Wives, Here is How To Trust Your Husband Again
Delight Your Marriage
Trust is an essential part of the foundation in your marriage, but what happens when that foundation cracks—or even shatters? Maybe you’ve been hurt by the person you thought would always protect your heart. Perhaps betrayal, harsh words, or neglect have left you questioning everything. Can trust ever be rebuilt? Should you even try? If you’ve found yourself asking these questions, you’re not alone. Broken trust can feel overwhelming, leaving you guarded, uncertain, and even hopeless. But this doesn’t have to be the end of your story. There is hope for healing, even in...
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464-New Year Disciplines for Confidence and Faith
Delight Your Marriage
How do you plan to step into this year with confidence and faith? The new year often brings a whirlwind of resolutions and lofty goals. Perhaps you’ve felt that familiar pull—“I’m going to do more of this,” “I’ll cut back on that,” or “This year, I’ll completely turn things around.” But maybe that’s not where you are right now. Maybe, instead of a burst of motivation, you feel unmotivated, stuck, or unsure. What if what you’re missing isn’t motivation, but faith? Faith that God is with you. Faith that He has a plan. Faith that, in Him, you can walk with a new sense...
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463-Reflect and Refocus: Renewed Vision for 2025
Delight Your Marriage
How do you step into a new year with purpose? Life can feel like a constant rush, can’t it? Maybe you’re juggling tasks right now, trying to get it all done before the clock strikes midnight on December 31st. But as we prepare to turn the page on this year, what if we paused? What if we took a moment to breathe deeply, to reflect, and to realign with what truly matters? Believe it or not, you have done a lot of good this past year. Yes, there may be places where you have slipped up or there were hard lessons to learn, but look at the good. And look at the good God has done in...
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462-Fall in LIKE with Your Spouse Again
Delight Your Marriage
Do you remember what it was like falling in “like” with your spouse? What was it that originally drew you to them? Maybe it was their humor, kindness, or how they made you feel seen and appreciated. Over time, it's easy for that “like” to fade. Instead, criticism, judgment, or even indifference creeps in. But imagine being in your spouse’s shoes—everything they say and do, examined under a magnifying glass, critiqued and picked apart. That kind of scrutiny doesn’t help them thrive. And nothing wounds deeper than feeling that the person you chose, the one closest...
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461-Isolation Wasn't the Answer that Healed Him. Pat's Transformation Story
Delight Your Marriage
Change is possible. We are honored to be able to share Pat’s story with you today. After years of therapy and struggling with a porn addiction, Pat felt hopeless. He had done all he knew to do, yet there was still a hole in his heart—and in his marriage. But Pat decided to take a courageous step of faith. After years of being a listener to the podcast, he made the call, and through the Masculinity Reclaimed program, he finally found what he had been searching for: true community and lasting change. Surrounded by other men who were pursuing God and committed to loving their wives well, Pat...
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460-A Wife's Holy Privilege
Delight Your Marriage
How do you prioritize your life? This episode is for our lovely wives in the audience. Dear wives, life can feel like a never-ending whirlwind. Maybe right now you’re juggling errands, picking up your kids, or running around doing everything for everyone else. It’s easy to get caught up in all the demands, isn’t it? But let’s pause for a moment and think about what God has asked us to prioritize. When Jesus was asked about the greatest commandment, His response was crystal clear: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is...
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459-Socially Unskilled But Now Connected: Stu’s Transformation Story
Delight Your Marriage
It’s so easy to feel the disconnect in your marriage and wonder if things can ever truly align. Stu’s story is a beautiful reminder that transformation is possible. Stu grew up feeling socially awkward and unsure about the purpose of marriage. After marrying his wonderful wife Linda and after 20 years of marriage, he still found himself asking, “How do I understand her?” and “How do I connect with her?” He described their relationship as feeling like “misaligned velcro.” But instead of staying stuck, Stu decided to take a step of faith. Through the Delight Your Marriage...
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458-Why Doesn't She Want Sex: Drop The Expectations
Delight Your Marriage
Let’s set the scene- You’ve planned the perfect evening. A Friday night—date night. You and your wife are dressed to the nines. There’s a show, a fantastic dinner, and deep conversation that reconnects your hearts. But then you arrive back home… What are you hoping will happen next? Here’s the truth: that unspoken hope—your expectation—might be doing more harm than you realize. When a husband subconsciously expects intimacy, it can feel like pressure to his wife. And that pressure? It makes her withdraw. Intimacy begins to feel transactional—like something she owes you, a...
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457 - Why Doesn't She Want Sex: The Basics
Delight Your Marriage
We know that intimacy is an integral part of married life. But what happens when that intimacy… isn’t happening? You’ve tried to explain, you’ve tried to give your point of view, you’ve even tried to give pointers, and still… nothing. What can you do? At Delight Your Marriage, we have developed a framework for what men and women need in order to feel loved and thrive in their marriages and, in turn, move towards intimacy. When these things are missing from a marriage, it can often cause bitterness, resentment, and can lead to months, even years, of lack of...
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456-Don't Give Up (my husband joins me :)) [Re-Release]
Delight Your Marriage
We are so glad to be able to share a re-release episode with you this week! My husband, Dario, joins us again and he, as always, has some words of encouragement for you. We hope this episode does indeed encourage you and bless you! ------------- Nov. 11, 2021 Don’t give up. My goal today is to encourage you. You’re doing a really good job. Just by tuning in, you’re winning. You’re seeking to love your spouse well, even when it doesn’t look like it matters. You’re seeking to do God’s will in the midst of your circumstances. My husband is on the show today because...
info_outlineConsider this: you might be more like Paul than you realize. Yes, Paul—the apostle whose praises were so powerful they shook prison walls, and who found joy even in his suffering. What could you possibly have in common with him?
Well, Paul had a thorn in his side. A persistent struggle that he begged God to remove. I’m willing to bet there’s a thorn in your side too—something you’ve desperately asked God to take away. Whether it’s sexual sin, pride, greed, jealousy, or anger, this thorn is your personal struggle.
I am here to tell you: Embrace the thorn in your side. This might sound counterintuitive, but in your weakness, God’s strength is made perfect. The thorn is there for a reason. God has given it to you to keep you humble, to remind you that you’re not in control of everything, and to draw you closer to Him.
How do folks often respond to their (God-given) thorns?
Disassociate. Disown. Disregard.
Disassociating yourself from these struggles—especially the deep ones like hidden addictions—can be perilous.
Essentially, if you do not embrace your thorn, it is the enemy's playground to attack you in the same way again... and again... and again... to the destruction of all those you love and the reputation of the gospel that you represent to others.
We are urging you, bring these struggles into the light. Seek accountability, find support, and create a plan. On the good days it's easier to make that plan and structure to support you on the hard days that you know will come... because you've embraced the thorn that is God's gift which keeps you humble.
Important: Perfection isn’t required- 80% of a plan is enough to start making meaningful progress. The point is to start. Remember when you perceive the negative pattern in your history, it's time to take action so you can prevent things going downhill... for when you are weak, then you are strong.
This week, I encourage you to identify your thorn (start with one, we likely all have many! I certainly do), confront it, confess it to God, repent and confess it to safe people. Then, know that He forgives you and makes a way of escape for the future so you can truly truly walk in the humility that comes through the gift of this thorn... because His grace IS sufficient for you.
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you are interested in learning more about our program, maybe even getting that accountability in your life, we would love to talk to you. Check out delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS - I am excited to share with you a resource that I believe will be of value for your marital intimacy!
A group of pro-marriage / intimacy experts have gotten together and are doing a sex seminar. These are folks that believe marriage is right and good but they are not necessarily Bible-believing Christians.
Amongst really valuable and wise content, there will likely be perspectives represented that I don’t 100% agree with.
I encourage you (as always) to seek discernment from God to gain the good insights that may be in this event and leave what may not be helpful to you.
Keep eternity in mind: at the end of it all we want to hear from God “well done.” We want it to be true that we loved the spouse we were given with a servant heart and according to His Word.
I hope you gain wonderful encouragement and practical ideas to love your spouse well through intimacy!
Here are the links-
2024 Sex Seminar: https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/discount/DYM24?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fsex-seminar-2024
Sex Seminar Bundle (all 5 years):
https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/discount/DYMBUNDLE24?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fsex-seminar-bundle-2024
PPPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
"After 8 years of marriage, we had both grown complacent in investing in each other… I have long struggled with pornography and I tend to be a bit of a workaholic while my wife has been at home with our kids for 15 years. It seems we took every one of those opportunities to create distance in our relationship… [Now], I'm taking ownership. This is my home. This is my marriage. She is my wife. Ours is a union blessed by God. In taking my roles as husband, father, help mate more seriously, my whole family has begun to benefit. The man's role is not to simply coexist, but to lead the marriage and family. I can make a difference in the family by leading to and with God.”