows, not our own path.
Why do we get so stuck on what others are doing?
More than we admit, it’s a way to dodge accountability. When you’re locked into looking at someone else’s scorecards, you can blame your own stall on “not being as lucky” or “not having as many resources.” It’s a built-in excuse, a safety net woven from envy and doubt.
Who locks the doors from the inside and throws away the key?
Those who aren’t satisfied with their own direction. So they focus elsewhere, and when they don’t succeed, the excuse is already waiting. Worse yet, they start modeling their own attempts on someone else’s timeline—never realizing that by watching others too closely, they’ve given up their own shot.
Are you ready to stop giving up? Then unlock your walls of comparison.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Unlock your walls of comparison!
Breaking Free: 3 Moves To Unlock Your Walls of Comparison
1. Zero in on Your Own Scorecard.
Forget everyone else’s stats, timelines, or "success hacks." What does progress look like for you? And be specific with your thoughts. Be sure to celebrate the smaller wins, too, because they become your real markers.
Example: Instead of scrolling through Instagram comparing your life to others’, jot down three ways you’ve moved forward today. Own that momentum.
2. Reframe Envy into Inspiration, not Imitation.
When you catch yourself thinking, “They have it all, and I don’t,” pause and ask: What specifically inspires me here? What purpose does this serve? Use that to fuel your own creativity, not direct you toward copying someone else’s path.
Example: Admire a competitor’s marketing style? Take what works for you, but add your own voice and perspective. A bold tweak beats a bland copy every time.
3. Embrace the Discomfort of being “a little nervous.”
Nervousness means growth; uncertainty means you are stepping up. Sit with that feeling instead of retreating into comparison, which masquerades as safety but only leaves you stagnant.
Example: If you’re scared to pitch your offer to a client, do it anyway. The actions that scare you are often the ones that propel you forward.
What Can We Learn From the Winter Olympics?
Take a look at the 2026 Winter Olympics. The USA Men’s Hockey Team had not won a Gold medal for 46 years. For nearly five decades, they had more silver and near misses than victories. If they had stayed stuck replaying every loss, every past failure, they would never have broken through.
But they didn’t! They stayed focused on each game, the day, and the goal—not the ghosts of past performance or the looming shadow of their opponent. And when it mattered most, the USA beat Canada 2-1 in overtime.
Now, you might be thinking, what does this have to do with me? What's the real lesson?
If athletes locked themselves inside the walls of comparison, they would never make history. Your life works the same way. You either stay imprisoned by what others have done—or you push forward, no matter the fear.
Be Honest with Yourself
Look honestly at your own walls of comparison. Are they holding you captive? Or are you willing to be a little nervous, shift your focus inward, and move beyond standing still?
Change isn’t comfortable. But comfort zones never made an Olympic Gold medalist. They made you locked inside a prison you built yourself. So tear down those walls of comparison and let your light shine!
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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