428- 30 Years Disconnected in Marriage, Now Deeply Connected: Adam's Transformation Story
Delight Your Marriage
We all know that marriage is a blessing from God. And when a marriage spans decades - ten, twenty, thirty years- we often stand in awe and amazement at that accomplishment. However, there are times when those thirty years privately have been disconnected and painful and becoming empty nesters resulted in feeling like even less than roommates. But, what if they found a program that changed it all and brought a deeper peace, connection, and unity to their marriage than they’ve had in three decades? That is Adam’s Transformation Story. From being disconnected and treating...
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427-Healthy Conflict, Peaceful Life: Interview with Donna Jones
Delight Your Marriage
Have you ever been in a place where a conflict has absolutely consumed you? Whether you're grocery shopping or with friends, that conflict is just circling over and over in your mind. Maybe you find yourself wondering how you even got there in the first place? And even more so, how to get out of that place? Well, author and speaker Donna Jones is here today to talk about just that. In her new book “Healthy Conflict, Peaceful Life: a Biblical guide to Communicating Thoughts, Feelings, and Opinions with Grace, Truth, and Zero Regret”, Donna walks us through how to handle conflict with...
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Intimacy Accessories Free Training
Delight Your Marriage
Delightyourmarriage.com/accessories Free training to gain insights, Christian how-tos and practical tips as well as specific recommended (non-scary) intimacy accessories. I hope this blesses you!
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426-Sinful v. Holy Fierce Intimacy
Delight Your Marriage
I was confused. There I was a new bride, having saved myself for marriage... only to find out that my new husband wanted me to do SINFUL things. Where did he get all this "inspiration" anyway? Oh, I knew: sinful places. So, of course, I refused. And of course, it brought mutual anger (covering each of our hurt). What's your story? If it's even remotely like mine, I needed to change the lens in which I was viewing sex. I wasn't viewing sex from a biblical standpoint. I was viewing sex from a sexually perverted lens. (Even though I saved my sex for...
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425-Infidelity to "Too Good to be True": Bethany's Transformation Story
Delight Your Marriage
Bethany felt like her marriage was a lost cause. She knew that she and her husband were called to be together, but after years of serving in church ministry, three kids, and infidelity, Bethany and her husband began questioning their promise of “no divorce” and began considering separation. She knew she needed help. She was desperate. She searched for a Christian answer and found Delight Your Marriage. After listening to the podcast and the testimonies, she felt unsure because the testimonies felt too hard to believe. “God couldn’t do that for me, could he?” But she...
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424-Freedom from Shame (Good Friday)
Delight Your Marriage
Maybe you've done something wrong... Maybe there's a deep discomfort that you keep trying to avoid... Maybe you feel if you let yourself be with yourself quietly, the shame will swallow you whole... The guilt and shame you feel may be justified. And that is exactly why we need a sacrifice that allows us to live in confidence and freedom, peace and joy in life. As followers of Jesus, we don't have confidence that "we're good enough" because of some baseless affirmation. We have a strong foundation of reason as to why we have confidence. The truth is, on our...
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423-Don't Give Up, Your Suffering Matters
Delight Your Marriage
Maybe you're in the midst of a really tough season. It feels like you're alone and barely keeping your head above water. Marriage woes can be the most stressful aspect of a person's life. I want to encourage you that your suffering matters. I was walking through a museum with my son the other day, and a painting depicted a martyr who was tortured for his faith. It was a moment that helped me reflect on the importance of my suffering every day. If a moment like that occurred, where I would have to make a choice between Jesus and comfort... I...
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422-Compassion Fatigue. Interview with Kevin Bueltmann
Delight Your Marriage
If you're a pastor or are shepherded by a pastor, it is important to know that the work of the pastor is hard and can have a deep impact on the leader of such work. In this episode, we explore the emotional and psychological cost of deeply caring for others. In today's episode, we delve into compassion fatigue, its causes, and the impact it has on individuals in helping professions. Here's what you'll learn: What is compassion fatigue and how does it differ from burnout? Professions most susceptible to compassion fatigue. Warning signs and symptoms to watch out for. ...
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363-Take Responsibility, Change & THAT Creates Real Intimacy. Mick's Transformation Story (Rerelease)
Delight Your Marriage
I pulled out a fan-favorite episode to share today! If you haven't heard it, you don't want to miss this story. It'll encourage you. -- Mick is a dynamic, charismatic, but also a tell-it-straight kinda guy. When his marriage was shallow in terms of connection, emotionally and intimately, he jumped at an opportunity that he discerned understood him as a man and also had a proven track record for change. After taking responsibility, the MAIN change was his heart. He shares some particulars on why that was so vital in the outward changes of his marriage. But, he began to realize who God...
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421-Be Your Spouse's Servant
Delight Your Marriage
Maybe you don't really understand what "servant" means in relation to your spouse. Let's explore that together on our podcast today. Be your spouse's servant. That's Jesus' way. If we believe what He said, this should not offend us but teach us how to live. Mark 10:45: "For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve..." Matthew 20:26b-28 "whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave— just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve," Matthew 23:11-12: "The...
info_outline"We're just so different."
"We have nothing in common."
"Our personalities are not compatible."
This is a big problem in marriages.
People notice differences and assume it's a bad thing.
This is understandable...but very wrong.
God, in His amazing creativity, designed your spouse and you differently.
He also made a deer look differently than an alligator. He made a duck's personality differently than an anaconda's. He made the octopus loners, but curious, and the ant disciplined, but incredibly collaborative.
Why do we assume and expect God to make two humans alike?
Especially when the two sexes are SO different in many other ways (hair growth, voice pitch, hip width...to name a few!)
You're different from your spouse and it's to be marveled at as God's handiwork (Ephesians 3).
And, HE knit your spouse together (Psalms 139).
You GET to appreciate their uncommon traits. Not scowl and be annoyed at how unusual they are.
This is GOD's creativity that YOU get to enjoy if you have the right perspective.
That's my invitation today.
Put on new glasses when you look at your spouse. The glasses of appreciating their uniqueness and idiosyncrasies and make that something that fills you with joy and respectful amusement and admiration.
Love,
Belah
PS Do you want help developing healthy mindsets like this? We can help and we invite you to schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc.
Client Testimonial:
Before Delighted Wife:
“Coming into the program initially, things between us were very bad. We could not speak to each other at all and we felt pretty hopeless. Our home was constantly full of tension and negativity. My husband was singling out our son and taking his frustrations out on him.”
After Delighted Wife:
“My biggest celebration is my shift in mindset and being able to see the good in my husband once again. Even for a long time while I was in the program, I was convinced that if my husband would "do something," things would improve. I did not realize how much I contributed to the discord in our marriage. I didn't realize how hard my heart was or how much healing needed to take place.
It has changed everything! If I were to take the marital health assessment, I think our score would still be a low number, but we are the happiest we have ever been and I am going to focus on that and on making tomorrow better than today.”